having both parents walk me down the aisle?

Question

My mother and father divorced 5 years ago, my mom and I have an extremely close relationship and I am who I am today because of her. I feel it only fitting that she should give me away.

My father and I have never been close, he is a very quiet and reserved man and we have never understood each other. Not to say we don't have a good relationship - we do- but we do not talk very often and have never been very close. Yet I do not want to take this moment away from him, and really do want him to walk me down the aisle as well.

Is it odd to have both escort me?

Does it matter that they are divorced and my mother is just recently remarried? They are civil to each other-get along better now than when they were married!

What are your opinions or suggestions on this? Thanks!

my sister is my maid of honor, thanks for the input so far.

I saw on 'A wedding story' on TLC where a bride was walked by both parents, and they said "who gives this women away" and they say "her mother and I do" or "her family and I do" or "her father and I do" etc.

Answer 1

I feel exactly the same way!! I'm having both of them walk me down the aisle. I don't think it will look odd at all considering brides walk themselves down the aisle and at Jewish weddings both parents walk the bride down.
Go for it! If your parents are civil, even better.

Answer 2

It is a Jewish tradition to have both parents walk you down the aisle so it will not look strange at all. It's your day. You do what makes you feel right, not what others expect. My groom was escorted down the aisle by both his parents (Jewish tradition even though he isn't). My parents escorted me 90% of the way down the aisle. Then my fiance came over, shook my father's hand and kissed my mother on the cheek. My parents took their place under the chuppa (canopy) and my fiance escorted me to the rest of the way down the aisle. There was no question of "Who gives this bride away?".

Answer 3

I've seen this done plenty of times! I'm also doing this for my wedding in two weeks! There is no way I could choose only one parent to walk me down. I am an only child, and close to both.
So no, it's not "weird" to have both parents walk you down the aisle.

Answer 4

My cousin and my friend did it.... but my only problem with it was in both places the aisle wasn't big enough so it looked very sloppy and clumsy. Just make sure aisle is big enough and your not all squeezing down it.

I am having my father give me away- walk down the aisle but my mother will stand for the who gives this bride away. My aisle is super small in my church.

Answer 5

Your mom's outfit will no longer outshine you. that's in basic terms no longer gooing to take place. All that folk would be conscious is how wonderful you seem and how proud your mothers and dads are. i could no longer inform you what any make certain of the bride/groom grew to become into donning at any wedding ceremony i've got ever been to -- it extremely is using the fact i grew to become into staring on the bride's face and the groom's face -- that 2nd of anticipation and excitement is lots brighter than something that a guy or woman could be donning. As a pragmatic remember -- why issue approximately it? in case you have bridesmaids in something different than dark outfits, they're going to technically be greater colourful than you. yet have you ever seen a bridal celebration outshine the bride, whether they have been donning pink or pink? Nope -- it extremely is using the fact no person cares -- they're staring on the couple. base line, your mom will seem wonderful, and that i promise, promise, promise, you will in no way ever be apologetic approximately having your mom share this 2nd with you.

Answer 6

I am not close with my biological dad either but I am close with my step dad for about 12 years now. I have the same relationship with my real dad as you do but I am angry at him for not being there for me. I asked my mom and my step dad to walk me down the aisle. I guess its ok. There shouldnt be a problem especially if they are getting along now better than ever. Only difference with me is My mom and biological father do NOT get along!

Good Luck!

Answer 7

Nope, not odd. It's actually a Jewish tradition. They are both your parents, and if you would like to include both, I'm sure they would both be touched. Run it by your dad first... they get a little sensitive with this kind of thing. Like when I told my dad that he was not going to *give* me away, but escort me to the altar (I'm perfectly capable of giving myself away, thank you very much), he was not exactly happy for a couple days. The minister asked "Who presents the bride for marriage?", and my parents both answered "We do". Then... I asked the minister to ask the same of the groom's parents.

Answer 8

It's your wedding--there are no rules or laws about how a wedding should be conducted, so feel free to have both of them walk you down the aisle if it's what makes you happy.

Answer 9

I think its a good choice. This day is about you, so even if they werent civil with one another... they should put everything aside for you. But since they are civil I beleieve its the best choice.

Im having my brother walk me down the aisle because I have always felt closest to him, you just do what feels best to you on your special day.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

Walk between them and have the response be something like, "Her family does" or eliminate the question of giving entirely, if you can or want to. I wrote our entire wedding ceremony from scratch and loved it! The most important thing to remember about planning your wedding is to do what is important to you - don't worry about what's "in fashion" or worse, "what will people think if I..." It's your day and if they're small enough to criticize a decision you make, consider whether they need an invitation! :)