I hate being heart broken but that seems to be the order of the day in a relationship what can I do?

Question

what should I do to avoi getting heart broken in th relatioship am in?

Answer 1

I don't understand what this has to do with health and dieting. But I'll try to help.

Some people- not just guys- are really hurtful sorts, very cruel to the people that actually care about them. And sometimes heartbreak is impossible to avoid.

But don't wallow in it: It's bad for you, and gives the other person ultimate victory over you. You don't want that. Grieve for a while if you must, then pick up and move on. Show the other person that you are the stronger one.

Good luck.

Answer 2

When you are building a relationship, and the trust within it, you have to set ground rules. One is being frank, open and honest. Another, you need to be true to yourself and to the other that you are having a relationship with. And, you must communicate this expectation of the other. "If you aren't comfortable with our relationship, for any reason, you need to be upfront about it."--you have to get to a point to understand there are things and people that you need to let go of...to move on.

Obviously, this doesn't guarantee not getting a broken heart...I'm sorry. But, I have found this to be the best preventative. We must extend our trust and love to people, if we, in turn, want to be trusted and loved.

You need to start thinking about the qualities that you like in people---accept that people are not perfect, but decide what things you would live with (the person being a little brusk) and what you will not (the person doesn't take a shower for days, and then asserts they want to be intimate--infidelity).

Above all, love and be true to youself--the rest usually follows.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Rule One: You teach people how to treat you.
If you put up with something, it's likely to happen again.
I've been the nice girl who was forgiving, and felt abused.
I've been the one who was put up with, shall we say, and no amount of guilt helped me fix the way I got annoyed and angry when I shouldn't have.
This is REAL life, not "the way it should be".
I'm sorry for you, because I was once in your shoes...
and yet, once you learn this reality, you'll be SO much better off, there won't be anything to feel sorry about!
Good luck.

Answer 4

Put the person you're with first in your life. They'll see that & will do the same for you. You can't MAKE someone treat you well, but if you treat them well, chances are they'll do the same.