I think my boyfriends cheating...what do you think?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for about a year. I found a pair of womens underwear in his drawer that aren't mine. Am I to as sume they are old or is that a sign he's cheating? I can't help wondering why he would keep them and I never noticed them before. Is he cheating and should I say something to him?

Answer 1

Put them around the rear view mirror of the car and wait for a reaction. Youll know if he is cheating pretty quick.

Answer 2

You say it's an on again off again thing. You haven't been together continuously for a year, just sometimes and sometimes not. When you aren't there, he's got someone else. No relationship he has with you at any point is going to be considered serious. You are there when he doesn't have someone else. Or you keep leaving and he keeps finding someone else. Stay with him, or leave him. Don't go back and forth. When you're going back and forth, don't get mad because he has a few girls on the side, of course he does, he never knows when you'll be in the picture or out of it. Guys don't think like girls do, they don't just get rid of everything when they break up with someone. He may not even know those are in there. They could be a year old. He's a guy, he's not a girl, don't expect him to act like one. Guys don't get angry and destroy everything they have belonging to an ex when they break up. They just don't think that way.

Answer 3

Don't say anything yet..because if he IS cheating, he'll be sure to cover his tracks extremely well. Observe his behaviour for a few weeks and see if you notice anything else suspicious. If there are no other signs, then they're probably just a souvenir from a former fling. Bring it up in a humorous way, like, "Say, I found your undies...I didn't know you were into cross dressing!" and see what he says about it.

If you do see other signs of cheating, then you'll have a chance to collect evidence so you have a solid case when you confront him with it.

Answer 4

If you've never seen them before, he may be cheating. Just come 2 him and ask him where, when and why he has another women's underwear. If he stutters, and says something like, "it's not what it looks like", then he IS cheating!!!!!!!!!!!! If they were old or from an old girlfriend, he would've or should've gotten rid of them.

Answer 5

I don't know if he's cheating. But def tell him and ask him y are their girls undies n ur dresser. Say is there something u should be telling me, play it off like a joke as if u think he lvoes to dress n girls clothes and c what he says. Then ask him if he's cheating.????

Answer 6

you should have had just asked him about what you saw in his drawer,.....it wouldn't hurt,...feelings of each other's partner should be taken care of,.you should tell him..and he'll explain,..if he's cheating on you,.you'll know by time,...but what if he just loves collecting panties??,.does that make him a cheater?,.1 nyt stands could be forgivable i guess,.its up to you if you should be so hysteric about this or what,....peace men,...^^

Answer 7

Say something about it - but don't be all hostile, and just watch his reaction. You would know where to go with that from there.

Answer 8

LEAVE HIM ALONE!THAT IS THE BIGGEST SIGN YOU CAN FIND FOR A CHEATING MAN.DUMP HIM.AND DONT GO BACK TO HIM.

Answer 9

communication makes a relationship stronger, if i were you i would ask him anything, if he denies you cant do anything but dont act as if your judging, theyll be pissed, ask in a nice way and if he will be pissed still that would mean his guilty...

Answer 10

if you feel he's cheating, he's cheating. nothing is stronger than a woman's intuition