My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year, and we completely love eachother...religion is not an issue in our relationship, we accept eachothers beliefs. Problem is...his parents. His parents have never said anything to my face but I can just tell they have a huge problem with me; they even told my boyfriend that they hope he won't be getting serious with me due to the fact that i'm not Jewish. I want his parents to like me and accept me, but i don't think they ever will.
2007-06-13 03:43:52 · 13 answers · asked by Jessica L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is just one of those things that they will probably never get over. I think once they get to know you really well and see what a great person you are they will be able to look past it but never really accept it. If you guys were to ever get married then you can have a ceremony with both traditions in it. If it doesn't bother your boyfriend then I think his parents will gradually see how much he loves you and look past all of the nonsense. -- Hope I helped -- Chels<3
2007-06-13 03:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, this is a very hard situation!! You have to talk to him really and ask him if he can support you once you are married or whether is would be too hard for him to do so, which is probably the truthful answer. Parents are a very important part of a person's life and although you are adults and can do what you want, I am sure you don't want this cloud hanging on top of your relationship. Now that you are in love it is easy to take but later day in day out it will eat at you and you will suffer!!You have to think of your future children together too and how that will effect them. Good luck, I hope this will get resolved!
2007-06-13 10:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by piano19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being raised from a place where nobody cares about your religion, I'm still shocked people put so much emphasis on it. Technically no single religion can be proven, so everyone has a 50% chance of being right.
But I digress. I don't think there's anything YOU can say. Your boyfriend will have to be the one talking. People tend to listen better when the speaker is one of their own.
You both believe in God, yes? As do his parents? Doesn't God prefer that people should love each other instead of hate?
2007-06-13 10:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by internetnooborlyyarly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jewish parents will always consider you a "shiska" unless you convert to their faith, and they will continually put pressure on the boy to talk you into it, no matter what. Unless you want to totally break ties with his family and have dissension from his side, you may give it more thought in either converting or having your guy renounce judaism and become a christian, if he'd entertain it. Otherwise, you may just think of having a civil wedding, if it gets to that point.
2007-06-13 10:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shop for new parents or new religions. Prejudice isn't going away, especially since his religion calls for children being raised in the religion of the mother - at least if the mother is Jewish. How important is family to you? to him?
2007-06-13 10:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by Mike1942f 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They might not ever except you!
Remember that Christ was a Jew and you can learn allot about your religion by understanding the Jewish Faith!
Good luck and embrace the Jewish Faith because it is where Christianity came from!
2007-06-13 10:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start by just taking some classes at the shul, just to broaden your jewish knowledge,and if you feel comfortable have a talk with the Rabbi
2007-06-13 10:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by photog50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not really good with this but i can tell u if u that if u love him u got tell his parents that u do, and with time they will understand that religions doesnt make bad ppl is just a chose
2007-06-13 10:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by luis v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im jewish and my parents want me to date other jewish ppl and maybe you broken one of the laws in front of his parents and didn't know it
2007-06-13 10:53:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you value their opinion then try to reason with them.
Otherwise, dont worry about it - it is YOUR and YOUR BOYFRIENDS life.
You are a person FIRST and therefore have your own opinions etc. - you do not belong to anyone.
2007-06-13 10:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋