Will you please pray for my baby as I can not pray at this time?

Question

I can not pray. The words won't come. I'm angry at God. My beautiful 21 month old baby boy was just diagnosed autistic. He was perfect and met all his milestones and he was so happy. Every day I thanked God for this blessing. Then it all changed. He lost his vocabulary. Stopped responding to his name. Stares at wheels on toy cars all day and lines up shoes all day and has lots of tantrums. Bangs his head and rocks. I got through my husbands cancer and losing everything financially and starting over. I still prayed and kept thanking God for my baby's health. I felt so blessed. I am at a loss to understand why this happened to my baby. I want to scream or punch someone or jump off a bridge but I have to act normal. It's not okay. I am so afraid for Daniel and what his future will be. I am getting him all the therapy I can and working with him. My older son got jumped and robbed last week & is in hospital. I wish I could pray. Baby napping now. Thanks

Answer 1

You have to keep your faith girl!
Remember that God has a perfect plan for everyone's life. We may never know or understand why - that's why we as Christians have Faith to get us through these storms. Bad things happen to good, faithful, god loving, awesome people all of the time. Please do not turn your back on God. He is the one you need to lean on the most right now. I know you feel overwhelmed and discouraged, I can't fathom the pain you must feel also. God knows you can and will get through this, he never brings us to something that he can't get us through. Please pray, you will feel so much better. Don't ask God why - ask Him to reinforce your faith.

Answer 2

I most certainly will pray for you. I sort of know how you feel, because my little brother is autistic. You are blessed, however, that you found out about his autism this early. We didn't find out with my brother until he was 12! Early intervention can do wonders. I understand how you must feel right now. It's hard to see your dreams for your precious little child be dashed into a brick wall called autism. I know you're mad at God right now, but God didn't cause your baby to be autistic. Place the blame where it belongs, on Satan, the father of lies and sorrow, the originator of sin. If you trust in God, He can turn this terrible thing that Satan has done into something wonderful. He has with my brother.
So pray to God. You can tell Him that you're angry with Him, you can scream at Him. God will listen, and He will bring comfort to your soul.
God Bless, and be sure to get your son into an early intervention program. It will help a lot!

Answer 3

WOW! You have the right to be going through an angry time. It is a natural part of the process.

I have worked with people with epilepsy for many years. That includes working with families with autistic children - some of the children with autism develop epilepsy. So I would like to make a suggestion or two.

First, if you are not taking your son to a pedatric neurologist, you need to. Depending on where you live, you may need to travel to get your son the best care. Contact the national autism organization and find out if they have a local or state chapter. They can give you information on doctors, support groups, etc...

The other tip is this. Go and get a three ring binder. Everytime you take your baby to the doctor or to any other professional, tell them you want a copy of everything they write down. Keep EVERY SCRAP OF PAPER in this notebook. Always have copies of any test reports, anything you get from Social Security, insurance letters, EVERYTHING. As you work through this maze, you need to keep everything in one place so you can get to what you need easily.

All is not lost with this diagnosis. Your best bet for his future is to start getting help now. He may grow up to be an amazing man who unlocks mystery - he may have incredible intelligence. He may be dependent on you for the rest ofhis life. No matter what happens, how well you are prepared will make the difference in his success or failure.

Like I said - a couple of suggestions - things I have learned from working with a couple hundred families.

Answer 4

Hon, I'm so sorry.

For 2 years I was a Lead Autism Therapist for a wonderful boy named Gabe. He was diagnosed with autism when he was just a month older than your son. Gabe was about dead center in the autism scale. He wouldn't look you in the eye. He did a lot of "stimming" and rocking behavior. He wouldn't talk.

We did "ABA" therapy (Applied Behavior Therapy) for three years. Also, for one year the little boy had a "shadow" to help him in kindergarten. It took a lot of work - I mean, every day he had at least one 2-hour-session, usually 2 sessions. He had speech and language help and a physical therapist.

After that time, Gabe is now symptom free. His mom tells people he is autistic and even doctors don't believe her.

You know about this early and with intervention, you can have a son that has NO limitations because of autism.

Answer 5

I will pray for your baby, but also for you. Go ahead and rant at God, He can take it. Tell Him what you are thankful for. Ask him for wisdom, love, guidance and strength to get through this and know what to do. Seek help from mothers in the same situation and learn as much as you can about autisim. There is hope. You may have been chosen by God to be an example for others. I will also pray for your oldest son. God bless each of you.

Answer 6

I wish you lots of strength to deal with this challenge. There have been lots of advances in dealing with autism and you won't know how severe it is for a while. It will be a struggle at times but you can do it!

I don't think you should wait for God to help you. You need to rely on your own strength and the strength of your family and friends to help you. If praying helps you get that strength, then do it. If it just makes you mad then don't do it now because it will just sap the strength you need.

You will be amazed at how people will come through with help and support if you ask them. I think you will look back some day and be amazed at yourself for getting through this and for helping your child get to a normal life. You may at that time thank God for helping or you may not, but that is something you will decide later.

I wish you all the strength and love you and your child will need.

Answer 7

Well on behalf of all kind-hearted people I apologize for that first response.

I am not even sure there is a God but I will pray for you. Sometimes I try praying...but only for other people, and you sound like you need it.

Atheists, this is not a moment to be snotty! This is a moment to prove that you don't need religion to be humane and compassionate!

Anyone know any specialists they would recommend? Many parents out there are dealing with this and hope is what this woman needs right now.

Answer 8

I will pray for you and your baby. Remember to be strong now is the time you need God the most..a time to be thankful for what He as given you. God does everything for a reason and though it may not seem right now he has a plan ... He loves you and is going through this with you.~God Bless~

Answer 9

I will pray for you and your Daniel. When you are angry at God, talk to him..Even if you have to yell at first...He knows your frustration and your anger.Your fear and your frailties. Your joy and your love for your son.
Romans says that sometimes all we can do is groan. How much does your Father know you that he can hear you through your groaning, and your pain.
Even if you don't know that you are praying, I believe that as children of the most high God, are spirit does. And when we can't, Jesus will for us. John 17.


Again praying for you...in Christ~vicki

Answer 10

I speak to you as a mother myself. . .my heart hurts for you. As a mother I know that there is nothing nearer to our hearts than our children. I would rather go through anything than to watch my children suffer and I am sure you feel the same way.

I think it is completely normal to feel frustrated and to feel like throwing your hands up in the air. . . but do not be afraid and do not give up. When it seems you have simply done all you can and you can not take one more step forward for fear of taking two steps back simply stand. Plant your feet in and stand refusing to go back to places you have already made it through.

It is good to hear that you have your son in the therapy that he needs. . .that is the first step. You will make it through this, your son will make it through this.

Prayers for you and your entire family. . . .for strength, courage, wisdom, peace and restored health.