i am feeling very depressed and want to die. help?

Question

i was standing on the top floor of a multi story car park on saturday and felt like jumping off but my gf was there and she stopped me and took me home. i fear she might leave me because... well i just have a feeling. help me plz!

Answer 1

When I have felt like you, I think of what it will do to the people who care about me, if I did this. Also, you need counseling. Why do you feel this way? Do you know? If you want to talk, e mail me. I have an appointment this afternoon. Sometimes things happen that are hard to handle. If you can remove yourself from the situation that is upsetting you. Remember, whatever is happening, won't last forever. Things change in time. I'm not going to paint you a beautiful picture. Because it's not realistic. We have to learn to deal with the problems that we encounter in this life. Suicide is the easy way out. (For whoever does it) However, sometimes life is good and sometimes it's not. We just hurt and upset people we care about when we do these things. Talk to your girlfriend. If she really cares. She will be there for you. Things like this can be hard for others to understand. That is why I suggested counseling. I hope it gets better for you. [e-mail] P.S. A lot of people attempt suicide and live. In the process they can do permanent damage and really screw themselves up- for life.

Answer 2

Don't give into this feeling - think of your loved ones. You seem to be at the bottom of your depression now, so logically, the only way is up - even if it's not straight back up to the top. Acknowledging that you have a problem is really good, so that's your first positive step. The next step is to get yourself to the doctors and explain truthfully how you feel so that they can give you help and medication. You need to keep these steps small so that each little thing you do is something positive that you can be proud of. Make sure your gf and family know how you are feeling, although they may not be able to help directly they could offer you support. The feeling you have over your gf leaving - if you explain that to her she will probably tell you not to be daft, and that she isn't going anywhere - she loves you very much. Always remember though that things like that are not worth taking your life for, in your situation this is easier said than done, but you have to try and remember that there is a big wide world out there with LOADS of people, experiences and things to do. If you can try and glimpse that sometimes and realise that the little space you might feel stuck in is actually a whole lot bigger than you think - and you can move! I hope you feel stable soon, and are able to get good treatment.

Answer 3

See, I am not being rude or anything, and I certainly wouldn't wish anyone to feel the way you are feeling.... but I just don't understand the concept of being depressed. I know that sounds really bad and ignorant, but I just don't understand it!

To me, life is ment to be enjoyed. You have no idea about happens when we die, the worse case senario is that there is nothing, thats it, we're gone. And if thats the case, and all that is left of me is people's memories, I want them to be good ones, full of fun times and laughter and positive things. I'm not saying I don't get down, but in general I am a very happy person, I enjoy life to the full everyday. I am thankful for the things I have, and the bad things that happen to me, well, they just make me a stronger person. And it's not that I have had a perfect life, i've been in relationships that have ended badly, i've had people close to me dying. But somehow, I don't let it drag me down..... It just makes me stronger.

Life is meant to be enjoyed! Life can be so unbelievably good where you can never imagine wanting it to end!! If the way you can get that is through taking anti depressants and that then do it, because life is so worth every single thing that happens to you!

So try to be happy and positive, I know that there are mental disorders that you may be suffering from, but you can get help for those things and carry on going! Because, life is just so worth it!!!

So see a doctor, get someone to help you understand exactly how you are feeling and why.

:-)

I hope that everything turns out well for you. With love
xx

Answer 4

Suicide would be a permanant solution to what is definately a TEMPORARY problem, u have a small chemical inbalance that is causing these thoughts and urges, see your doc fast and get an SSRI anti depressant and in a month or two you will be looking back and thinking what the heck was all that about, depression is treatable, the correct meds will turn you around. Your girl loves you and will stick with you and actually she will see what a fighter you are and you will be closer.

Go and make that appointment, don't feel bad about it or ashamed remember that millions have been here and now lead a good quality of life, make the call now.

Answer 5

first of all, i sympathize. im going through slight depression at the moment (recovering from worse) i had attempted on my life before and i understand where you are coming from about thinking your partner will leave you. If you still have problems after a while then go and see a councillor or your GP. Even talking to a close friend or family is good to do, it relieves you alot. Although you may not want to admit theres something wrong seeing a councillor is one of the best things you can do. I was once afraid to tell people about my problems but looking back im happy with myself knowing im getting help, there are people trained to help you so make the most of it =] and dont worry, if your girlfriend stopped you and took you home then im sure she truly loves you

hope all goes well xx

Answer 6

Please don't do anything rash, I know how awful it is to be so low that you have these feelings. You've taken a major step in talking about it that's difficult to do, in doing so you have admitted to feeling like this and that there is a problem. You need to talk to someone other than your girlfriend, although she can help sometimes it's better to talk to someone outside the situation. Of course it's not fair on your girlfriend either, she probably feels powerless and frightened, no one knows how to deal with this situation when it's happening to someone they love. Go see your GP Today!! It's no good putting it off hoping the depression will go away, you don't need to suffer like this. It's like living a nightmare, I know!! Don't be ashamed of asking for help, people are only too pleased to be able to help, it's not a sign of weakness the opposite in fact as you're being brave enought to face it head on and are trying to get some sort of normality back into your life. If you need to talk to someone right now, the samaritans are only too glad to listen and they don't judge or make you feel embarrassed, I rang them once out of desperation, I've never told my family, so look you've helped me to open up too, you're not alone in this.
Please get help, if anything happened to you how would your girlfriend and your family feel? Your problems and unhappiness are the most important thing now and they need to be addressed in order for you to feel happy again. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, you've made the first step so things can only go forward now. Please take care of yourself sorry if I haven't been much help, I hope you get the help you deserve. All the best to you, we'll all be thinking of you I'm sure!!

Answer 7

If your GF didn't love or care for you, she wouldn't have talked you down on Saturday. Instead of looking at the negatives in your life, try focus on the positive things, like your girlfriend etc. What would she do if you killed yourself.
There are plenty of groups or people out there you can talk to, if you feel you cannot talk to your girlfriend.

Life is too short as it is. Don't make it any shorter for yourself.
Find a hobby or something else you enjoy doing and try to stay positive..

I wish you the very best of luck and hope you start to feel better soon.
Take care

Answer 8

Without intending to be patronising to you, you have by asking this question made positive steps forward to helping yourself.

Obviously there is more going on in your life that you have not disclosed. It is these issues that you need to discuss and seek solutions.

With all respect, this is not the best site to seek the answers you are looking for. Be aware also, that your girlfriend will not have all the answers you seek, she maybe supportive of you, but the support will be limited. Its ok not to know all the answers, we are just normal people at the end of the day.

You are seriously best actually speaking to a person. This person could be someone over the phone, ie, a support help-line or you sitting and talking to your doctor.

Its ok to talk. Sometimes just having someone to listen to you, who does not know you, who will not judge you...... sometimes they can say something and you think 'yeah, I did'nt think of it that way'.

Don't give up, give someone a call or drop them an e-mail.

http://www.befrienders.org/

http://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/suicide.php

http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk/help_orgs.htm

Answer 9

hi, I'd love to say i have all the answers but truth is i don't, i go and I'm still going through depression.

the good news is there are people that can help, (no really there is)

contact these, they do support groups, help lines and lots of other things you could even volunteer for them when your feeling a little better
http://www.mind.org.uk/
also try:
http://www.depression.org.uk/resources/help.php?purpose=1

i do wish you would of gave us a bit more info as to why you feel depressed, or has it just come on recently ? maybe you could do something to improve the situation?

try taking better care of yourself try eating better take up exercising or a sport, quit smoking, drink etc, these will all make you feel a little better,

do go to the Dr you don't have to take tablets if you don't want to (although they can help and there's nothing wrong with taking them) your Dr might want to refer you to a councler or there might be an underlying health problem that's making you feel this way.

take care, and if you can give us some more info as to why your feeling like this that would be grate

Answer 10

go see a doctor, asap, or if you feel an appointment is too long to wait, go to Accident and Emergency/hospital. They will have a doctor who specialises in depression to speak to you and see how they can help.

You say its all about your girlfr leaving you, firstly, no one thing will have caused this, otherwise how do you explain the vugnrability you had to become so so attatched to her so that your life depends on her, you must have had problems that the relationship has brought up, not that it was the cause (far from it) we all have 'stuff' but unless your ok with living with it- which you are not (otherwise the carpark incident wouldnt have occured), you need to get some help with dealing with the 'stuff' which is making your life so difficult.

Take care to let your girlfr know whats going on- that your getting help, otherwise she may feel like she wants to leave you as the real you has been swallowed up by your depression, but fears leaving you incase you kill yourself and she hasb to live with the guilt for the rest of her life, weather or not she should do, this is a fact, if you kill yourself, others will feel they are too blame.

You also need to find in addition to the help a doctor can advise (could be tablets, could be therapy, C.B.T, ...) That you need to build up a support network of people around you- family for most people are a good bet, but for many thats not ok (my family for example subtly refuse to change thier views on depression and so are not able to be of much support to me, others I know have families they reuse to speak to as they feel it makes their problems far greater, its each to thier own really.)Others I know have a family which seems to take place of their entire support network.
Friends can be of great support, not there to take away the pain, but to keep you going, keep you moving and be there just to listen, not to fix.
Girlfriends are also great for being there.
If you really are stuck for mates and family, you will also be offered a C.P.N or social worker who will be able to help you and support you until you dont need any more help.

Good luck, I hope things get better for you.

P.S, its an old cliche I know but try the samaritans, they are really helpful and are trained to help, the phone number is
08457 90 90 90