Moving out of parent's house good idea?

Question

Im thinking of moving out of my parents house in sept. Things @ home aren't so good and i've been thru a lot bc of my father & his family. I know that if i move out its going to be final and my father has told me he will not take me back on any circumstances. Which is kinda tough if you think about it, bc anything can happen. I am a very responsible 23 yrs old, I have a job, I still go to college. The rent is going to be $452 a month, and i only make $10 an hr. Im so scared but @ the same time I do have to take a stand and take my life into my own hands. Ive never lived away from home, i dont know what im up for. I wont have caror cell phone, but public transprtation is closely available. My mom said she would help me out once in a while. I have some $$ saved up, but its just this huge fear in me like im gonna mess up & then my father wins bc he wont let me back in his house and tell me how stupid i was. Should i take the step & move out or stay and be unhappy?

Answer 1

Your father wins? I don't see this as a contest...see it as a challenge to face the world and conquer it! Besides at 23 you are not a child and living at home keeps you a child and makes it nearly impossible to grow up.

But do not leave without first planning your move. Sit down and make a list of things you will need to be on your own and plan a budget based on your income, be sure to include rent, utilities, transportation, food, incidentals such as toothpaste, tp, soap, shampoo etc..add in entertainment and some misc.. do some research to see what all these expenses will be. A lot of items can be purchased at discount stores such as the Dollar Store. Perhaps you have a girlfriend that needs a roommate or will room with you to share the rent and expenses. Perhaps your mom can help you get started with plates, cooking implements etc.. Just be calm and rational about your move...you will do great and gain the respect of your dad and even better you will feel great about yourself! It's amazing what you can do and what you can discover about yourself . Good luck hon.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Cindy: You don't seem like a brat or rebel. I believe you can do it. Possibly find a suitable roomate...someone from the college. Usually there are ads posted on the board at a college with similar requests. Since you are 23 that is getting to be a good age to move on. It will be good for you even if you need to drop out a quarter and get some $$ saved up to keep on. Broaden your horizons. I would not be surprised if things got better with your family if you move out.
There are a lot of things you can do to save $$ which I believe a few on here have listed.
YOU CAN DO IT!!

Wish you the Best from WASHINGTON STATE

Answer 4

This is a very hard time in history for young people to move out.

I'm 31 now, and when I was 18 a day after my birthday my dad threw me into the streets. I literally had no job, family, income, or hardly any friends.

I fell asleep many nights in my car listening to Nirvana and offspring. It was incredibly scary.

In your situation, I feel that you are old enough to make it.... I'll give you some advice though....

You honestly don't make a lot of money. Your take home @ 40 hours is probably around $325.

There are some things you need to know.

Electricity, toilet paper, toothpaste, and food all come at hidden expenses. Also if you have medical insurance.

Car & Car repair & gas.

You do make borderline enough to make it though. Anyway here is my advice

1) LEARN HOW TO COOK. Fast food is AMAZINGLY expensive. Learn to cook good healthy meals with rice and beans bought in bulk. You'll get very healthy too. Eat plenty of fresh food and veggies like lettuce. Don't do what I did and grab burgers because they taste good and "seem" cheap. ($1 per burger @ fast food)

2) Cokes/soda/soft drinks, smoking, drinking, all add up extremely fast

3) Keep good air pressure in your tires and your oil changed every 3000-4000 miles (regular) 5000-7000 synthetic. This will keep your car in shape and give you more mileage for our expensive gas.

4) Don't panic because usually in life you make more money after your early 20's.

5) You are old enough to ask your dad to quit being an a55 and to support your effort to move out. Let him know it will be a lot easier if he embraces you moving out along with providing you the security of something to fall back on temporarily IF needed.

I think you are wise in taking your life into your own hands. Be sure you keep monthly expenses to a minimum. Every credit card bill or payment that you get into adds up QUICK!

IF you have a cell phone, don't have a land phone. Basically just watch everything you spend money on at all and I think you will be fine!

Answer 5

Find a room mate. before you make your move, do some math on how much you will use for bills, rent, food etc, college and how much you will have left over. It will be a good thing for you to be out there as it teaches you the value of money and responsibility.

I have a friend who transcribes 20 hours a week and she makes 15 an hour. Why don't you look on craigs list or soemthing for jobs like that. It pays more and plus you do it from home. good luck!

Answer 6

Well you are an adult, you did not say if your parants are paying for school or not. You can always look into getting a roommate to share costs, that should help. I have a son who is 20 and still living at home and an 17 yr old who moved out as soon as he graduated, I also left home at 18 and put myself through college. So it can be done

Answer 7

I think that moving out would be the right decision. You will be amazed at how much better you will feel being independent of your family. If you are worried about being completely on your own, I suggest renting an apartment or house with a good friend-- that way you will have some company and financial assistance when you need it.

Answer 8

You're right to be afraid. There's always unforeseen expenses when moving out. You have the rent, but what about utilities, food and other miscellaneous things you'll need? Before you talk such a big step, you need to sit down and work out a budget and a back up plan in case you lose your job. You may have to work extra hard and long to make ends meet, but if you're willing to make that sacrifice I'm sure you'll be fine. Make sure you really think it through before you move out....it's a big step that you need to be financially, and mentally prepared for.

Answer 9

I think at 23 {I am 27} you should move out. Yes it is hard but so is staying and putting more of a strain on your relationship with your dad right?

You will have to be creative to make ends meet but your writing is better then most of the people on here so I assume you are smart enough to figure that out. If you want some hints you can email me and I will be happy to share some of my experience with you. I am a single mom of two adopted kids and doing well - so it can be done.

- Inez

Answer 10

You're a big girl. It's time to take care of yourself. Could you find another student to share the apartment with you and share expenses?

I moved out at 18 and I have never looked back. Never regretted leaving when I did and that was 28 years ago.