I am ready to quit smoking. How do I convince my husband to do it with me?

Question

I have not smoked since yesterday. I am going crazy. My husband is trying to be considerate of me, but in reality he is not. He is going in the other room at home and hes is not smoking at our office (we work together) But I can still smell it and taste it on him. What can I do?

Answer 1

You just have to live with it. You can't convince him to stop smoking. The only way someone can stop smoking is if they really want to.

Answer 2

The craziness will sub side over time, you are not able to convince your hubby to quit unless he wants to, if you nag, you'll only defeat your purpose and you can't use his smoking as an excuse to start again. What I would suggest is that you demand that he not smoke in the house or car, you deserve a smoke free environment and for this you may both have to sacrafice some of your time together.
Once you are successful at quitting he'll see how much better you are feeling and looking, he'll decide on his own to quit. Be forewarned that smokers are envious of successful quitters and will try to entice you into rejoining them...Don't do it, I quit 5 years ago and I am still 1 cigarette away from a 2 pack a day habit. You will always want to smoke, you just don't NEED to smoke anymore.
You should take whatever money you were spending on cigarettes daily, save it in a drawer for 1 month and I promise, that will be motivation enough for you both to quit. This is 1 case where quitters are WINNERS!

Answer 3

I just quit March 20. I smoked 25 years and the only times I quit were a couple of times I spent a few days in jail! I was a heavy duty smoker, I'd wake up a couple times a night to smoke... I'm the worst of the bad.....
You CAN do this, but YOU are the one doing it. Does that make since? I waited 24 hours before I told any one at all, but thats just me.

If I was you, I'd tell my husband, " I AM quitting smoking, and I started____" This way you're not "gonna quit" or "wanna quit" YOU ARE QUITting. This just might be the hardest thing you ever do. You can quit even though he may never even try. You quitting might just give him what it takes TO quit ,too. Don't let other people'. ,s smoke bug you, you can still be a quitter and be around S.H.S. ( 2nd hand smoke) I like it! mmm.. Somebody's s.h.s. is all I need or want .


Since I quit, 2 people I know have too, 1 is a friend that said, "If she can do it, I can do it." The other person I met on day 5 (day 5 was hard for me) I see her maybe twice a week, and she sees me still quit, and said she's giving it a try.

I used the patches. I am PRO PATCH! Use the patches. A week's worth cost a little cheaper than a carton of smokes and it comes with a CD and a little book that really helps.

If you want a quitting buddy, e-mail me and I'll give you my phone # and you can call anytime,24/7.


I am so proud of myself! (I'm not the "follow through" kinda person) I did what I had thought was the impossible. And it has "empowered me". If I can do it, you can do it.


P.S. A quitter can legally murder someone, if they feel so inclined! (O.K. ..... Its probably not "legal" but it works as a threat to people who are irritating...Twinkie defense.

Answer 4

I lived for years with a smoker, I was not. He said this is my home too. Then due to illness he did not smoke and still has not. He notices the new fresh air and comments when we go places where someone is smoking. He says he has not stopped smoking, just not smoking. I burnt a lot of scented candles.

There is nothing you can do to encourage him not to smoke because it is a personal decision. And I bet the more you suggest, better known as nag, the harder he will push back.

You will smell the smoke even if it is limited to certain rooms because the air is circulated throughout the house. I know because hubby was limited to his bathroom, his den and family room, but the rest of the house smelled. Look at the ceiling, the light fixtures, in all the rooms and you will see the results. It even affects the heater a/c system corroding it in time (just ask me about that bill).

You may want to try this - only smoking outside regardless who smokes. Then get the carpets and the drapes cleaned to remove the smell. Buy some Fabreeze and spray all the furniture, etc., including the rugs and drapes. That alone will change the smell of the house.

You both live there and you both have to agree on "house rules." Good luck because smoking is a very addicting habit, supposedly worse than heroine.

Answer 5

The best method that has been created and most professionals agree is the best method of stop smoking is the Harvard School of Medicine study. There are two reasons a person smokes; 1) A death wish and 2) to show someone or society that no one is going to tell the person what to do and that he or she is in control of their own life. These are two very strong psychological reasons that make it difficult to reason with someone that smokes. Actually the person doesn't smoke, the cigarette smokes, all the person does is suck. To tell someone that smoking is bad for you and he has a death wish is like telling someone that is starving that food is bad for you. If he or she has a death wish and you tell them smoking is bad for you, they look at that as a good thing. If you tell someone that has a desire to prove something that smoking is bothering you, they think that's a good thing again because it is now helping them prove that you are not going to tell them what to do. Both things are very sick and disgusting logic, but it's reality. What you need to do is get the person to realize why they are smoking and that takes some work. To get to that root cause is not easy. I have found QRA testing works incredibly well and I'm sure there are other methods as well. The physical addictions are easy to overcome. Once you stop smoking, it takes your body about 5 days to start producing the chemical for the nerve synapses to start functioning on their own and not dependent upon the nicotine to supply the nerve synapse. I had 5 friends die of smoking related diseases in their early 50's. It is the most insidious way to die. And the big problem is that it affects everyone around them in a very negative way. To watch someone die of lung cancer is just not a pretty sight especially when you see them spitting up blood and aspirating. The Harvard Study tells you to determine how many cigarettes does he smoke per day. Each day, reduce it by one. When he reaches a point where he just has to have more, stop at that point and level out at that level. Then after a few days, start reducing again and repeat this until he has reached 0. good luck with this

Answer 6

Everybody's different. Most of the previous responses’ said you can't get him to quit until he wants to or is ready to quit. So how do you make him want to?

Two things make men want to do anything, love and money.

First of all, a woman can get a man to do anything. Look at what men are willing to risk for women. There jobs, the Presidency, their children etc. I think you can come up a romantic diversion to smoking. My wife, now of 37 years, kept my mind off smoking.

2nd, try to show him how much money he is spending on smoking. Use the money for a romantic weekend.

When I used to smoke in the 70s, in the Air Force, cigarettes were 20 cents a pack. I stopped when I got out and they were 50 cents a pack. Now they are over $3.00 a pack. That is more than $90.00 a month.

One more thing, once a smoker always a smoker, it has just been longer since my last cigarette. Now I only have a cigar once or twice a year, good luck.

Answer 7

A smoking addiction is about 70 percent psychological and 30 percent physical. Most of quitting is wanting to and believing you can.

I don't know from what you've said if you have the desire and belief you need to quit, but you have to grow that one day at a time. You have made a start--a small one, but every start is a small one when you are trying to break a habit like this one.

Your husband has to also want to quit. I would suggest you try some sort of positive incentive for him to quit. (Don't try denying him sex if he doesn't quit. Offer him something he really likes if he will try.) That could be a nice meal, a romantic weekend together somewhere exotic, or any number of things. He is trying to be considerate of you, but that can only go so far, and he doesn't know how strongly he smells of the smoke.

Quitting smoking is difficult all of itself (I did it 35 years ago and have stayed quit) but it is well worth doing. You have a much more difficult challenge since you have a person you love living with you who also smokes.

Good luck and keep trying.

Answer 8

I agree that you can't make someone else stop smoking and in fact if you have only been quit for one day, you can't consider yourself quit quite just yet since most people start back smoking in less than a week from the time they stop but, i wish you all the best. I just recently quit smoking myself using the new prescription medicine called Chantix. It really is a wonderful way to stop smoking but, like with anything you must really want to quit. I started taking the medicine 3 months ago and i was a 2 pack a day smoker. Within the first month i had cut back to 8 cigarettes a day. The second month i cut back to 3 or 4 a day and the third month i layed them down completly and can honestly say it wasn't that hard. I haven't gained any weight and in fact i have lost 5 lbs and, i can be around others who smoke and it doesn't seem to bother me all that much. I had quit cold turkey 4 years prior to this and gained 40 lbs and was ill tempered the entire first 3 months and after 7 months i went back to smoking again. I have since tried several more times using patches, gum, etc all with no luck until i heard about this new medicine. I'm smoke free now for well over a month and have no desire to pick them back up. Maybe this will make it easier for him and you both to quit and stay quit.

Good luck to you both!!!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

The answer to both your addictions is CHANTIX. It is a new stop smoking prescription drug that was just approved by the FDA a year ago last May. My boyfriend smoked for 35 yrs...I smoked 27 yrs...and with the aid of this drug ( you take it for 3 months) have both quit. I always swore if there was a magic pill I could take to quit...I would. Well now there is. You smoke the first week you start taking it...and gradually up your dose...by a weeks time you're ready to quit. This is not a nicotine replacement therapy....it actually blocks the receptors in your brain from getting nicotine...so no withdrawal from the gum or patch or whatever. This stuff REALLY works...ask you doctor. ps....just a little nausea as a side effect...but a big glass of water takes it right away. Good-Luck....give yourself a break and try this.

Answer 11

Well you can say to yourself anytime you feel like a smoke cor is that the way I used to smell. U know most non smokers are considerate enough to be pleased with being non and ex, smokers that they don!t pass any remarks about the stench coming from smokers and this doesn!t help the still smoking friend partner or passing ciggy held stranger. So all you can do is to hope that your hubby follows you by your example and willpower as being an ex, smoker it does take some strength. Now a whole day that's good it will get easier by the minute play for time,wash your hair think about your lungs going pink again and most of all don!t wait until you have done to much damage, I have been off fags now for a good few years, I have Emphysema and it!s not very pleasant, not trying to frighten you but think how lucky you are if you don!t have, keep it up and good health, hubby will follow I!m sure.