i dont know what to do?

Question

theres this girl i like and we are realy good friends (actualy im her best friend)
but there are 2 problems
1) she has a boy friend (whom she tells me she is starting to hate)
2)the told me that the likes this other guy (whom i have only seen like 2-3 times)
and tho the real problem is that later today me and her are gonna hang out (alone)
should i ask her out then
or try to kiss her
or somthing
please help he im realy nervous

Answer 1

Talk to her. Tell her how you feel about her. She will either say her feeling are reciprocal or she will feel award. You have to understand that she may not have the same feeling for you and you have to be able accept that and remain friends no matter how she responds. She needs you to be there for her as a friend always. I went through this as a teenager/young adult. I had a best friend that I was in love with but I never told her how I felt. 2 days before she got married her and I were drinking and talking and I told her then, she got mad then she cried, then she she took a deep breath and told me she had waited for years for me say those words to her and now that I said them it was too late; she did not have those feelings for me anymore and that she was in love with her soon to be husband. I was scared so I waited until it was "safe" to tell her. I do not regret or wish I had done anything different now because I am in love with my wife and have three amazing children. I do regret that because I waited for too long to tell her what I should have told her years before, her and I have drifted apart and only talk about 1 to 2 hours a years when we used to sit and talk for hours and hours about nothing. My advice is talk to her, but keep the friendship NO MATTER HOW SHE RESPONDS. The friendship is the most important part of your relationship with this girl.

Answer 2

Kiss her? Do you want to get slapped? I'd hold off on the forward motion, rein the horse in, and try to determine what she's got going on right now. Ask her about her boyfriend, how things are, how the relationship is doing. All you can do is be her friend at this point until you get an idea of what she wants. Then, sure, pop the question, "hey, you wanna do a movie sometime?"

Answer 3

My guess is she likes you as well (as a friend) , but she doesn't know how you feel about her. what i think you should do is to tell her how you feel. Don't try to kiss her or try to make a move on her, she might get surprised and think that you've been plotting this all along. When you guys are hanging out, just tell that you have something important that she needs to know, tell her how you feel. Tell her you hope this doesn't mess up your relationship. Hopefully she will make a good decision (don't worry yourself about other guys that you think she might like). You need to be confident. Try not to get too nervous. Good luck & i hope you win the girl.

Answer 4

1, if she doesn't like her boyfriend she should ditch him.

2, it sounds like she's more interested in this other guy and may see you only as a friend.

Best thing to do is ask her if she's ever thought of you in a more than friend way. If the answer's no then stop there or else you may risk losing her friendship. If yes, maybe the kiss would be a good way forward.

Answer 5

well does she have any clue that u like her more than a friend? If you have that much strong feelings for her you definately need to let her know. I wouldnt try kissing her- Because IF she doesnt have the same feelings for you tryin to kiss her will make everything weird for her to hang out/ be friends with u anymore. I think you need to let her know of your feelings for her and see what she has to say.

Answer 6

i reckon go for it, ask her out while you can..
she can only say NO right..
i went out with my best friend years ago.. but things did not work out with us.. but you never know for you guys..
everyone is different..
my best friend and i were so close that we used to hug each other and hold hands.. until one day we went to hug but it was kiss instead.. then we started dating from there.. he will be always in my memory though as he has passed away some time ago..
but all the best i hope it works out for you...

Answer 7

Before you proceed think about the friendship. Are you willing to lose the friendship? Even if she does like you, if things don't work out it will be difficult to go back to the way things were. If you must proceed with reveling your feelings wait until she is available. Would you be able to trust someone who cheated on their boyfriend with you?

Answer 8

Luis, don't pursue her. Let her come to you. Get her to do things, little things, for you. That way she'll get as invested emotionally in you as you are in her.