You might not agree with this, but I have been so hurt and manipulated by every man that has been in my life, and I've just met someone new who seems rather promising.
Rather than say "I'd like him to be like / do this" (in my mind, not asking him!), my friend suggested I make a list of ten hotspots that if he does, even once, then get rid, because they are a sign of me ending up in another abusive relationship. Thing is, I can't think of many, I've started the list, could you help me finish it with things that you perceive of warning signs of a bad egg? The things I've listed I've experienced, so these are definitely staying.
1) Behaving aggressively towards me
2) Humiliating me in public
3) Telling me what to do (telling, not advising)
4) Being rude to other people (think this is a sign that he is just putting a mask on to you... that will eventually slip)
5) Making me feel inadequate.
Any more for any more? It'll be really appreciated, I need 5 more. Thanks! xx
2007-06-13 02:41:16 · 5 answers · asked by rollacoasta 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you got to set the standard /boundaries of what you want in the relationship, to get rid of him at the first hurdle seems a bit harsh, but if he doing or treating you in a manner that you don't appreciate sort it out first.
if he hasn't taken it in or is pushing the boundaries or not respecting you then bin him off.
you have the right to be treated in the way that suits you, its a two way thing,
for your list - control, making you do things that suit him, dress the way that suits him etc, if you dont agree dont do it - been there its not nice
equallity - making joint decisions about what you will do etc
no negititivaty - fun put downs, jokey little one liners that bit by bit chip at your self esteem - if he starting to make you doubt your self in any way - have words.
if you set the standard youll be ok.
2007-06-13 03:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by michelle l 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Expecting you to be an unpaid maid for him.
Expecting you to pay for the main things, especially if he makes a big production out of buying you dinner in a restaurant (but you are paying for a holiday they two of you take together).
He isn't nice to his mother or sisters. If he doesn't treat them with respect and courtesy, lose him.
2007-06-13 03:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he musn't be (too) over protective over you. he must give you space to live and be yourself and he musn't call you every second to hear what you're doing or where you are or who you're with etc. because i think that thats also a sign of someone who is obsessed with having you ''ALL TO HIMSELF" and that could be dangerous!
i feel so sorry for you and i hope that you really struck the jackpot this time!!
goodluck
2007-06-13 02:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anneke B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you should include :
Getting off with other women, texting or calling his ex, getting drunk with his friends when he should be with you, not spending money on small gifts to make you feel good and not letting you reach orgasm before he does (and then farting and rolling over to sleep)
2007-06-13 02:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I swould say a general doing what he says he will do. If he says he will call then he should call. If he is supposed to be at a certain place at a certain time then he should be there ontime.
2007-06-13 02:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋