this is the problem. My gf and i just broke up 1 week ago because she still unsure about her feeling to me. In the other hand, i think i too much love her. I can't forget her up until now. What should i do? Please help me, I need a rational answer !
2007-06-13 02:11:27 · 5 answers · asked by Rony 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you gave us the symptom not the problem? the symptom is she decided to break off onl;y you/her know why! we don't!
Anyway talk to her and work on temporary seperation for a mutually decided time live your life as if you do not exist for each other.
write your thoughts in a letter during seperation and then exchange it after separation days are over and talk over it. and see what both of you want
Ideal seperation time is 15 days.
2007-06-13 02:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by Life won't Stop Nor Should U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, the first thing you must do is grieve your loss. There is not silver bullet or shortcut for grief. To the contrary, trying to short change grieving will almost certainly kill your next relationship. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it hurts like a mo fo. However, you will get better with time. Here are a few tips for minimizing the time spent grieving:
1. Make a clean break. Have nothing more to do with her. Don't call her, don't talk to her, don't email her, don't communicate with her in any way!! If you encounter her, go the other way. Ignore her. Tell yourself she died. Continuing to communicate only extends the grieving process.
2. Don't rush into another relationship. Give yourself at least as long as you were together for time to heal, up to six months. I know... You'll die without a woman. Wrong!!
3. Focus on getting comfortable in your own skin. Learn to be alone without being lonely. If you can afford professional counseling and the pain isn't getting better in a month, I strongly recommend talking to someone.
4. Pay attention to your inner self. Do the things you like to do. Date your porn collection. If you don't have one and you're over 18, go to http://www.cavr.com and look at his most highly rated videos.
5. You'll know when it's time to start trying for another relationship and it WON'T be driven by your pain and loss. It'll be driven by meeting someone that wakes up that desire for intimacy and closeness. Oh yeah. And she'll be hot!!!
2007-06-13 02:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by Net Rider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to her since then? Have a serious open conversation with her and if she tells you that there is no hope for the future then you need to do what you can to move on. I am going through this with my boyfriend to but we have decided to try to fix things and take it slow. Talk to her though because the sooner you know how she feels the sooner you will be able to either move on with or without her. I feel your pain too.
2007-06-13 02:15:41 · answer #3 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time and space. Keep your distance for a while. As hard as it is, don't call or see her for a month. If she calls you, fine. But you can't begin to heal or think about this rationally until you put some time and space between you. Good luck! I know this is difficult to go through.
2007-06-13 02:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you betta go get your woman
2007-06-13 02:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋