My boyfriend has asked me to have a 3 some with another girl, does that mean he's not happy with just me or is it normal for guys to ask? (He says he loves me and he just wants to try somthing new! and he understands if i don't want to...)
2007-06-13 02:04:49 · 18 answers · asked by forever_his 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are analyzing too deeply my dear. I assure you that this is not the case. If he lets you pick out the woman, then you have nothing to worry about, it just another case of him living out a sexual fantasy and his feelings for you will be nothing less. It does not mean he thinks any less of you. Not to mention it be a great ego boost for him to be able to have two women at the same time. He will appreciate you for it.
This can work the other way around. Say if he wants this, you want something in return. Ask him for two guys with you if that what you want. If he says no, then you say no.
As for my opinion, be very careful going down this road. I heard of a time a guy did this with his girlfriend and his girlfriend end up leaving him for the woman. Guess she didn't need him any more.
2007-06-13 02:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by gotagetaweigh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think a 3-some is the classic male fantasy. My boyfriend would love the same thing, and unfortunately for him, I told him that I couldn't in a serious relationship b/c I would get to jealous, and that I would only be able to do something like that in a more casual relationship. And he really does understand why I didn't want to. I think that if you are secure in your relationship (i.e., you don't worry about him cheating on you and you really do know that he loves you) then I wouldn't be worried about him asking. If anything, I would be happy that he feels comfortable enough with you to be open and honest.
On the other hand, if you do worry about him potentially cheating on you, or that he may not be in love with you, or if he has already cheated in the past, then I might worry a little more. If this is the case, I would talk to him about it and find out what is going on.
2007-06-13 09:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha... so funny.. I've asked my boyfriend to do a 3some with me and some girl we'll pick out when we go abroad together before...
Ok... i think that it is normal for guys to ask that.. you know the moment i asked for a 3some, he said "wow.. i never thought you were like that.. but i've always wanted to ask you".. haha.. anyway.. he was all talk but no action.. and sometimes he would say to me "dear.. i scared to have a 3some leh.. i don't want you to get hurt.." (we're singaporean thus the broken english or Singlish as we call it here) I wanted a 3some also becos i wanted to try something new with him..
So girl.. i think that if he keeps insisting despite your disapproval.. then you should rethink about this relationship.. but didn't he say that he understands if you don't want to?
2007-06-13 09:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by deadbird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could I make a suggestion based on what I have heard about couples inviting a third into the bedroom....this can go one of two ways for you.
1. Most couples end up breaking up after this 3some takes place, because of a feeling of mistrust, even if all parties consent.
2. He will think you are so cool that he may never leave you...
You are taking chances.
2007-06-13 09:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say do it if you don't think you'll stay with him for a long time. The intamacy you have now will pretty much be lost forever if you do it and you won't get it back. If you think he is the man you want to marry and have a family with, then I don't think you should.
There is a small segment of families that live that kind of lifestyle, threeways, orgies, swaping. They are happy enough, but are few and far between.
2007-06-13 09:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by Cameron 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely normal. Don't feel pressured or feel bad if you don't want to. Guys are just unbelievably horny. Try this: ask him if you can have another guy in bed! See what he says. That can be your answer. And no, he's not bored. I would recommend this to all women: go watch some porn or buy a book on sex and learn some new tricks. Blow his mind, singlehandedly. Booyakasha!
2007-06-13 09:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is and always has been the male fantasy. I have know women in the past that want it just as much as the male does. and if that is the case with you..GO FOR IT. If you dont want to be with another lady, or share your man with her. Then say you dont want to..and leave it at that.
2007-06-13 09:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by Brian R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's your call to make, we don't know your b/f, you do. If he seems like a charmer then he might have already been with her and just wants the best of both worlds, but he could also be thinking "Why not give it a shot" you know him better than us, only you can answer this question.
2007-06-13 09:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by Rook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually think that this is a fantasy of many men, but most men leave it at that, as a fantasy.
It is totally up to you if you want to do it. If you don't feel comfortable with doing so, or feel you will regret it later, then please don't.
There are other ways to spice up your love life.
2007-06-13 09:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by Donna A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys have this fantasy, even if they have had it fullfilled they want it again. If he understands you don't want to actually do it...then help his fantasy and talk about it. Look at cute girls with him etc... so long as he stays "In bounds" of your limits.
2007-06-14 03:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋