I think it's tacky and I don't think they should be wasting their money on a wedding- unless your Tom Cruise and have money to burn. It seem so many people on this thing have kids and are wasting money on a wedding instead of saving up for their children's college funds! Don't they want their kids to have a better life??
2007-06-13 01:59:34 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My view is one baby is a mistake.... 2 and 3 babies before marriage- you should be fixed.
I do think it's ridiculous people have 3-5 kids before getting married..... and then want a large wedding.
2007-06-13 02:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 7⤋
As long as parents are able to provide for their child, that is good. Give them an education etc. As for college funds, unless they are filthy rich and can afford it, it is best for the kids to save up on their own and pay for their own college. Parents should be saving for their old age first before college funds. how many kids are gonna bother with their parents when they are working and earning.
As for having a wedding, only if they can afford it and have been saving for it, it would be their choice although I personally would rather use the money for vacations.
So many talk about getting their kids better life but what about them having better life? Dont their parents (parents's of parents) want their kids to havea good life and not be a slave to their own children? We live only once so we better make the best of it! Let people lead their own lives while we lead ours. We may not like how others choose to live but it is none of our business unless they get us involved!
2007-06-13 02:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by SG GAL 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
To each their own. If they want to pay for a big ol' wedding, who are we to judge? It's likely something the bride's been dreaming of for years and she's not about to let the fact they've already got a kid or two stop her. Just be happy they're getting married. Heck...my parents didn't have a wedding with all the fixing's - Mom wore a $20 dress from JC Penny's, the wedding was thrown together in like 3 months and the reception was in my grandparent's basement...yet, that didn't mean they had extra money for my college education - I've been paying for it myself.
2007-06-13 02:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
They can still save for college and have a wedding. The symbolism behind a white wedding doesn't apply to most weddings anymore. How many people do you think walk down the aisle virgins? If they want to have a wedding, they should be able to. If you don't like it, don't go.
2007-06-13 05:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by K S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We had a baby at 18 and got married at 20.
It was a nice small wedding. And we are saving for all of their college funds ( we have 3 now and are still married).
It's not tacky. Every woman should get her dream wedding. More babies are being born out of wed lock today anyways.
I think you need to open your eyes and take a look at the world today!
2007-06-13 04:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Just because you already have kids does not mean you can not wear white, that is just a old saying. But you do not have to have a giant wedding make it simple. My saying about weddings is make it simple don't go over board with it because who knows what may happen down the road. i know that sounds like I may think somethings going to happen but you know how life works.some people get married and with in two months it's over. So just have a simple wedding but make it beautiful.
2007-06-13 06:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know if someone has been responsible about their money and saved for the wedding. Having a baby should not stop you from continuing to do the things you want to do, otherwise you may blame the child for not being able to do the things that they dreamed of all of their life. If a wedding is important to someone, that doesn't mean that their child is any less important. GOod Luck!
2007-06-13 02:03:57 · answer #7 · answered by jennqt341 2 · 11⤊ 0⤋
Wrong? As in "morally wrong?" How so?
Sure, ideally, the plan goes "courtship - marriage - baby." Unfortunately, things are often less than ideal and we make the best of what we've got to work with.
It's a bad idea generally to spend money you don't have on anything - including a wedding - but if the budget will cover it, then I'd rather see a baby start life with parents who feel celebration over their marriage than shame and sorrow.
2007-06-13 02:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
well i disagree with you, I have 2 kids and am getting married in december in a catholic church in a huge white sparkly dress! I cant wait and my priest actually laughed at me when I said I was nervous bout getting married cos of having the kids and said to wise up its the 21st century!! we have a house and car and want to also have special memories of a wonderful day! tacky? no I dont think do, but it is very tacky slagging other peoples weddings off! hope u enjoy it
2007-06-13 02:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to your opinion, but if someone wants to get married and have a huge white wedding why should having a child prior to getting married be a reason not too.
It is not a waste of money it is an event to celebrate a couples union with family and friends there to support them.
Don't judge people because you have different views.
2007-06-13 02:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by Important 4 · 10⤊ 1⤋
I have a seven month old baby and I am getting married next January. My fiance and I started saving money for his future before he was even born, just because you have a child does not mean you are broke nor does it mean you can't have a wedding. Some of you people are very ignorant....
2007-06-13 03:17:02 · answer #11 · answered by I heart pineapple soda 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋