My mothers sister is something thats unrepeatable. shes constanty putting down my mothers life, she hates my dad, hates me, hates her cat, her clothes, everything. but yet my aunt copies what my mom does. my aunt tries to telll my mom how to dress, not to go to church, how to feel. my aunt even lies all the time to everybody. my mom calls her an extortioner. its in the bible. my mom knows her sister isnt a christian and doesnt care about church watsoever. so that raises the bigger question. should my mom just never speak to her again, tell her off, or what? my mom wants me to get invovlved, but if i say something, its not going to be nice!!! i want my mom to come to texas to be with me and my family. she would be much happier and she would be free of her sister's finaggling. what do you think?
2007-06-13 01:45:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your aunt is scared to death. She feels she's not good enough and that no one loves her. She acts the way she does because it's all she knows. Rather than looking at all the negatives, try to approach her and her actions with an attitude of compassion and forgiveness. See her as an imperfect human being who needs help learning to love her self instead of a manipulating extortionist. That will be very hard for you to do because you have years of anger built up.
I have found that when I try to see past a person's actions into their heart, I see a much different person. Try to do this and it will allow you to see her good qualities. Once you've found them, try to remind her of what a good person she is. In the meantime, it sounds like your Mom could benefit from setting some very strict boundaries with her sister. Your Mom has a right to say no to her sister and to tell her sister that she won't accept her behavior anymore. It's important to stress the behavior rather than the person.
Unless your aunt is directly attacking you, it's probably not a good idea for you to get involved. It sounds like this is an issue that needs to be cleared up by your Mom and her sister. In all likelihood, your aunt is jealous of your Mom and some positive understanding and love couldn't hurt. Don't confuse love with allowing her to get away with her current behavior. They're two different things.
2007-06-13 02:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
extremely your aunt comes over on your mom's domicile. you do no longer very own it. Charging the telephones and workstation does not take very lots electrical energy as part of the in many situations happening month-to-month intake. Nor does the bathe. What preparations have been made are between your mom and aunt.
2016-10-17 03:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by dawber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt just makes me uncomfortable and grossed out
2016-11-08 11:52:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an issue between your mother and your aunt...It seems your aunt might be a little envious of your mother, but whatever the reason is, you should let your mother deal with her sister.
2007-06-13 01:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your mom that she has to put up with this? Do they live together? If so, yes, get her out of there. There is no better way to deal with family problems like just turning your back and running away...and I mean that.
2007-06-13 01:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, I assume we are all adults here. Your Aunt can make choices as she desires, as can your Mom. They can talk to one another or not as they choose. You can also make that choice, get involved or not. I don't believe I would do so, however that is your choice and then the consequences of whatever you select will be yours as well.
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2007-06-13 01:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by fitzovich 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the good thing is your mom doesn't take her seriously. Ask your mom to come out with you, but it is ultimately up to her. I have an aunt that is a habitual liar. She try to say my sisters black boyfriend raped her and her dog (WTF?) and then call my mixed niece a grandnigger to my mom. Really, she has burned her bridges and she knows it.
2007-06-13 01:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
deaf ears for nonsence! avoid her without letting her know that you all are avoiding her!anyway she is your aunt and always will be so better don make any family issuses with this.talk to her husband if hes good to understand..don make problems..and as a daughter its not you to tell that aunt anything let sisters make and solve this problems...am i right?
2007-06-13 01:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to come live with you. i hate when ppl are controlling like that. if she doesnt stop, everyone should tell her to back off.
2007-06-13 01:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-06-13 01:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋