We went to a new(for us) restaurant(his boss suggested it, he eats there all the time). My boyfriend said he didn't know the boss would be there with his wife. They did not join us for dinner, but invited us for after dinner drinks. They picked up the tab. I say my man still owes me my birthday dinner or is it thought that counts. By the way, finances are not an issue and we hardly eat out(2 in the last 3 mos.) How do I bring it up?
2007-06-13 01:44:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It does sound frivolous and selfish. Perhaps I should add that we moved to a remote country town 2 mos. ago. He travels 3 wks out of the month. He will be home for less than a week and gone for 3. Plus he was playing footsie with bosses wife
2007-06-13 02:12:25 · update #1
Someone called me a gold digger, what a joke....that is the farthest. I cashed in my 401 k to pay for the downpayment on the house. LOL
2007-06-13 06:14:17 · update #2
It was nice that the boss picked up the tab for the dinner.
If your boyfriend promised to BUY you a dinner, then hold him to it. Tell him that you received advice from a Pennsylvania lawyer that said that his offer and your acceptance constituted a valid contract. [smile]
If you hardly ever eat out, it is right and proper for him to buy you a good restaurant meal.
2007-06-13 03:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mark 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't 'owe' you dinner any more than you 'owe' it to him to cook every night when he's home. You cook (if you do) for him because you should want to and you know it makes him happy. He took you out for your birthday because he knew it would make you happy. How would you feel if he brought dinner home to make you happy and then he felt you 'owed' him a home cooked meal? His intention was to take you out and pay for it, so accept that and move on. That should be the least of your worries however, if he's playing footsies with the bosses wife. In which case that's what you need to be keeping a close eye on.
2007-06-13 02:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by qt3.14 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everything about your question is backwards. Playing footsie with the boss's wife is a bigger issue than whether you get another night on the town. There's no rule of etiquette to cover this.
Everybody involved, except maybe the boss, is behaving without class, manners, or decency.
2007-06-13 02:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by Dianne A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Adults and children get to pick there restaurant of their choice. It can be any restraint in our town new or old. The family gets to go out to dinner together about once a month. And the person who has the birthday doesn't pay.
2016-04-01 05:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man doesn't owe you anything regardless of who ended up paying for the night out. He did great by acknowledging your birthday and wanting to take you out for a nice dinner. Be happy with that. Life is way too short to worry about the petty stuff.
2007-06-13 02:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if he was playing footsies with the bosses wife then yes he defintiely owes you something other than an apology. but seriously he took you out with the intentions to pay for your b day dinner. i wouldnt worry about it or think he owes you anything he took you out and you had a good time.
2007-06-13 02:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is not obligated to buy you anything. It is, instead, a nice gesture that he does things like that for you. It seems all his intentions were to buy you dinner and it was a surprise that the boss picked up the tab. Be pleased you had a nice night out and do not worry about who actually paid for it.
Do not bring it up to your boyfriend. You have no idea if he alreeady is planning another little something for you. If you bring it up you may just seem greedy and self centered.
2007-06-13 01:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by Mistress Kat 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your relationship isn't doing too well. I think you should sit down with him and discuss the relationship - not going out to dinner. Even if he takes you out again, sounds as if that isn't going to fix the real problem.
2007-06-13 02:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your desire to spend some more special time with your boyfriend, since he's not much around. yet, I think you shouldn't demand another "birthday dinner". instead, why won't you suggest that you'll spend another romantic night together - and he might just get the message that you miss him.
2007-06-13 02:20:02 · answer #9 · answered by Efrat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Im sure he will be buying you more than dinner in the future. Don't you have more important things to fret over?????
2007-06-13 01:56:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋