I loved her lots, she hurt me twice..... should i keep in touch with her if she comes back again?

Question

I loved my girl4om d botom of my heart.In fact she was everything for me.I was completly blinded by her.I sacrified my career,money,family,friends4he... She used2mesage, write letter exchange I LOVE YOU's with her Ex and other guys whom she used to be friendly with & wen i found out all dis she gave me a stupid concept saying dat saying I LOVE YOU is soothing word 4 her & she says it 2 all who love her & all & i like a fool said OK & believd her.I beared all what she did bcos I din want to lose herD next day she broke up wid me saying she doesnt want 2 b with me.I cried lots dat day..Later i came2 know she was goin around wid some guy.After 3 months, she came back 2 me saying sorry & was crying. I took her back in my life but she had not changed.Just4d first2days she was loving & after dat she was like before, flirting wid all the possible guys,avoiding my calls,cutting my call.It hurt me a lot & when i told her dis, she again left me & went.should i keep in touch with her in future?

Answer 1

If you are able to be in touch with her and keep it firmly on an acquaintance or friendship level, then by all means, keep in touch with her. However, if you continue to want a relationship with this woman who has repeatedly hurt you, stay away from her. If you can't help but cross the line with her back to a relationship, you need to cut her out of your life.

The first rule of triage is to do no harm. That includes to yourself. You have been burned twice by this woman. Keep her at arms length if you must have her in your life. Truthfully, though, it will probably be easier to get over her and move on if you sever communications and do not allow them to restart. Believe in yourself and your own self worth. You deserve to be treated better than that.

Answer 2

Not to sound mean, but if she has done all of that to you before, why would even consider another relationship with her?

There will always be people in life you will meet who hurt you, there isn't anything you can do about that, but at times you have to make a stand and tell yourself to look back on everything in the past and tell yourself you are better off as you are now.

While things could have been good while you were with her, think about the negative actions, the things she has said, then look at what you what around you, the friends, work / school colleagues, and understand that while you could hold a place in your heart for her, there are others who can fill that place in your heart with more love and sincerity than she has ever done.

Answer 3

Pay no attention to the idiot who wrote Um English, if he had half a brain he would realize English is not your first language and you probably speak another language beautifully.

I dont know how old you are but I promise you this, anyone who loves you would never ask you or expect you to give up anything you love to be with them. I think leaving this girl alone would be the best thing for you, it sounds to me that she drags you down and doesn't deserve you. There are plenty of women out there and anyone that throws the word love around like it's a hello does not know the meaning of the word.

Good Luck!!

Answer 4

Keeping in touch with her is not really a bad thing, as long as you try to move on, and please don't hurt yourself.

You're only being a fool of yourself if you're going to take her back for the third time. She cries to you, because she knows that you are there to be with her. Next time, try to be stronger and dump her. Don't say yes to her all the time or else she'll never learn.

Try to move on and look for another girl, a girl who will be with you and LOVE you really. You're only wasting your time if you are still thinking about getting again with your ex.

My suggestion is, keep in touch with her, be friends, but first, you must get yourself a new girlfriend. If you still think you couldn't move on from your ex, I suggest, you give up her number and never talk to her in a years or year, until you move on and decide that you are going to be friends with her again.

And enjoy the life! There are still lots of girls out there, and I can make sure that when you find a more truthful and nicer girl, you'll say that it was better if you even left your ex the first time she was cheating on you.

On loving the second time around, don't close your hearts. :D

Love is not supposed to be one-sided.

Answer 5

If you like abusing yourself, then yes. There ARE better and more satisfying relationships out there, for everyone, including you. Do you believe this? Do you believe that you can do better, that you deserve better than this?
Some people seem to find themselves helplessly attracted to these kinds of relationships. If this girl is the last in a string of these for you, then you probably have a pattern of this and you need help to break it. There are several twelve-step groups that deal with this or therapy can be helpful.
The only way a person who treats you like this can be worth your love is if you believe your a person not worth loving. And I'll bet that you are a person worth loving, wether you know it or not.

Answer 6

No I wouldn't if I were you. She's not the kind of girl you need to hang around with. She will only have a bad influence on you and it will just be deja vu for you. The sorry and crying, the flirting, the cheating, the breaking up, and repeat. She's not worth it. God will find the right person for you in your life, and obviously, this girl isn't the one.

Answer 7

It sounds as if you love this person very much. If you are a good person and you have good in your heart you will find and be with the right one for you.

This maybe hard for you but let her go. Sometimes when you take the focus off it brings that person back to you keeping in mind sometimes it doesn't because of their preferences.

Remember something that is good and will last is worth waiting for.

Answer 8

NO! Keep her OUT of your life...for good. Unless you like being a Yo-Yo....her roller coaster treatment of you is shameful. People like that just aren't gonna change. Sounds as though she needs to grow up...she is quite emotionally immature. She is using you.
Even though you may think you love her, she is not in to you in the same way. You are better off without someone like that.
Wait and lavish your love and attention on someone who will truly love you back. Being in a relationship like you describe with her, is just setting you up for continued heartbreak...and is unhealthy to say the least. If you take her back, she will just continue to use you.
Consider your experience with her a "lesson learned"...and save your wonderful spirit for someone who will appreciate you. It's her loss...not yours. Love yourself enough to look elsewhere....there is someone out there who will love YOU for YOU...a good healthy relationship is based on trust, love, commitment, understanding, lifting each other "up" (not tearing each other down), communication and friendship. Don't settle for anything less.

Answer 9

Only if you want to keep getting hurt and used by her.
You yourself are saying everything in the past tense here...loved, was and words like that.
She is a user and you are the usee.
If someone did that to me...I think after 2 times I would learn the lesson and move on. As the old saying goes "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me"
Move on and find someone who truly cares for you.

be cool...

Answer 10

She only came back to you because the fling she had going on with this other guy didn't work out for her so she's trying to get you back so she isn't alone. Have your pride, be strong and move on from her. Once a cheater always a cheater, you deserve better!