my boyfriend does drugs...?

Question

help. i love my boyfriend with all of my heart. but we have had some major problems the last few years that caused him to get depressed and also i. then on top of everything his dad cheated on his mom and moved out. well with everything that has happened he has turned to drugs. he does pot and pops pills. i really want him to stop but i just dont know where to start. this all started about 8 months ago. is it too late? or is there time to get the old boyfriend whom i fell in love with back? how can i help him?

were 16 and have been together for 2 years. i know it dont seem like i can love someone at such an early age but i do. and im rweally worried about him. everytime i mention him getting help he gets mad at me and then like i tell him he has to choose between me and the drugs and he always says me but to me it feels as if its just a scam. i know he does love me but drugs have tooken him over

Answer 1

there isnt a way of helping him i never listened to anyone who told me to stop because i did the same things the feeling on e's and when your stoned was just too good but trust me it gets boring! dope just makes you feel worse everyday after smoking it he will grow out of it. . . just depends how long that will take
i think the best thing you could do is just explain how you feel if you like each other that much he will care about what you feel and try and stop for the sake of your relationship

good luck :)

Answer 2

Number one sweetie if you feel you are in love you are. I was with my exboyfriend from 11th grade until just last year. I am 24 yrs old now. We were together for six years. Your never to young and you can't help the way you feel. Anyway its hard to even know where to start. Me and my ex both smoked the pot but I never really got into anything else. He did everything the coke, pills, even ended up doing herion. It got horrible. He even overdosed in my house that I lived in right next door to my parents. I never thought that the myth of once you try pot it only leads to more more hardcore drugs. Well believe me thinkin back and lookin at the whole picture is ended up that way. They only way is to keep into your boyfriend even if he gets mad that is the only way. He is going through family issues on top of it all and turnin to get high to make all the problems fade away. He is zoning out off to a different place and it will only get worse even if he swears it won't. It seems he only has you. If it doesn't help by you diggin into him about the whole situation then ,you need to figure out which parent he is closer to and take that leap even though it will be terribly hard and tell them whats going on. The only reason I give you this advise is because I have been there sweetie. Good luck and keep you head up.

Answer 3

All you can do is try. A lot of drug addicts refuse help only because that the drugs of choice are always in their system. So first you have to give him support so he can get the drugs out of his system. You see his body now relates the drug use as normal therefor to function at a normal level he will have to keep on using. This can be dangerous because the more he takes the harder it will be to withdraw from the drugs as well as the notation that he might overdoes seeing as the body would need more and more of the foreign substance to maintain normal function. If push come to shove you may have to involve someone else such as the police or other friends and family. If you truly love him you would be willing to help him in anyway, shape, or form even if it means that he would get in to trouble.

Answer 4

It's never too late, but no power on Earth can make your boyfriend change his ways if he doesn't want to.
Now, who do you love? Your boyfriend or your ex? It looks like you are not very committed to this relationship. Do you want to make it work, or are you just looking for something easier and less stressful?
Also, you should make your decisions based on how you feel about this particular relationship, not on whether someone else is available or not. Maybe it's time to be on your own for a while and realize that you don't need to be attached to a man to be a whole person.

Answer 5

Sounds like he is lucky to have you thru all this. He needs more help than just you. The drugs have to stop! Get him to a coucelor or Pastor. If he is not on anti-depressants, that may help, but he needs some professional help to get past this bad time in his life. You may benifit from some couseling too. Take care of yourself. Best Wishes

Answer 6

First you must protect yourself second he needs counseling, your not strong enough to help him, you will end up just like him, Do you guys go to church , are you saved he needs pray. Things happen in live, not saying that they are right but God is faithful and will provide a way of ascape, now you really should take my advice, your future depends on it. protect yourself and by doing this you will help him, drugs can kill pray for him but give yourself some room from him and allow God to deal with his heart. God knows his heart better than you do. Gods desires is that none should perish no not one. Salvation lies only in Jesus, he can save him from anything if he is willing to turn to him and away from what he is doing. John 3 verse 16 for God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son (Jesus)that whosoever believeth in him should not perish but have everlasting life. The book of James tells us in chapter 1 if any man lacks wisdom let him ask God who will give it to him. So ask God but when he gives you the answer you need and not what you want to hear listen to him be blessed

Answer 7

Its very difficult to see a love one doing this to himself but honestly if he is not ready to be clean and get help! he is going to always! always! tell you what you want to hear at that moment and then go back to do what makes him feel better. I am sure you care for him but if you stop and think about he is not caring for you! in the same manner! he is thinking only about himself! that the whole world is against him! and that he is the victim here! all these are only excuses that he is doing or thinking to make it ok for him to continue doing drugs. Nobody can help anybody unless they want to help themselves! You are young do what young people do! have safe clean fun! don't get stuck with somebody that is selfish! because once you realize you will be old, bitter and empty! trust me!

Answer 8

Pot isn't as big as a deal as most people make it out to be. The more you make an issue about pot the sooner you will loose your boyfriend. Is he taking pills that are prescribed to him? If not that could be dangerous and could potentially cause death. Example: Anna Nicole Smith and her son Daniel died from bad mixtures of prescription drugs. I would definitely talk to him about the pills but as far as the pot goes it is not as worse as cigarettes or alcohol; but it is illegal so he needs common sense about it. Pot can be enjoyable and the legalization of it would lower DWI death rates,divorce rates,suicide rates and deaths from alcohol poisoning.

Answer 9

OUCH! 8 months thats a long time.. but its never too late. just sit him down and have a serious talk about u and him and tell him u love him and u wanna help him get his life together. the both of u can help turn things around for the good

Answer 10

Ok first of all weed isn't addicting... & 2nd pills can be though and thats bad his depressed and he turned to pills like you said so he can escape from the depression life for a while.. Oh and I would tell him this I love you and you know this I'm just going to be here for you through all the problems your going through.