i am 23 year old guy...I love a girl,who is of same age,23...well...actually she is only 4 months older than me...but she has refused me bcoz she loves another man,...he works with her in her office...he is 54 years old.....married....and having children who are well above 20....but she loves that old man very much...and she told me that she had a physical encounter with him...she also told me that she will never get him...but she still will continue to love her...she also told me that she also never wants to lose my freindship....but,i think that old man is not a good person at all...he is just using her....but she won't understand....please help...i love her very very much.....
2007-06-13 00:45:33 · 14 answers · asked by babu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Even though she knows that he is 54, married w/kids over 20 and also knows that she will never get him but still continues to love him then man she really needs some psychiatrist help. And u r also crazy of loving someone so stupid (no offense) but that's the truth.
If you wanna solve this situation then confront that man and the girl at the same time and say "look i know everything about you two" and tell that man how she feels about him and how you feel about her too, and tell him to get the hell away from her if he doesn't wanna be with her and is just using her,as you want to be with her badly.
Come on man don't be a sissy how long are u gonna stay just like that and do nothing about it. You have to stand up one day or you'll regret. Also tell the girl that how she is wasting her time and how you think that old man is not a good person at all and is using her.
GOOD LUCK...........n try to win her love somehow by keep on doing something to remind her how much more u love her each day n how happy she'll be with u.
2007-06-21 00:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, quite a conundrum we have here, huh?
Quite frankly, no one can force another person to love them, and many times our emotions win over logic and understanding, so unless she opens her eyes herself, there isn't much you can do to get her out of the relationship with an older man whom she cannot have.
If it is true that she never wants to lose your friendship, than perhaps the best thing you can do is to continue to be her best friend. If you continually bring up her relationship with this older man, even with good intentions, she will only try harder to stay in it.
Quite often the challenge of chasing something we cannot have can be quite exhilerating, and addictive, as well as the rush she may experience being in a relationship that should be off limits. With this older man, she feels the sense of adventure and excitement, even though she may realize there is no viable future with him.
The older man may be a very good person to your friend, although he certainly is not being true to his family.
Give it time, perhaps things will work out for themselves, the older man may dump her, if he fears he may lose his family, and she will need some consoling at this time, and if you are being a good friend, to whom do you think she will turn to for comfort? Right. You.
2007-06-13 00:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by 1greatguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the 54 year old's wife. He's an old pervert and deserves to be punished for exploiting a young girl. 31 years older? totally gross.
2007-06-20 21:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Knowledge is Power 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she is in to wrinkles, there is nothing you can do, get over her, if you want to wait, what he has maybe a good 20 30 years left, then you can move in, but then would you want his "old' used left overs. Hey if you want to get back at her go get you a fantastic looking 40 year old and make her jealous. God Bless.
2007-06-21 00:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babu run from this girl honey there are so many fishes in the sea why waste your time with girl that loves another guy if she feels comfortable with him its her choice go find your self a girl that wont cheat you for older men.......move on and forget her before you get more hurt
2007-06-20 13:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most normal think would be to leave her alone if she is happy. but u have to talk about what a life with him could mean: maybe he will leave her soon because he s to old, and maybe he won'y give her kids and then it won't be happy.. cause that isn't a family.. and in the second place, u have to tell her hoiw muahc u love her.. its importants for her to know that somebody else loves her that much...
2007-06-21 00:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 year olds have BIG SCARY TEETH? 8 year old unicorns? I have big scary teeth. I shall eat the unicorns with them... chop chop... Except You're the Dream Unicorn who has answered already. HE is the KING OF YAHOO ANSWERS! Long live the.. Anyway... what was the question?
2016-04-01 05:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is happy with the l9fe she has .. you get a life and let her live hers ... get out there and find a girl who can love you for who you are .... Thats the only solution for this ..
2007-06-13 00:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her. you cannot force her to break it off with the old guy even if you are right. just be her friend, and always be there for her. time would come that she'd leave the old guy, relationships like that don't really last. if you really like her, wait for her until she comes to her senses.
2007-06-13 00:51:44 · answer #9 · answered by charmed452 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is be there for her when all of this goes bad and believe me when I say that it will go bad eventually and you will be there for her and she knows this too . Just be around for her when she needs you . good luck .
2007-06-13 00:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋