im a married women with a baby girl...my hubby is a foreigner and we live with my parents..i hate my family n now i hate my hubby he is alwayz favouring my mum whenever something bad happens,i alwayz get blame for nothing..i hate my self..now tat i hav a baby i feel she deserve a better life...my hubby is not showing concern abt moving out..i cant stay wit my parents anymore y cant he understand tat,i feel so useless n want to kill myself,,,i just hate living....
2007-06-13 00:40:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe it's time you got out and started doing something for yourself then. There power lies within you, you just have to realize it.
2007-06-13 00:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by sixmillionways 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you feel exactly like i used to feel and like many others feel before they become enlightened. Thats when we discover out true purpous for existing. Its noe religion or to be rich or famous. Its to have a consciouseness thats very different from the one were born with. We all are born very selfish and as long as we focus on our selves we bring suffering. When We lose our "self" and live for the good of others, we find enjoyment. Thats how I know ots the way we're supposed to live. Physical pain is a sign of something wrong such as an injury- just like emotional pain is a sign of wrong thinking. When the problem is fixed in a way that the pain doesnt return, thats how you know youve found the right solution. We can try to fix our feelings with other selfish means but it will only involve more suffering because nothing else is permanent. We can try to get a new relationship, run away, get lyposuction, win the lottery ect...But in the end those things will all be gone anyway and have no value if we dont realize that our purpose for being is to learn to selflessly serve humanity. Thats the only thing that has brought me fulfillment. We must realize that our "self" seperate from all else and God, is the cause of our suffering in the first place. We must learn to think as though we are God serving humanty.
2016-04-01 05:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your hubby likes living with your parents???How old are you?
and your baby needs you more than you think, that is your number one concern!
does your hubby have a job?If not than hes not going to get one because he has it made.
Check into some child care sevices you go get a job and take care of you and your baby and before you know it you will be on your own enjoying your life. And it might mean doing all this without your hubby.There are places that will go by your income for housing.check around youll be surprised of all the different help there is out there.
2007-06-13 00:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, those are some big words there lady. Blaming yourself and allowing all of the negative thoughts in your mind to become what you believe to be a reality will not help you any. If you are unhappy, take the child and move out. Your husband will follow. People need to stop blaming each other for problems and realize that everyone share these problems and need to work together to make them better...and be supportive of each other, and loving.
I'm sorry this is so hard for you. I suggest you move some place nice and make good friends.
2007-06-13 00:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by I hate Comcast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow wow wow. Calm it. Dont even think about that. Things always get better. Speak to othe council about getting your own place if you feel that bed. Speak to a friend you can stay with. If you feel if you stay there you might do yourself harm, remove yourself and your child from the situation. Thats the easy way out and you are stronger than that!! your child would not thank you for it!! You can do it!! Best of luck and it WILL work out!!
2007-06-13 00:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear about your awkward situation, but rest assured you're not the only one facing difficult circumstances.
They just seem more unbearable sometimes, especially if you are suffering from some kind of depression, maybe even post-natal. Talk to your doctor about your feelings, he'll refer you to a specialist who will help you through this period.
But, for your beautiful daughter's sake, DON"T do anything drastic!
2007-06-13 00:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by canguroargentino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a post natal depression to me. It happens to a lot of women who recently give birth.
Visit the website below, it has all the information about this kind of illness.
You should ask your partner to see your GP/doctor right away. Take your husband with you so he understands why you are feeling this way and the mood swings you have...
2007-06-13 00:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by mum who cares 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no no!! its absolutly wron way you are thinking. your parents gave you birth and they looked after you for ages. they made you what is life and help you through your difficult time and now its your time to pay back. your partner is right. they prsented him you so he has to love them. when you become old and when you are a grand parent you will understand. so be proud to have one who likes your parents. try to be good and help your parents. then all we come in the way you are.
your life is in your hand. you can either destroy it or live it. make your choice before its late.
2007-06-13 00:47:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything will get better. You better get after your husband , he's the problem. Time to put your foot down. Why should you suffer? Where's your guts? Girl, get your life back!
2007-06-13 00:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think using this forum is going to help you much. You need to seek some real help somewhere. I don't know what your skills are? Whatever abilities you have you need to put them into action to get yourself out of this mess.
2007-06-13 00:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Easygo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋