My girlfriend , who which I was planning to propose to in the fall, broke up with me COMPLETELY UNEXPECTEDLY, after we had an amazing week vacation in Key West. The vacation was great, she was affectionate and we had sex every night. She told me that she needs a break and that there is NO OTHER GUY, and that she need to find herself and get back in touch with her individuality. She told me that there is no promise that we will get back together. She told me that the more I contact her, there more I am pushing him away. We had a great relationship, and never fought. I am COMPLETELY SHOCKED over this, I did not see this coming, there were no signs. Is this just a phase she is going through, she has never, I repeat, never acted like this, she has become so cold. On her Myspace page she changed her profile from In A Relationship to single immediately. I have been sick for a week over this, I can't sleep or eat. Is this like a midlife crisis for her, even though she is 26? Need Advice
2007-06-13 00:16:40 · 8 answers · asked by Jennaba9048 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She never actually said break up she says that we need to find ourselves. Which is very odd behavior for her. She keeps telling me that she loves me. if a person loves another person, THEY DO NOT DO THIS. She won't say that we are broken up, she keeps telling me that she doesn't know what the future holds for us.
2007-06-13 00:18:31 · update #1
okay sounds like to me she has found another guy and she is not being honest with you . Move on and I would forget about her . I think she has lied to you since she changed her profile so quickly .Just move on . good luck to you .
2007-06-13 00:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we love someone, we care about what they think, and she has walked away, as though you didn't matter in the first place. This is not only a very painful situation, it leaves you feeling powerless, unloved and unlovable. Of course, this isn't reality, but love, at it's worst, can do that to us. It's important that you step back, re-evaluate, clear your head and regain your footing.
You can only do this by NOT contacting her. As difficult as it is, do not call her, do not email her. She clearly needs some breathing room, so you are going to give it to her - completely. This is the only way you are going to give her an opportunity to miss you. You've described the relationship as one of quality, for that reason, I believe you will hear from her, although it may take longer than you would like. Meanwhile, it is important to refocus on your own virtues and the qualities you bring to a relationship. Remember, give this woman time to miss you and all of your qualities - the only way to do that is to get the hell outta dodge.
2007-06-13 00:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by debdee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need not worry...this is just a phase...even i am goin through same thing...but you need to understand her..whether she is tensed about job..family and same time about you..if she has broken up you need not beg her..cut off all contacts immediately..give her space..let her miss you..show as if you are ok with her decision and respect it..if you keep calling her you will irritate her and it her slightest chance of getting back wil be off...so give her space and let her take time and do not..i say do not contact her meet her..wat evr even if you miss her..You should have self respect and dignity..If she really loves you she will come back..you need to be strong and if she call you just act cool..ortherwise dun talk et al..this phase last for almost 3 months you need to be strong and you must move on start dating other girls..not rite now but after month or so..jealousy is the most powerful tool..it all mind game dun think from heart...Mark my words..God bless and Cheers
2007-06-13 00:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u never told what is your position in life. what profession u have, what profession she has, what education, where do u live ( i mean house, apartment, rented, your own). don't give me bull..... that money is not everything. it was invented by rich people for poor people not to feel that crappy about their useless lives. so yes, maybe u can't provide a life style she thinks she deserves and maybe she didn't liek the accomodations where u were staying on vacation. also who was paying? if u were arguing with her who will pay maybe it is not a big deal for u but it's sure big deal or her. the thing that she changed her status from in rela tionships to single means she has plans to find someone else as soon as possible
2007-06-13 00:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all I can say is "WOW"
Me and You are in the SAME EXACT SITUATION..
When I read your question, I've got scared..cuz it seemed exactly like my situation...the plans of being engaged, to having the greatest, and flawless relationship of my life for 2 years..
I'm about 1.5-2 months into the breakup and I know exactly what is going on buddy...
I've been nothing but good to her...even her mom and her best friends have told me, and never cheated, and never have faught with her before...and "boom" she dropped the news out of no where..
If you wanna talk more...let me know..
I'm here for you buddy.
hope it all works out.
2007-06-13 03:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by bearz2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe her people have been bugging her about how she's changed. Maybe she really does need to find herself, because maybe is is afraid that commiting now means losing herself and her wants/needs.
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2007-06-13 00:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by shelb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many things are unexpected like this and many more look for another GF whatever you do don't lose hope someone will love you until your death
2007-06-13 00:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by bulibaongoy2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is a phase.....just show her you are ready to leave.....
Talk to other girls and move on......
2007-06-13 00:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋