She's cheated on me before, can't go into details, and I just can't sit there and watch her do that on other guys. Is it wrong if I told her that if she'd be doing that then I wouldn't come? She says it's okay for me to do it too, but I'm just not that kind of person. Am I making a big deal out of this or is this a relationship issue that needs to be resolved? Am I being selfish by protecting myself from heartbreak?
She was speaking her mind on the phone and said "I'm gonna go to the mall round up a bunch of hot guys," and I'm just thinking what the ****. I keep thinking she doesn't find me attractive anymore. Am I thinking the wrong things? Should I leave her? I'm so confused right now. Is it ok for her to be dancing dirty up on others guys just because it's her birthday? In my mind, the dirty dancing should be for only one person if you're in a relationship.Am I just worrying too much? I really need answers from people who might be in the same situations or understand how I feel.
2007-06-12 15:31:28 · 22 answers · asked by slice243 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know I should break up with her, but she came from a broken household where these common values of relationships weren't taught or expressed and that gets in the way when I try to.
2007-06-13 15:17:28 · update #1
If you two are dating, then that is not acceptable behavior.
2007-06-12 15:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by what 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your girl truly cares about you and your relationship then she would think twice on her action. Dirty dancing with other guys when your in a relationship is UNACCEPTABLE. It seems like she wants to explore more and not ready on a serious relationship. She had cheated before and you had given her another chance but I think she is not doing her part. I'd say dump her... you deserve someone better...
2007-06-20 13:37:44 · answer #2 · answered by Cali_Babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not right. Just because it is her birthday doesn't mean that she should do that. She should be doing that to you and not other guys. You should find a girl that would be loyal to you and that you will be loyal to also. Break up with that b****. That happened to me before nut it was my b/f. I sooo broke up with him and realized that there were better guys out there for me. Save yourself a lot of trouble and misery and just leaver her. It's the best thing to do. You'll feel better too.
2007-06-20 13:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend has any respect for you she would not be dirty dancing with other guys. Not acceptable. Talk toher and let her know that any self respecting woman would not do that to u or herself as well. This makes her look bad as well. And because its her birthday is no excuse either.
2007-06-20 15:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by jazzy2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to lose the girl she is a player you need to move on i am sure you are a good looking guy with a great personality she has some issues why let her treat you like a door mat come on be brave there are to many fishes in the sea
2007-06-20 14:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she is just trying to see how far she can push you. granted dancing can be only dancing and it is fun but if you have told her that it bothers you, she seems to be just flaunting it. if she has cheated on you before, there is a good possibility that she will do it again. you might want to let her go. obviously your feelings are not that important to her.
2007-06-12 15:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY! I AM A GIRL AND I UNDERSTAND PERFECTLY. SHE THINKS SHE CAN DO WHATEVER SHE WANTS AND THATS NOT ACCEPTABLE. YOU SHOULD TELL HER WHAT YOU THINK AND JUST DUMP HER FOR A WHILE AND SEE IF YOU ACTUALLY NEED HER BECAUSE AFTER A LITTLE BIT OF TIME WITHOUT HER YOU MIGHT FIND SOMEONE ELSE WHO IS ACTUALLY RIGHT FOR YOU AND RESPECTS YOUR RELATIONSHIP!
2007-06-20 14:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no mate, she is not good for you - leave her, she is not worth your compassion and understanding - a whole bunch of hot guys will just use her up and dump her when they are finished, don't be there when she comes crashing down - go be with someone who will appreciate you
2007-06-20 14:24:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she should not. I think that you should leave her. Just because it is her birthday does not make it right. She should be doing that kind of stuff with you not everyone else.
2007-06-12 15:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by sweetheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u r not worrying because, if she really cared about u she wouldn't do that ****.Dump her & find a better girl because u deserve better than that whore.
2007-06-12 15:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by MiamiChika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not appropriate behavior if the two of you are committed. That is nice you are thinking of her past family life.. but that is also being codependent... she has disrespected you and you should move on... I know it is difficult, but you should...
2007-06-20 15:14:47 · answer #11 · answered by reeree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋