I'm almost 18, and I have two younger brothers and we live with our mom. My mom has three jobs, working part-time at a cafe, and delivering coupon books and newspapers. I also have a part-time job working in fast food. The problem is my mom is in debt, we are renting our house now and she can't afford that. She goes out everynight, to just hang out, play poker, etc. When I'm at work, no one's there with my brothers. I take places all the time and spend more time with them than she does. She borrows money from me all the time. She always complains about not having enough money or time to go grocery shopping,etc., but she has enough time to go to bars and play free poker. She spends money that she doesn't have. Today, she borrowed money from me because she said she needed gas to go to work, but right now, she's on her way to a bar. When I try to talk to her about it, she just gives me the line "I'm the mother, not you!" She's acting more like a partying teenager than a mother. Help?
2007-06-12 12:35:15 · 6 answers · asked by feather1317 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have a savings account but its minored by her and she can just take the money from there. I've tried lying to her and said that I don't have any money but she called the bank and found out that I did. Wachovia bank sucks by the way. My dad is in the picture but he's been having problems at work and dealing with losing his family because of my mom and he was just in an accident and had a brain bleed. So he can only afford to give child support like every two months and he's living in a camper/trailer on his friend's property. We stay there occasionally, but we leave when he has to go back to work. Our relatives and family friends insist on believing my mother when she says nothing wrong, and her friends have called me a ***** because they think I'm controlling. Those friends are in their 30's-40's and either don't have any children or have children that moved away and don't talk to them. My mom hasn't comprehended that that is what is going to happen to her eventually if she continues
2007-06-13 04:17:24 · update #1
Your mom is a good example of a teenage party girl who dones't want to grow up.
Ssave your money and escape. Don't give her anymore at all for anything. She's wasting it. It will be hard, but you have to save yourself so you can then maybe later help your brothers.
Tell her you have no money and protect it from her. Don't trust her. If she has no money, than why can't you have no money too.
Sadly, but you have to be the parent here and deny her help and access to partying.
2007-06-12 13:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Michael M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WoWw !!!
This is a rough situation. I assume yoour father is NOWHERE in the picture. Could you and your borthers go live with him ?
Either way - you would likely have to get child protective services involved. You are an adult at age 18, but your brothers are being neglected at the very least. Does she drink and drive with them in the car? That's abuse.
If you do get CPS involved - do you have ANY family in the area the three of you could move in with? Have a plan in place. If not - the unfortunate fall out is that you and your brothers could end up in seperate foster families. Most state's CPS TRY to keep siblings together, but its not always possible.
The question you must answer (for both yourself and your brothers) is: Is the family better off the way it is now, or would we be better off in a caring environment, even if we can;t all be in the same place?
I'm sorry you have this weight on you. Its a great deal to handle at your age.
BTW - your mother might be the "mom", but it doesn't mean she is the one acting mature. Parents who abdicate their responsibilities are no longer parents. They don't deserve to be listened to just because they gave brith to you.
The situation you describe, she is more of a genetic material donor than a mother anyways.
2007-06-12 19:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by aa889d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call child protective services and report her.
2007-06-12 19:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell a person like a school couselor, or a responsible neighbor that you trust and tell them, have them call the child resourses place.
2007-06-12 19:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by lala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like mom thinks only of herself . you kids should come first in her life not the partying.
2007-06-12 19:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by bonnie_clyde_4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don"t let her have your money and please call grandma or dad to come get you guys!
2007-06-12 19:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by oldknowitall 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋