If someone i know is sleeping with people and knows he has H.I.V....?

Question

.... can he be arrested? ive tried to tell him to talk to his girlfriend but he wont, i dont know if that means i should say something (which i really want to) or just stay out. That IS someones life though. Also if she checks out her status will her doctor or nurse tell her that she received it for him. Thanks in advance

ok before im seen as 'bad as him' i only found out yesterday, i used to date him about a year ago and before i sleep with new partners i ask them to get tested and show me their results (some people think this is a bit crazy-but in this situation im GLAD) anyway he just stopped calling after that so i left it. HOWEVER i found out yesterday that he has it, i dont know his girlfriend but i know hes been with her for 6 months and isnt faithful, i know his friends and family but im really distressed about this as its clearly quite callous, how do i go about it.

Answer 1

In reading these answers I have to clarify some stuff.....if he is having unprotected sex and knows he has HIV, he is breaking the law, you need to call the public health department and tell them. If you think his girlfriend doesn't know, then tell her.
One poster said that HIV can be contracted in swimming pools, that is impossible, the chlorine in the pool will instantly kill any HIV virus that might possible fall into it, nor can you get it from public surfaces, HIV cannot live outside the body, or a very controlled culture medium for more than a few seconds.
If his girl friend is positive and has not had intercourse for the past year with anyone other than this guy that is infected, yeah, that would be considered proof he gave it to her. If it has been less than a year since she has been with someone else, there is no way to prove who gave it to her if she has it.

Answer 2

Whoa! Hold on a minute. You are jumping to way too many conclusions.

First of all how do you know he is HIV+. Did he tell you? Has he been tested for HIV and has been diagnosed positive? And then even if he is HIV+ there is nothing wrong with him still having sex as long as he is using condoms and not spreading the virus. He should at least be disclosing his status and allow his partner to decide if they are still willing to engage in sexual activity (and there is a lot than can be done that does not involve intercourse but so many people believe that intercourse is the b all and end all!) but again, as long as he is practicing safer sex guidelines and is not intentionally infecting other people there's no crime. Being HIV+ does not mean that you are condemned from having sex ever again but it does mean that a person needs to be more open and honest and needs to take more precautions to eusure that they do not spread the disease.

There have been a number of epidemiologic studies – studies that are conducted in real-life setting, where one partner is infected with HIV and the other partner is not – that have demonstrated consistent use of latex (or polyurethane) condoms provide a high degree or protection against HIV. However, the key to effective protection is consistent and correct use of condoms.

Cheers.

Answer 3

Not sticking up for the guy - but; because of people like him -everybody on the planet has at LEAST ONE STD at this time.

AIDS is bad and most everybody has it as well - recently it has been brought out in science circles what I and some elect others have been saying for many years - it can be caught in an elevator - it can be caught in a public swimming pool and it can be caught if someone drips sweat on you while playing basketball or other sweaty activities or from just being a hot day ... sweat on a door knob where you had a blister pop and you touch the sweat on the door knob or have great skin and just wipe your eyes ...

Sorry - but; there is little hope left for mankind ... and soon all will see what Hollywood did for the world by promoting fornication and adultery, gay rights and beastiality (newest abomination that will soon be made legal - watch friends when they come to visit and keep an eye on your goat and parakeet).

Peace;

Aintmyfault

Answer 4

First, be SURE that he does have HIV. If he does, if he has not told the people he sleeps with that he has it, he is commiting a huge criminal act. This is attempted murder, by law, in CA. In some cases, he could be tried for murder. If you are really positive that he does have HIV, tell him that you are going to speak to Public Health about what he is doing. He has the requirement of teling people he's been with that he HAS HIV, and if he is not using the correct type condoms, he's killing people. Be a good person, and find out, from Public Health, by explaining that you were his girl friend, and need to know for sure.

Answer 5

Tell her. He might hate you after that but you saved someone's life. Even if she does have it already she can be treated for it so that HIV won't become AIDS or so that she can live a longer life. You can also be anonymous. Leave a letter in front her door addressed to her. Send her an e-mail. Do it via myspace. An anonymous phone call from a pay phone. I got herpes which is not a serious as HIV and I wish someone would have told me.

Answer 6

I would tell her and here is why.... wouldn't you want to know. Not only could she not know, she could spread it to many others. It is very easy for a woman to get HIV from a man. SO not only is her life at risk, but so are all the other peoples lives if she does not get tested (and a lot of people dont get tested). Good luck and do the right thing.

Answer 7

If you know then you should definately do something about it, no matter how hard it is to do. Speak to him first, give him the ultimatum that either he tells her, or you tell her. If he wont tell her, then I think you should speak to her about it.

Alternatively, seek help from another source (perhaps a sexual health clinic or somewhere) who might be able to advise you on the best thing to do. Obviously this is going to be a massive shock to the girl and she wont take it well at all so be prepared for that.

Answer 8

Yeah, they can. Especially if that person doesn't know they have HIV. If he doesn't tell his girlfriend, and is still sleeping with her, I think you should maybe say something. It may look a bit dodgy seeing as your an ex.

But HIV tests can't show who gave it to you, just if you have it or not. Maybe suggest to her to get tested?

Answer 9

This man is a murderer. Tell the police, health authorities and anyone who will listen. Publish his name on the net.
Would you be so blase if he was killing women with a knife instead of giving them a disease that they can inadvertently pass to others who will also suffer stigmatised lingering deaths?

Answer 10

That's terrible, sick too, If he's having unprotected sex then that's basically a slow death sentence he is handing out !.

Yes tell the police, goodness knows how many other people he has affected !!.