I met this 18 year old on holidays and we became great friends. After we went home ,we kept in touch by email and phone and built up a relationship. After knowing him for 7 months he said he liked me and said if we lived nearer perhaps we could go out with each other. I really liked him and we even planned meeting up over the summer. We emailed almost everyday and phoned every week. Regulary he told me I was pretty and sweet and that he liked me. After 11 months one night he emailed that I was so important to him. The next day he didnt email me or contact me and the next day he apologised and said there was something he needed to tell me. He said he had a girlfriend and that it just happened. I tried to accept it ,after two months I realised I felt so hurt. he said he didnt know I had feelings for him. He wanted to remain friends but I love him and it hurts me to speak to him. So we no longer talk. He emailed to say he was sorry and it was his fault. Is it my fault? I love him so much!
2007-06-07 11:02:15 · 11 answers · asked by Irisheyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He often emails me or rings me and we talk for a few hours and then he denies that he ever said anything to indicate that he liked me. It hurts me so much because I know he's lying and he does too!
2007-06-13 22:40:23 · update #1
the same thing happened to me I fell for a man that i thought was great till he told me he found a girlfriend .I was hurt but I lived and so will you
2007-06-15 11:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by kim f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really isn't anybody's fault. Long distance relationships seldom work out. They can last for a while, but people change. More importantly, a real live girlfriend one can see and touch will always have an advantage over a cybernetic one.
I think he was since when he said that you were important to him (but notice he didn't say he loved you), and he was since when he apologized.
Don't buy into the "friends" issue. Again, I think his offer is sincere, but it will just prolong your suffering. He's gone. Sorry.
2007-06-15 18:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by dirty t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm.....that is a sucky postion to be i have been in a position like that though!! what u did was keep talkin to him for a litle while and told him how i felt and if it keeps goin and you keep hurting from it totally barke it off bc it is just ganna keep hurting..and if you want say you no i care about you but it hurt to much to talk to you when you have a gf so call me when you don't or say you no what i deserive better then this and screw you!! and just stop talkin to him but... trust me its not your fault the only thing you should have done different is tell him that you cared too..and its not really his fault either bc you did not let him no how you truly felt!! well good luck with it all!!!
2007-06-15 18:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl u don't worry about nothing u will do just fine without him I know u probably think its the end of the world but just give time some time to make u feel better then find someone else but next time make sure there are no secrets.:)
2007-06-15 17:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by babycakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobodys at fault here.. but in the scene if he felt that strongly towards you then he wouldnt have excepted another girlfriend, but since he did then that may be a sign that he was maybe not as serious about you as you were about him.. but find you a man that you have close/personal contact with everyday and the relationship will be more longterm, and more fulfilling
2007-06-15 17:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by ~shawtii~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG. That's so tragic. I would've told him that I liked him if he had already told me the same. I'm sorry. What if you two meet up soon? There's always a possibility that he'll come back and then you can be lovers.
Good luck
2007-06-15 17:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's his fault cause he knew he had a gf, and you didn't. he kept this two-girl thing going for 7 months and you were kept in the dark. but for those two months, you had some time to get out of it, but didn't. but it's mainly his fault.
2007-06-15 16:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by thanks life for the lemonade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The blame game does not heal a broken heart. It should not have happened. You have your own life to take care of. Don't let him ruin your life.
2007-06-15 17:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by candle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not his fault. It's not your fault. It's not his new girl friend's fault. Stuff like this happens. It stinks, but it still happens.
2007-06-08 01:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by Shaky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naaaaaaaa girl u good don't worry bout it... All u need is rebound man and then a good man and you'll be str8888888888
2007-06-15 11:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by Provocative 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋