I have Genital Herpes, my life is over, I cant even date anymore, I feel dirty and out of this wolrd,?

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I am 24 and i was diagnosesd with G.H. I dont feel attractive anymore, I am always scare that i will meet someone get attach and wanting to be with him. I dont know how I got it, i just know that I be single for the rest of my life :( I am scare to give it to someone that I am attractive to, that i will luv him, but that I will have to confess such an emberresing thing. what should i do? when i get a breaout!! i wanna die, i wanna dissapear, is so painful, so not hot, so not cool, so traumatic. I hate my life :(

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This does not mean life is over. In life situations occure and there is always a reason behind it. Just accept this as part of your life, but this does not mean you should hate yourself for it. You should also realize that not everyone in this world is not open minded or understanding about people like yourself, but that does not mean that there are people that understand what you are going through. However , you shouldn't consider shutting yourself from connecting with others because of what you have because how are you ever going to find that someone who will love you and understand what you have. What you should do is talk to a doctor about your concerns and what are treatments that can help reduce the out break. The most common treatments for genital herpes are Acyclovir (Zovirax) , Famciclovir (Famvir) and
Valacyclovir (Valtrex) , but I recommend the proper counseling as well as treatment by a doctor at the same time to cope with this.

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I totally understand what you are going through. I found out I had genital herpes 2 weeks ago. I know it sucks but you can find someone. I started dating someone right before I found out that I have the virus. He is sticking by me. You too will find someone who is going to be supportive and love you regardless. I don't want to give him the disease either. I take antiherpes medication twice a day to prevent/supress outbreaks. It is okay. Herpes is not that bad. There is just a stigma to having a sexually transmitted disease. Eventually, you will forget that you have it because you won't get outbreaks anymore. It is hard telling someone for the first time and I cried and cried and cried, but now I am living. Life could be a lot worse. You could have HIV/AIDS so consider yourself lucky. Don't let these people on here make you feel worse. It is so easy for people to be judgemental. I know it is painful but it gets better. I have researched the virus so much. I have talked to many of people who have herpes and everyone pretty much says the same thing. If you ever need to talk you can always e-mail me. I am here. Remember that 25% of the U.S. has herpes. You are NOT alone.

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I understand how you could feel the way you do but you must remember: 1 out of 5 people on the planet has g.h. When you put that into perspective, there are approx. 250 million people in the U.S. That would be 50 million people suffering with G.H. just like you are. Feel so alone now? G.H. is manageable with medication. Stress will trigger outbreaks, so managing that as well will help. As far as telling someone you are thinking about becoming intimate with, it's best to be up front and honest. It's not a first date topic but when you feel like things are heading in the intimacy direction, have an open, honest discussion about the situation. Offer information and look at it together. Answer any questions. Have safe sex and be honest with your partner when you have a break out. Surprisingly, you'll find that if you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, your partner won't care if he/she gets it. Most will feel like you're worth it. At least, that's my experience. Hope this helps. It's not the end of the world, just a minor bump in the road.

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Right now you are shocked, upset, and scared, and that is completely understandable. But, believe me, you will get through it! Time heals everything!

I have had genital herpes for 6+ years. I contracted the virus right after I turned 17 years old (along with HPV). It was horrible! But, now that I have had both viruses for so long, it's not even a big deal to me anymore. The outbreaks are painful, but they heal. And, believe it or not, guys are a lot more understanding then most women think. I have dated several guys throughout the years and they have all been great to me and stuck by me after I told them what I had, including my fiance.

Don't beat yourself up over it though! It will get better!

If you want to email me I'd be happy to talk to you more about this. Take care!

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There are two types of herpes simplex virus: HSV-1 and HSV-2. Both virus types can cause sores around the mouth (herpes labialis) and on the genitals (genital herpes). Cold sores are caused by the herpes simplex virus (HSV).
Cold sores sometimes called fever blisters, are groups of small blisters on the lip and around the mouth. The skin around the blisters is often red, swollen, and sore. The blisters may break open, leak a clear fluid, and then scab over after a few days. They usually heal in several days to 2 weeks.
The herpes simplex virus usually enters the body through a break in the skin around or inside the mouth. It is usually spread when a person touches a cold sore or touches infected fluid—such as from sharing eating utensils or razors, kissing an infected person, or touching that person's saliva. A parent who has a cold sore often spreads the infection to his or her child in this way. Cold sores can also be spread to other areas of the body.
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Don't put your self down I'm 24 I may not have them put I do have a friend who has it and his 30yrs and he don't even look like he does he meet a nice and beautiful girl that he marry and she knows that he has herpes and she still marry him he take medication and they are very careful and I really thing that if some one really love somebody they love them regardless love can be some times blind. And plus don't let that stop you my mother in law has genital herpes and that lady is the coolest lady I have ever meet so please don't think negative remember you only leave ones and enjoy ask a doctor he can help you and give you in formation on how to protect others. And know this beauty is on the inside not the out side looks don't last but the beauty from the inside does. =)

Answer 10

I am 30 and I have had it for 9 years. I use to cry every time I had an outbreak, but I don't anymore. There are plenty of websites for people with G.H. and for dating. some are anatopia.com, hdate.com, 4in1date.com, stdfriends.com, herpesdating.com just to name a few. And these websites have support and information as well as dating. So cheer up it is NOT the end of the world!