My question is unusual as this older man is friends with my father. We met at a party, not knowing who each other were and got a long so well. At first he wanted to see me again and a few text messages were exchanged. Then the next moring he sent one saying that we shouldn't see eachother again because "if anyone found out it would be damaging for both of us". Now i don't know what to do, I don't want to just give up on it because I havn't felt this way about someone I have met in so long...I just think strong genuine feelings shouldn't be ignored when they arrive in your life by chance!
(I am 19...20 next month...and he is 37, he has been married but was separated 6 years ago and he has two children, one is 6 and one is 10)
2007-06-05 23:58:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go for it, who cares what anybody says.........have fun in life, life is too short to sit back and worry about things that you don't need to worry about..........i'm 32 and seeing a man that is 50.......he's got 3 kids that are above 18 and a grandchild and we are having the times of our lives........as long as you guys get along and have fun when your with him,
2007-06-06 00:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it won't work, not to mention what it will do to his and your father's relationship. He is much too old for you at 20. He's going through a midlife crisis, and you're his little Barbie doll. He was right in saying it could be damaging...I think his initial thought was a 'fling', then the guilt got to him, as you say he's just 'separated', not divorced..and his oldest child is HALF your age... You'll find someone nearer your own age and be so grateful you did. This situation would spell disaster for everyone concerned...you, your father, him, his children and wife. Truth hurts...but at least you're questioning it and not acting on. Ask your father what he thinks about it....hmmmm
2007-06-06 00:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by Rocky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my dear it will only work if you and him put forth the effort. my husband and i have a 17 year difference. i am 26 and hes 43 fixing to be 44 in august. my father is 46. we have been married 4 years and still gonig strong. i love him with all of my heart. hes a good man and i wouldnt trade him for the world. he also has kids ones 10 and the other is 13. if you are ready for that kind of relationship then go for it. i dont understand his logic about if he told anyone it would ruin him. that puzzels me. its not like your underage. anyway i hope this helps. take care dear
2007-06-06 00:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by amative_unity 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, Dejas Vu.
About 10 years ago I was in your shoes.
I had a relationship with a divorced man 16 years older, who worked with my Uncle.
We had a wonderful time together, he taught me a lot.
But we had to sneak around sometimes, and when my parents and his parents found out (we were also neighbors)
All hell broke loose.
It broke my mother and father's hearts when they found out.
They thought he forced me into it and it was hard explaining that a one year relationship was not "forced." I had to end it because I was "forced" to, by my parents. It broke his heart.
Was it worth it?
Not really.
2007-06-06 00:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by FunnyHuney 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I always loved men double the age from me. What a lovely excitement.
but you're young, fresh, and he's older.
one day when you are in your 30s, he will be in his 50s.
think before you marry, but hey, enjoy it.
i don't know what else to say. you are getting mature now. it is your choice!
2007-06-06 00:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by Spark S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its all ways hard taking on a man and his children .but hell what have you got to loose .give it a try . threes very few good men out there .
2007-06-06 00:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is probably worried your dad will kick his butt. I am an older man, age 62. If this guy doesn't want you, keep me in mind.
2007-06-06 00:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by regerugged 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Follow your heart! Good luck!
2007-06-09 03:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by krafty1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is 17 yrs older than yu. And he has 2 children.Children are not babies.. No need to think anymore..forget him..If yu ask why .. send me an e -mail I will explain detailed.
2007-06-06 00:08:15 · answer #9 · answered by curiousbee24 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he is not comfortable with the age gap, then No it won't work.
2007-06-06 00:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by Friend to all 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋