Hey. Im 16, almost 17 and me and my first boyfriend want to have sex, but Im sooo scared.... I dont know what to do or say and Im realy embarresed about asking people for help on this topic... but I need help! Whatwas your first ttime like? Im so scared! Should I be? Advise?
2007-06-05 23:50:37 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't.
Don't give up your body just because your 'first' boyfriend wants to be the first with you.
Don't.
And if he insists, you know he's only after you for sex. As soon as he gets what he wants he WILL move on.
Don't.
2007-06-06 00:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by ~Casper~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u r still too young to be thinkin abt having sex.Obviously people do it before they r even 15.But hey dnt rush cos u will crush.dnt do things that u will regret.look back on ur life n think 'wow, i'm impressed',i actually made right choices.Any guy who deserves u n respects u shld be alright wiv u saying no to sex at this age.u've been able to wait till u r almost 17 so i think it will be advisable if u CHALLENGED urself to wait until u r 18 whn u shld be physically,socially and emotionally prepared to have sex as well as confident in the way u will express urself to ur partner.
It takes more than physical contact to have sex wiv a guy.it is more like a spiritual bond n u get attached to the person so yeah watch who u get attached to.I wish u good luck n hope u take this advice.it will help u n u will be proud of urself.In short dnt have sex until u r 18.It will help u.you can do it.
2007-06-06 00:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 'being scared' means that you are not ready to have sex. That doesn't mean you're immature, it just means that it won't be the best of experiences for you in the long run. Be realistic and remember that he probably won't be your husband or even long-term boyfriend, so if you are uncomfortable with that idea, then just tell him you don't want to do it because you're not ready. End of story. If he gives you ANY pressure after that, realize that he is being extremley immature and not really thinking about you. NO MAN will beg for sex if he is confident. On the other hand, if you are simply scared of the physical aspect...well, its different for everyone, but most people say its fine if they are ready for it. So, if you are curious and not feeling pressured in any way, then go ahead and chalk it up to experience.
2007-06-05 23:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by pudgy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were expecting advice on how to go about this...and what it feels like, etc. But before that, I think you should seriously reconsider wanting to have sex in the first place. I would say wait. Okay, that could sound conservative to many people nowadays. But seriously, wait; I promise that it will be worth it on the night of your marriage. You're scared, and you're not ready for it. Really, wait. And if your boyfriend is pressuring you into having sex (which i'm not saying he is, but if he is), I really think you should reconsider your relationship maybe. Bottom line: wait until marriage.
2007-06-13 15:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too young, it seems like your being pressured by this guy. Just be honest with him tell how you feel... if he backs down, this is a good sign that you have a caring individual. Whatever you dont give in to the pressure wait til you 're ready and when that time comes make sure you use protection.
2007-06-13 20:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by Rafa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17????? Lady... get a grip on your guy. How old is he?
If he wants only sex from you then I suggest its high time you let him go.
Secondly, dont get into such an act without being prepared mentally. If you really like this guy and you are also into the sex thing - go ahead - with protection.
Else its a bad idea. You will get to know about your guy in a jiffy when you talk to him about your thoughts. If he takes it positively, you stay with him... else you know what to do.
2007-06-13 20:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by Suraj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it were me i would wait. you are young and i made the mistake of having sex at your age and it really wasn't worth it. it adds to the everyday stress of high school, exams and whatever else is going on in your life at this time. if he cares for you at all, he wouldn't ask, just be your self and tell him you are not ready. be truthful, believe me once you do have relations it changes everything. besides its a big step to take, enjoy each others company but please don't let him push you into something you are not ready for. take your time and talk to an adult whether it is your mom or an aunt, talk to someone that you are close to and fill comfortable with. that will also ease your doubts.
2007-06-06 00:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush?? Don't feel pressured into doing anything in life you're not comfortable with. Believe me when I say that you'll know when the time is right, and when it is, use protection. The right guy will respect your decision (all decisions you make) and will absolutely understand using protection when YOU decide the time is right. The wrong guy, won't understand and will make a scene.
2007-06-13 16:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 'scared and embarrassed' you shouldn't even be thinking about having sex. You're too young to start with..and what are you going to do with you become pregnant or get a STD? Can you deal with it by yourself? Please respect your body and your morals. He only wants you for that very reason...sex! Then he'll be gone, as you'll have nothing else to offer. Guys only think with one brain and the fact he is your 'first'...he's definitely hoping to score. Don't give in to him, please. Wait until you're older and then you'll know it's right and won't be scared or embarrassed. If he likes you, he'll wait until you graduate..otherwise, he's not worth it.
2007-06-06 00:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by Rocky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dont
you arent ready or you wouldnot be so anxious.
your first time can only happen once and you need to make it special.
at 17 you still have plenty of time for sex. wait until you are ready and that it will be special.
you cannot go back once you have had sex and wish you could start over.
please do not make any mistakes. you will have many years to live with the demons
2007-06-13 17:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋