i recently did some community service for beating someone up (badly) but i dont feel bad about it, should I?

Question

he was picking on some little kids in our apartments and i told him off and he got violent with me while he started the fight i ended it i think he had abroken nose, fractured ribs and a nasty cut on his eyebrow, but basically this wasnt the first time i've hurt people in fights only the first time ive been caught and the one thing that bothers me is that i dont feel bad about it and i think that maybe there is something wrong with me

every one i know agrees that everyone i get physical with deserved it but the only problem is, is that i go over the top,ive done anger management but that didnt help at all, i dont know what kind of answer im expecting but any help would be appreciated (professionals usually just lecture me)

Answer 1

If you felt strongly enough about this to kick this guys butt then you need to take your lumps for doing so. For every action there is a reaction, in this case you might have been right but often there is a price for being right.

Answer 2

Forget all this try to reason it out crap. Bullies only respond to physical force. Standing up for yourself is an important part of life. Never throw the first punch and never be apologetic about giving some ego inflated punk his medicine. If you were standing up for some smaller kids this is even more admirable. Evil flourishes when good men stand by and do nothing. I got into a lot of trouble when I was a kid for the same reasons and I have never regretted it. Do your time, stay strong and protect those who need protecting.

(In response to additional information.)
The rage is a problem. It is also a survival mechanism. The most important thing to do is to keep it in check until you need it. Stay on top of it. Maintain reason until reason tells you to let go. The older you get, the easier it will be to control. Just remember, never wish it would just go away, because someday you'll need it. When that happens, you will be glad it's there.

Answer 3

Well the reason you fight is not the problem as you did it to protect others and that is all good in my book but it seems you take too much pleasure in it which could be one of your primitive reactions that you need to curb. Everybody has feelings that they could just hit someone sometimes but it is how you act and knowing when to stop, and maybe seeing truly what your doing and imaging someone was doing it to you or your family or a loved one.
You know you can fight so maybe sub consciously you need to prove that, and be confident that you can. also try put that energy into a martial art where you can learn the disciplines of fighting as well.

Answer 4

It sounds like you started getting violent for self defense.....in that case I don't think you should feel badly about it.....although I have heard of self defense techniques that are less dangerous, there are several different types of martial arts that teach u self defense in a non-violent way, u could probably check on that...but if you have done this several other times, if u pick fights alot then yes that is definitely a problem that u should be worried about

Answer 5

The proper thing to do when you see someone abusing or harassing others is to call the police. You may feel like some big tough macho protector by going in and beating people up but it's a very stupid thing to do. You could end up severely injured or killed. It's the police's job and they are trained to deal with situations like this. Getting into fights and beating people up is a very unwise thing to do. You don't know the mentality of these people and it's very likely that you could suffer retaliation. Keep your testosterone in check or you'll end up with more criminal, civil and possibly worse problems.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with you!
It was not your fault that you got into the fight. However, you seem to be having problems with anger management if this type of thing has happened before. And you say it has.
It is a good thing that you are considering the possibility that you may be wrong in your behaviour toward others. That is the first step toward making a change. Investigate Anger Management information or courses. There might be something available to you. It seems to me that you would like to find another way of dealing with life. Learning a different way is possible.
Even if you have tried the Anger Management before....
try counselling....just keep trying to find a different path. It is self-discipline and alternate behaviour that you are seeking.

Answer 7

In this case it sounds like you were protecting kids so you probably shouldn't feel bad. It does seem though that you went a bit over the top. Maybe you should find ways to learn to work things out without letting it turn violent so that you don't end up killing someone or getting sued and stay out of legal trouble.

Answer 8

He received his "reward" for doing what he shouldn't, and so did you. You both should take the whole experience as a lesson.

"Feeling bad" really shouldn't enter into it. Just learn from it, and move on. To make peace with yourself and your beliefs/faith, just don't repeat the experience. Learn and grow, and remember you can't do that feeling like dirt.

Good Luck. And Goddess Bless.

Answer 9

Nope.

You didn't start the fight.

You were protecting yourself.

He was picking on kids and you confronted him.

Serves him right. Sucks you got community service though.

Has the guy learned his lesson or is he still picking on kids?

Answer 10

he deserved it but come on look bro a broken .nose ok.
but the cut damn man
but you are still a hero for saveing those kids growing up to be thugs emos bulies you no what im sayin