Do my parents love me?

Question

I grew up in an average-income family.I have parents and 2 sisters-one older and one younger.
My dad used to hit me with a belt -though he never did that to my sibs.Now sometimes if i did something bad he slaps me,and i never saw him do that to my little sister.
yes,he yells at my sisters when they are naughty but he never hit them.
There are times when my mom hurts my feelings.She scolds me if i curse but she lets my big sis go if she says bad words.
My little sis is spoiled by both my parents.
By the way my parents say that they love me but i don't think they do and if they do they probably love my sisters more than me.

i try hard to be a good girl and yes,they may love me.
my problem is the physical punishments
that is given most to me not to my sibs
i'm 11 now

Answer 1

There is a difference between like, and love. Yes my parents love me, but I don't think they "like me".

I was in the exact same boat. I am 66 years old now, and I am convinced that my parents loved me, but did not like me. Do you understand the difference. My older sister cried at the drop of a hat, and my younger brother was the baby in the family. Ever time my sister cried, I was wrong immediately without any questions asked. I also think my personality clashed with my mother.

Yes it did have a large effect on my self esteem, and married the first guy that told me he loved me. I was so starved for love. Don't make my mistake when it comes that time for you to commit to a man. I have been divorced for 28 years, and was miserable for 20 till I got divorced.

Answer 2

your right, some parents do love their kids more than kids love their parents but that is also a part of growing up. The kids will go through stages where their parents are their Hero's and then where the parents are the dimmest people in the world, then go back to loving them like they have never loved before. It's hard on a parent to lose a child. You have had that child since it's conception and spent your life living for that child. A parent is NOT suppose to bury a child, the child is suppose to bury the parent. When the child does grow up and have kids of their own, they (the child) learns what unconditional love really is and has more love for their parents now then they ever had in their lives.

Answer 3

The hardest thing about being a parent is that you learn while you're on the job. Your parents do love you. Are you a boy? They might have stronger feelings about how boys behave.
Sometimes, too, some kids are easier to deal with than others> My son never ever argues. If he's wrong, he says so and apologises. And straight away the situation is defused. My daughter on the other hand is snappy and moody. And she sees criticism in everything she does. It is very hard.
If you feel that your parents are picking on you, check the way you react. Learn not to be cheeky. Say you're sorry. And see where it gets you.

Answer 4

Though it may be hard to believe, I promise, your parents love you. There's some sort of gene that God just gives a mom or dad that MAKES them care. Even when they beat you...they do it because they are overprotective(care a lot, cough cough)When you're in pain, they hurt 10x worse because they made you...they wouldn't want anything bad to happen to you. The simple fact that they would even say they love you means something because if they really didn't they wouldn't be able to say it. See being the one with the strictest discipline as a blessing, not lack of favoritism. It may be that out of your sisters they believe you have the most promising future, and like I said-they love/care about you-so they are harsh with you to make sure you stay on track. Every parent shows love differently. Trust me, I am one. : )

Answer 5

Hi Honey, How old are you?
I think that some times there are issues with your parents between them it probably isn't you. you be strong and well behaved, and know that there are I'm sure people who love you, and I'm sure your folks love you too, but are having other problems that may make them treat you like this with out actually realizing. If you need to talk to someone contact kids help line, not sure what country your in but I'm in New Zealand, I'm sure there are free call numbers where you are. just to have a chat and let your feelings go to someone who is a professional and will make you smile.

Answer 6

It's tough being the middle child. The older sis is given more allowances because she is older. The youngest gets by with stuff because she is the youngest. It's tough being stuck in the middle.

Maybe you can find some books or articles about being the middle child (there are psychological studies on this - your librarian can help you). Reading will give you validation of your feelings, then maybe you can share with your parents and help them to see what they are doing to you. I wish you the best!

Answer 7

If you find it hard to talk to your parents, you should write them a letter stating exactly how you feel. I'm pretty sure they love you, even though they have a funny way of showing it. I know how you feel when it comes to being treated differently than your siblings. I'm my mother's middle child too. Except, I have 2 brothers. One's older than me. And the other is younger than me. When you write this letter let them know that you feel neglected and mis-treated. And please stop cursing. All children should be scolded for cursing. And it's really disrespectful to do it in front of your elders. I hope you write that letter. It'll help out alot. Good luck.

Answer 8

Yes, your parents love you. But you can't really dictate how they show that love. Each of you girls is different and the parents will react to those differences in a different manner. Because they treat your sisters differently doesn't mean they love them less or more or you less or more...just differently. What is important to learn is that you have to love yourself. Your parents are doing the best they can. You do the best you can. Learn to accept yourself as you are, without judgment. After all, you are truly great and wonderful. I know it.

Answer 9

Yup,they do,but they have a weird way of expressing their love.They abuse you a bit,that's for sure and it's unfair that your dad whips you with a belt and the part about him not punishing your siblings as harsh as he punishes you .Your mom also hurt you emotionally,and when verbal and physical abuse and unfair treatment is enough,the fact that your mom and dad are the ones mistreating you doubles the pain.Talk to a guidance counselor and if the abuse gets worse,call the police.

Answer 10

Ugh...the my parents love.......more than me thing...you poor kids.

Ok,here's the deal. Your parent's love you equally but differently.

The problem in your family is that your parents are of the belief that punsihment should be different for boys and girls. It's a pretty old fashioned way to parent - but it still exists. Be harder on the boy to make him stronger type thing...be kinder to the girls because they are the weaker sex...etc...it isn't favoratism at all...it's just, like I said, a veryold fashioed belief system.