I got mad that my wife wants to buy her retired Dad a gift certificate for father's day because I just lost my job and she doesn't work. Am I nuts? I mean, we have kids to feed and they are practically millionaires. Would you all be mad?
2007-06-05 20:32:36 · 21 answers · asked by rich e rich 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
What is hers is yours and yours hers... how many times has her family helped you guys out. Who's keeping score? Maybe your wife is?
2007-06-05 23:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-01 05:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't take out your frustrations on losing your job on your wife. Don't get angry at her just because she's near.
Secondly, a gift certificate is a poor gift. It says 'I don't know you well enough to know what you would like, so hereby I give you some money in another form'.
I'd strongly suggest that the wife gets her father something more personal; not money in another form, and while she's at it: Bear in mind that the family has no income at the moment.
And you: Keep your frustrations in check.
2007-06-05 21:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just because her parents are practically millionaires doesn't mean they don't deserve gifts for important occasions, and her father's day is one of them.
That said, she should be working, especially since you just lost your job which I'm assuming was your only source of household income. There's no good reason she should still be sitting around the house when you guys are going to be struggling. [I'm assuming she's not disabled, since if she were, she'd be getting disability checks.]
Money is the number one thing that most couples fight about, and it can get ugly. I hope you guys get through it okay. Best of luck to you both!
2007-06-05 20:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by xnikki118x 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well it is her father and it father's day..(so no I would not get mad but) If she wants to give her father a gift, and I am sure they are aware of your situation and would understand, she could give him a lovely card with a lovely letter inside (cheap but effective) and he would probably appreciate it more than a gift..... And maybe talk her into getting a job and soon to help out.. As you stated you have kids... they come first...
2007-06-05 20:41:31 · answer #5 · answered by Rebel 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be upset about it unless she wants to buy him a really expensive one. He is, afterall, her father, and he deserves to be loved/thanked/respected regardless of your financial situation. It's not his fault you lost your job.
I'd say it's fine for your wife to buy him a gift certificate as long as it's a reasonable amount ($20 versus $100). If this man is intelligent at all, he'll realize that you lost your job, can't afford much, and will be grateful for whatever he receives.
2007-06-06 02:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! I'd be mad!
Buy him a card and make it up to him next year.
The money you have now goes towards the kids and healthy living.
Since you are the only moneymaker as she doesn't work, and you are currently losing your job, the money should not be spent on gifts.
2007-06-06 01:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that "mad" is the appropriate response. It sounds like you two need to talk and work this out. Certainly you have an excellent point and you just need to get her to understand that now isn't a good time for gift-giving and maybe you could get something later or do something different for him this year.
2007-06-05 21:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by Some Guy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be very rude to NOT give him some kind of gift,but it could be a belated present,she should wait till you have the money,and I think it is inconsiderate of her considering you just lost your job. I think you should start llooking for a new job,and your wife should to.
2007-06-05 22:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by princessalysa09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's normal to get mad. I would too if I'm u. Hmm...but it'll be good to hear her side of story, talk to her and discuss about this issue. There's no point mulling over it. It'll only make u feel more miserable about it.
Need to let her understand how u feel and what's the consequences of her actions. Tell her about the financial situation both of u are in. In any conflict, the best way will be to sit down calmly together to discuss about it.
That's just what i feel. All the best there
2007-06-05 20:49:21 · answer #10 · answered by yawh0001 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i am assuming that since your parents in law are rich, youre wife grew up well off and maybe she doesnt fully grasp the value of money, but basically you are not crazy if you are having financial problems then unnecessary purchases are... unnecessary.
p.s. maybe she doesnt know how to express her love other than buying gifts if this is so then maybe you could explain to her that a more expensive gift doesnt mean you love someone more (btw im sorry if it seems i am talking down to her)
2007-06-05 21:53:12 · answer #11 · answered by thegreatbuddha15 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋