how to forget unwanted past?

Question

friends, i just want to ask for advices whether you have experience it or not on how to forget your past..like, when you hate it if you see things, or been into place you have bad memories and you want to forget them..but anytime I think about it, it keeps haunting me down..let me directly tell the point..having had bad relationship with a guy for just a short period of time..but cause so much pain and now all i realized is that I never love him but only pity him..and hate him now...what I struggle is the place, the things , the memories that keep affecting me and bring me bad feelings...how can I forget them and overcome them???

Answer 1

I know that my mind is kinda like a computer. It is programed by what I put into it.
So, I'm careful what I allow to go into my thoughts. My close relationship with God provides me with a "filter" that helps me make good choices about what I allow myself to think about. When you take control of what goes into your thoughts, [with God's help] the struggle goes away. Read Philippians 4:8 .....whatsoever things are true, ....honest, ...just, pure, lovely, good report, if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Do a word study.....

Answer 2

First you have to STOP HATING him because you can never stop hurting if you don't stop hating. The realisation that the whole experience now belongs in the past will help you move on, and then of course TIME heals wounds as they say - with time you will see that the memories gradually fade away.

Answer 3

That is a hard one. I used to live in the past with bad memories and now they are gone. Mindfullness is a good way to deal with things. Look in to a book called Wherever you go there you are by Jon Kabbot Zin.

Answer 4

why should you think about the unwanted.