I have not dated much of my life due to being overweight.
I have lost 38 pounds and going!!!
My parents want me to get married but they don't realize
that I need time to see what is out there. Plus I am finishing
my BA and want to go to law school.
Because of this I want to get married like 2 - 4 years
from now.
One of my parents is unhealthy and really wants me to
get married so they can see my children. But I want to
make sure I have resources to support my future
children and my parents. I am torn, is it okay to wait?
2007-06-05 20:28:25 · 12 answers · asked by Okay Hero 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It isok to wait you have the responsibility of your future children etc and it is great that you have and are putting everything in order but be kind to your parents as they sound great ~~
2007-06-05 20:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is OK to wait. You can't let others push you into things that you're not ready for. These are major steps in your life that you are taking. Good for you for all the progress you have made so far. Though your parents think you being married with kids will be the path to happiness... sad to say it is not for many that rush into things. You have to make sure you are at a point in your life that you are happy with what you have accomplished and with your self. Because once you become a wife and mother all your dreams and needs tend to take a back seat to everyone else. I wish you the best of luck with your life's journey.
2016-05-17 22:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your want you parents to see get married and have kids. Look at it this way. This your life not your parents and you are the only one that knows if your ready to get married.You are still so young.I got married at the ago 18 and had a kid at the ago 20 just because my dad was sick and he want a grandchild. I am 28 with 2 kids.What about husband he gone. I knew then I was not ready to get married. Great job on your weight loss. Give it time and do it when you are ready.
2007-06-05 21:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. In fact, sounds like you really have your act together. You are responsible, aware of consequences and intelligent. I compliment you and honor your choices. Stick to your position. Ask your parents if they would rather have grandchildren from an unhappy marriage or a happy daughter who is doing what she really wants to do? Don't let your parents live your life for you. Live your own life. You are on the right track.
2007-06-05 20:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's okay to wait... don't feel pressured. Marriage is not one thing that you can jump into just because your parents want you to do it... it takes two people to make it work! You have to find a decent guy + finish school + make sure that guy will treat you right + find a job to support your family... that's reason enough for you to wait.
2007-06-05 23:39:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course its okay to wait. You have to find someone to be happy with. If your not happy with that person then whats the point. Make yourself happy before you try to make someone else happy. It's like the old sayin you gotta love yourself before you can love someone else. Do what makes you happy and follow your heart. When you find that special someone you will know when the time is right. Don't rush it. I all the time hear life is to short. It's only gonna be as short as you want to make it. No body really knows how short life will be. Only GOD knows, He has our lives planned before we are even born. Just believe and pray that you will find someone who you can love an that they will love you just as much if not more in return.Again don't rush it and follow your heart. And congrads on the weight loss and your strive to make something of yourself. That alone should make them happy. Good Luck and Best Wishes to you in the future.
2007-06-05 20:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's okay to wait! there's no need to jump into marriage just to get children and be miserable, broke and resentful.Take your time, build your career and enjoy life. When you do decide to get married and have kids..it should be for the right reasons
2007-06-05 20:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lemme guess.. u're Asian right?
it's fine, in fact I read from an article somewhere that the chance of a marriage survived is higher after you are over 25... and u're still too young, you need to enjoy life first before you tie the knott!
2007-06-05 21:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by jeung_gorgeous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't get married just because they want you to. plus 24 is too young to get married in my opinion. i say wait till your ready. i like that you have a plan, i just hope your not going to marry the next Tom, Dick or Harry! he had better be Mr. RIGHT!!. good luck
2007-06-05 20:43:25 · answer #9 · answered by Tante 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen lassy,I'm sure ultimately ur parents want u to be happy. There is no age that is delegated for marriage. Take ur time. Take in the scenery & let it ride. Its ur life to live.
2007-06-05 20:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋