Ive been going through MaJoR deppresson!!!?

Question

ive been very depressed lately with the drama with my boyfriend...working two jobs....employees....bills.....friends and just people and general. My boyfriend says he thinks i need to seek therapy but thats easy for him to say cause he has a psychiatrist and he still irks my nerves. I dont know its just that lately ive been in this whole i hate everybody whos in my presence and i just lash out or dont respond at all but cry....Ive even been going off at my mom and it hurts me because shes the one thats always been there for me since i was she had me. I just feel like i hate my life and i even think about how would people feel if i was to die or sumthin i feel they wouldnt care about me anyway I need some help and alot of advice to know how to get over this type of depression plz help


keke

Answer 1

Keekz girl you have to come to understand that life has many ups and down but usually and hopefully you're not at either one for very long. It sounds like you have a very stressful & busy lifestyle which can be very demanding on someone's well being. You need to learn to make time for yourself and do things that relax you. You may also want to try meditating as silly as it sounds.

After I broke up with my ex I had a very hard time forgetting about her, thinking about her, dwelling on her, and I realized that it was only making things worse for me, and I was absorbing all this negative energy. So I went online and looked for some basic meditation instructions and it actually helped me become more at peace. It doesn't work right away but after you continue to meditate it helps you gain an inner peace.

I hope you also consider that if you were to pass there would be people close to you who would miss you very much and would mourn over your passing. But try to keep those thoughts out of your mind, you're a long way from that day :)

Answer 2

Depression is considered to the be common cold of mental health issues. It is common and there isn't much of a cure.

Most people with depression don't need any medical help, but there are a range of anti-depressant and anti-stress drugs that can help.

But wether you receive medication or not, all people with depression should also receive some sort of therapy.

Various approaches include, dealing with stress. For example, meditation, exercise, or just regular exercise.

It also helps to do things to take control of your life. It might be simply a matter of making a decision about your future or getting rid of your annoying boyfriend.

Next, it is important to enjoy life. One trick is this. Make a list of 10 things that you enjoy doing but having done in a long while. If you do at least one thing on that list you will be guaranteed to feel better. One friend made such a list and did all 10 things, and felt great. But normally I only have to do 1 or 2 things.

It might be...read a good book, match a good movie. Go for a walk in a national park, go dancing, travel, take photographs, go out with friends to try some new food...actually I did all those things recently...so I am feeling good :-)

If you can't talk to your mother, write a nice note saying thankyou. Even if you don't feel good, you can make others feel better. If they feel better they will make you feel better.

Professional help may be an option, but sometimes good friends will help you more. but if they can't go to see a professional.

Answer 3

Dear Keke,
First of all, if you are thinking about how people will feel if you die, then suicide has crossed your mind. It is very important that you talk with someone about your feelings. It doesn't have to be a psychiatrist. A psychologist, or social worker can help also. If you have a religion that you ascribe to and feel comfortable talking with them, please do. Friends who you feel are really there for you can possibly help. I'm thinking that you are so overwhelmed that not only is your body tired, but your mind is overloaded with STUFF that you really need to talk with someone professional who can help you sort out some things you are trying to deal with. Your Mom may understand that something is bothering you other than her because you say that she has been there for you all of your life. If you can go to a clinic or hospital and let someone know that you NEED to talk because you believe that you are depressed. PLEASE take care of yourself and know that you deserve to feel better. Yes, people would miss you, don't doubt that. Your Mom cares so much, from what you say. She
would miss you terribly. I wish you the best life. kaksy0302

Answer 4

keke, as someone said in the 1st answer, its normal part of life. and you will be right in saying that its easy for us to say that, sitting in front of our PC's and miles away from your prolem. its only you who knows how much it hurts, and how difficult it gets to look at it in a positive way.
you know the best solace i've found when troubled is in reading. that is some time where people have to leave you alone, even if they might wana talk a lot. and that is a time where you can think for yourself, what is troubling you the most, and how you can clear it out of ur daily life. and normally i've seen, it comes out to be the most simplest of things. and seeing what all you have been handling with d jobs, ur daily stuff, ur family and ur boyfriend, you are smart enough to have taken care of all this, and you know you still can. just try n find some relaxing time, be it music, dancing, reading whtever u like. be alone for a while. but ahah, don't think of extremes. because life is too beautiful to miss it for some body / or some people who might not realise the importance of it.

Answer 5

Hi Keke, I know how you feel. I can totally relate to how you're feeling. The difference between you and me is that you have a boyfriend. Sometimes I feel so sad because everyone around me seems to have their life on track, and I'm left behind by myself with no one who will care for me.

But just remember that you were the winner and got the chance to come out into the world. We all have our bad days, but just remember that you've also had some wonderful days.

We seem to feel like only bad things happen to us, because we forget about all the great times we've had.

Sorry for the longness of my message, but my advice to you is:

Try and find out more about *you* Try and see what makes you happy. Try learning something new. At the moment I'm trying to learn to play guitar. Go sky-diving, take up a yoga class.......*meditate* with some soft, gentle music. But mostly just try and take care of yourself.

Cheers!

Answer 6

Ummm, S E, a physiologist is someone who deals with the body. I'm sure you meant a Psychologist, or a Psychiatrist.

Note... psychologists and psychiatrists are two very different professionals. In this situation, I'd recommend finding a registered counseling psychologist.

Answer 7

See depression treatments/resources at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 2: try to get your boyfriend to do the candlegazing, and walk briskly for 30 mins daily with you: say you need him to protect you, and when you feel better, have a talk with your mother.

Answer 8

Well if you broke your arm and could not work you'd go to the doc; right? Well going to a physiologist is because your head (thoughts) hurt. If nothing else, they help you vent not at your mom who loves you but at them who you pay to abuse. Don't denounce it just because of the BF, find a good shrink and try.

Answer 9

melancholy is two varieties minor melancholy like anixety important melancholy and it is 2 variety unipolar "melancholy in elementary terms" and bipolar"melancholy then anxitey then melancholy........" a million. help of the point of functioning. 2. A hollow or sunken section. 3. Displacement of a factor downward or inward. 4. a short-term psychological state or persistent psychological affliction characterised by thoughts of unhappiness, loneliness, melancholy, low shallowness, and self-reproach; accompanying signs and indications contain psychomotor retardation or much less often agitation, withdrawal from social touch, and vegetative states which includes loss of urge for nutrition and insomnia. Syn: dejection; depressive reaction, depressive syndrome.