l don't mean just a spank, but hitting them accross the back, dragging them, and slapping them accross the head (only a tap, but still)? Would you just call CPS or talk to her first? Would you intervene in front of the child?
2007-06-05 18:39:44 · 13 answers · asked by Weeme 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Firstly, if you are concerned for the child's immediate safety, you could just go up to your neighbour and ask if everythings ok. This might be enough to get her to stop at the time. Then you could talk to her by starting a conversation on how kids can be tough, discipline techniqes etc. You should get a feel from this about her views, she may be really stressed out or something. lf she confides in you, you could try offering her some help with the children, offer to babysit or let the kids play at your house. lf she doesn't see anything wrong with her behaviour you should call CPS because there's a chance she could really hurt a child. You just need to trust your instincts about how far to take it, but that is what l would do.
2007-06-05 18:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
depends how close you are to her. if this has been going on for a while then it has to stop now.speak to her if you can ,tell her you're concerned about her and her child. ask her if she needs help.does she have any support? lots of things could be happening that you dont know about, but the child is the main concern.i dont think her behaviour is acceptable at all and if it was one of my neighbours(we are all quite close) i would definately get involved(nosy neighbour syndrome).if things got worse and her child was seriously hurt how would you feel? do something today better to lose a neighbour than stand back and do nothing.she will, in time, thank you im sure. please dont look the other way, too many people do this nowadays and children suffer needlessly.social services can help as can you if you're a friend. help with childcare or offer to be a shoulder to cry on but dont just leave it. it wont go away. that poor childs mind will be totally mixed up. you dont say how old he/she is but no-one should have to be hit like that.let us know how things go. good luck x
2007-06-05 18:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by kazzy3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I saw anyone, whether a "neighbor" or someone in the parking lot at the mall or Wal-Mart hitting a child, you can be assurred I would intervene.
In my city, authorities would probably do nothing; as most won't. City, County, and State officials are reluctant to become "involved" in "family matters". Even state DHS departments "back off" from "child abuse" charges, protecting themselves from any legal ramifications. Children have died or sufferred extreme abuse due to the "system".
The murder, and horrific decapitation of a four-year old child, known only as "Precious Doe", is unimaginable; but, it did happen; and, it could "happen" in your neighborhood. Those who see a child being abused, or suspect a child is being abused, and fail to report that abuse, are no better than the abuser!
City, County, State, and Federal agencies in charge of child welfare are staffed by employees who are only "taking home a paycheck"; and a good one.! They stand behind the "excuse" that "it is the law". Responsibility to protect a human life, no matter how young or old, is not in their "job description".
When their child, mother, father, sibling, or other family member is shot by a a drive-by killer, dies because a drunken driver plowed into their vehicle, or some student in their child's school deternines that he/she has been offended and decides to "take out" as many people as he/she can, then maybe--maybe, students, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, sisters, brothers will stand up and say, "No more"--whatever ethnic group they represent.
2007-06-05 19:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Poots 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unless you see some serious signs of abuse then stay out of it...a tap to the head isn't that bad, and dragging your child is sometimes the only way to get a kid to move depending on their age. The only thing you have described so far that would concern me is the hitting across the back, this could be bad if it was done to the point of causing alot of pain. If it really bothers you talk to her first since if you know her well, you could really upset her with CPS...they don't throw away records, once you are on thier list of bad parents or suspected bad parents, you are always on their list.
2007-06-05 18:46:03 · answer #4 · answered by MOMMY585 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I wouldn't approach the mother, if I were you. Call CPS and ask them if what you saw requires their attention. Just off hand I would say it doesn't. But they will help you decide. If they do decide to intervene, it's better if they don't know you were the likely one who called. It's best not to have those kinds of tension between neighbors.
2007-06-05 18:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she's doing this in public, imagine what she does in the privacy of her home. Call CPS now. You can't investigate, but they can. You can do so anonymously. Also, if it continues after the call, call CPS back. Sometimes it takes a few calls to establish a pattern of behavior and not just a one time thing.
2007-06-05 18:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, ya - I think I would call CPS. The uncontrolled hitting, dragging, and things like that are clear cut warning signs of abuse. It can't hurt, just make the call.
PS, I am all for spanking, but what you described is abuse.
2007-06-05 20:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would call CPS then talk to her. And hell yes I would intervene in front of the child.
2007-06-05 18:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
tough! You should call CPS let them investigate you can be anonymous so you will not to deal with conflict with the neighbors. Even if you talk it may not help matters much. Call cps
2007-06-05 18:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by tamp 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
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