I am pretty sure that I am pregnant and my boyfriend is 17 and in the military because of this he says that he is legally and adult and he could lose his job and go to jail. I live in Kansas and I don't know much about laws or the military so help me out. Should I put him on the birth certificate or not? I dont want him to lose his job and/or go to jail.
2007-06-05 18:27:52 · 18 answers · asked by *megan* 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
So will he get in any sort of trouble from the military itself, for having a child or our ages or anything?
2007-06-05 19:02:22 · update #1
young lady what are u doing pregnant at 16 in the 1st place?
2007-06-05 18:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
It would appear that Kansas has the Romeo and Juliet law. It is illegal for someone between the ages of 14 and 16 to have sex but if the partner is within four years of age then they will not have to register as a sex offender. However, it is also possible that they can go to jail for up to 15 months. As for the military, he can not have been in for very long he is only 17 and needs his parents consent. This could also implicate his parents if this is a dodge to avoid responsibility. The military usually does not involve itself in personal, especially sexual, matters. The UCMJ does have rules against conduct unbecoming and unlawful sex acts.
As for you, where are your parents during all of this? Your boyfriend has been irresponsible twice. Once by getting you pregnant and twice by fleeing the scene of the crime. The military may make man of him, but I don't think they have much to work with. I live across the state line in Missouri and I am a veteran. Let some of this sink in please.
2007-06-06 01:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
First suggestion: Put the child up for adoption!! It really doesn't sound like either one of you is mature enough to handle a baby at this point in your lives.
If adoption is not an option, then put his name on the birth certificate! If he gets in trouble with his 1st Sgt. or his commander, so be it. But, as a military member and a soon to be father, he needs to step up to the plate and be held responsible.
By putting the father's name on the birth certificate, the child is eligible for military benefits just like any other dependent... medical, commissary, bx, etc. Main one is medical... especially when it comes to a child... major expenses. Also, he will have to pay child support... it won't be an option.
Finally, if (and I really hope so) you are not pregnant.... please use birth control!!!!! Both of you... you should be on the pill and he should be using a condom.
2007-06-06 03:11:20 · answer #3 · answered by usafbrat64 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely! It makes no difference that you are 16 and he is 17. You two have created a life. The child needs to know who the father is and he needs to be held accountable for his actions. Place his name on the birth certificate as the father and required him to pay child support. And, no, he won't go to jail.
2007-06-06 01:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by LryMc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think about the military benefits the child will be entitled too.
If you guys end up getting married things will work itself out, regarding the law and what not.
And should anything happen to him, hopefully not, your kid will be entitled to benefits as well as result of that.
One good thing is that when you end up having the baby youll probably be 17 and he'll be 18, then no one willl care one way or the other
2007-06-06 05:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by writersbIock2006 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it will depend on the State's laws for underaged sex. If you are considered a minor, than yes, he can get into toruble.. onthe civilian side of the house. the Navy can at that point choose to prosecute on their side.. but they typically only prosecute for things like missing ship's movement because he was in jail. so technically, he wouldn't necessarilyget in trouble for the who lunderaged sex tghing, but in reality, it would be a direct result of it.
if you were married, it would not be an issue.
things to consider: since you are not married, you will NOT be covered under the military's medical insurance for the birth. if you do not put his name on the BC, the baby will not be covered after it is born, nor will you legally be able to collect child support.
you have a few choices:
Abortion, Adoption, raising it on your own, or getting married. although legally, you may have to have parental permission to do any of these things since you are underaged.
Next time.. keep your legs together. way to ruin three lives in one fell swoop.
2007-06-06 08:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Think of the child and put him on the certificate to make sure the baby is cared for. Sounds like the beginning of a deadbeat dad to me.
2007-06-06 09:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by libbydfm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a side note: If you get married, you receive housing allowance and money for food while he's active, if you're just "dating" I don't think you receive anything, but I believe the baby is taken care of.
Have him ask a sergeant that has a family and has been in the military for 15 years+ and see what he says.
2007-06-06 03:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm a little disappointed with the answers you're getting. I was hoping you'd get some good, solid information regarding his status if your pregnancy was found out by his chain of command. Sorry, it's usually less lecture and more fact - tonight must be a rare exception.
I suggest you discuss it with your parents and, depending on his relationship with them, his parents as well. If you are absolutely certain he is the father, then definitely put him on the birth certificate.
Unfortunately, I could take a guess about the jail thing (my guess is no) but I don't know for certain.
2007-06-06 01:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Listen, you have to list him on the certificate. If you are carrying his kid, then you are entitled to healthcare for that child even if you guys aren't married. If he isn't listed as the father, then you would have a hell of trouble trying to get him to take care of the responsibility that he is a part of.
It sounds like to me that he doesn't want you to list him so that he doesn't have to be responsible for the situation if you guys break up.
Did you also know that since you are pregnant with his child, you are entitled to healthcare for free from now until 6 weeks after you deliver?
Put him on the certificate.
2007-06-06 03:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by xxjamillaxx 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is unlikely that he'll lose his job because you put him on a birth certificate. It's not like a red light is going to go on at his superior officer's desk when you file the birth certificate. Just go on with your lives and don't ask, don't tell.
2007-06-06 01:31:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋