1. I tell my girlfriend that I worry about accidentally getting her pregnant. She responds with "If it happens it happens. I don't worry about it so much like you do. It wouldn't be the end of the world."
2. I tell her "What about school and your dreams?" She tells me "I will finish school, and follow my dreams no matter what, with obstacles or without."
3. It seems like she gets more freaked out than I am about the whole "What if" situation. She hangs around many grown ups who have kids. She loves them.
4. A few days ago ... she dreamed she was pregnant. She told me.
Are these signs that she may want a baby with me?
2007-06-05 17:55:29 · 13 answers · asked by Johnny_Jurassic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And before anyone can say "HOW CAN YOU ACCIDENTALLY GET A GIRL PREGNANT."
Ready?
"Condom Breakage" = "ACCIDENT"
Hence ACCIDENTALLY PREGNANT
2007-06-05 17:56:47 · update #1
I would think that with everything you've said, even if she's not actively trying to get pregnant, she isn't against the idea. The question is are you ready to become a father, with all that entails? If not stop having sex. Simple - no accidents, no chance of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember this - when ever you want to have sex think - "Is this the person I want to be the other parent of my child?" If not - STOP.
2007-06-05 18:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE UPFRONT AND VERY CLEAR WITH HER and tell her that you do not want a baby right now. Let her know that maybe in the future you would love to have one, but right now there are too many things happening. Tell her you want to be a responsible and loving father who provides for the baby and the wife/girlfriend, but right now you are not ready for that. That you want to enjoy the relationship, the two of you, that there will be time for a baby later on.
Also, try to get her to take some other form of birth control. If you are using a condom that is very responsible of you, but what about her? She also has to take responsibility of the being careful not to get pregnant.
There is also the "morning after pill", which is not the same as the "abortive pill". The morning after pill is used for situations where an accidental breakage happens (or sexual abuse or rape, etc). It is a pill that prevents her from getting pregnant and it has to be taken within 72 hours of unprotected sex (the closer she takes it to the "event" the better).
These things could be a sign that she wants a baby, but could also be the way she is. If it has gotten worse, she probably would not mind having your baby. Once again, be very clear about what you want and how you feel. She will probably will make a big deal out of it ("You don't love me..." "You don't want to marry me...", etc). But it is better that you bring up the topic.
Her dream, it could be many things, but could be two other things:
1. She is making it up and she said that to see what you would say.
2. She is leading herself on to dream these things. It has been said that you can go to sleep thinking about what you want to dream about and when you fall asleep you mind will continue the situation you created in your head.
Once again, talk to her and let her know how you feel. I always hated the fact that a lot of the men I dated (and even married) were leading me on to believe something and then all of a sudden change "the rules of the game". My ex-husband always "played" along with me whenever I mentioned babies, we even picked the names of our babies before we even got married. Then a year after we were married he said he did not want to have children. Why couldn't he be upfront with me? Why did he play along?
Hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-06-05 18:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by ivelisse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it, ask her if she wants a baby. If she says yes, simply tell her you are not ready. If she says no, then ask her why all the baby talk. You need to talk to her cause it just sounds suspicious. If you can't see eye to eye on it, then you need to end the relationship and find someone who wants the same things you want. If not, she might end up pregnant but it won't be an accident.
2007-06-05 18:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by Shawna P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know how old you are, but it sounds like she might want a baby. If she dreamed she was pregnant, it just depends on if it was a good dream or a bad dream. If she saw it as a good dream, she probably wants a baby.
2007-06-05 17:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is her age???
i think she is out of her mind..i mean she has not even completed her school and she wants to have a child..may be she likes them..but boy you dont do that..be careful always, because if you do get her preggie then god help you..may be you'll be in trouble or she'll trouble you by saying that i wont get an abortion or use plan B..and then think about your life..and yes it is not easy to bring up a kid and that to at that time when you're not settled in your own life..
2007-06-05 18:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it sounds like she does want a baby with you. but it doesn't mean she wants one now. she just likes the thought of it has been probably dreaming about meeting a guy like you and have a baby forever.
2007-06-05 17:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by chey_shizzle_shazza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yeah i would say so. i mean maybe she ain't planning it, but she would be happy if she had a baby....but if it's not what you want, maybe you should reconsider the relationship before she stops taking the pill or pokes holes in the condoms!
2007-06-05 17:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by jmayerlicious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is the case, she just seems to be a very possitive person if such situation would to occur.
2007-06-05 18:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by rqerita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it and if she really wants a baby then compromise with her tell her you are not ready but in a lil while you will be
2007-06-05 18:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by A.J. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just may ask yourself if you want that. There is a mans birth control pill know.
2007-06-05 17:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋