what's does it take to over come low self esteem?

Question

emotional abuse, childhood memories

Answer 1

change the way you see yourself. problems will always be there you have to see things differerntly

Answer 2

The first step to building confidence, in my opinion, is finding out what you truly want. Over the next week, whenever you feel down, depressed, insecure, or frustrated, start making a list of all the things you want. They can be little things, like, "I want a glass of water" or big things, like "I want to ride around the entire world in a hot air baloon." Just write down everything and don't censor yourself. Then after a week, and even throughout the week, look at the list and decide which of those things you can do something about. Then start doing it! Some of the things might require little steps first, but if you really want it, then you can do it. As you start seeing that you can do things that make you happy, your confidence will grow!

This may seem kind of roundabout and like it won't immediately solve your problmes, but really it's one of the best things you can do. It's not necessarily a quick fix, but it will have lifelong results. Good luck!

Answer 3

The best thing I found is get a job working in a bar. I had really low self esteem. I had bad anxieties. I thought the worst thing was to work there cause I couldn't even talk to people. I couldn't get control of my life and emotions.
The people are usually laid back easy going and usually you get great compliments, even if the guys are old and geekey it sure helps the esteem. After a few months, I started thinking my life was even better than theirs and I appreciated what I had and even who I was.

Answer 4

That is a difficult problem. Self-esteem comes from within but is based on what your parents placed in you during your development and experiences in the world. If you suffer with low self-esteem, you may need therapy to discover why you feel that way about yourself, and perhaps uncover the history of these thoughts/feelings. Additionally, esteem-building experiences can help. Determine what areas of your life you feel competent and examine how important that is to your concept of self....we derive esteem from many different areas of our lives...and those most important to us have the most weight...attractiveness, likeability, intelligence, competence....focusing on what you are good at and being the best in that venue can help a lot, as well as working on your weak areas and determining how you can improve....it is effortful, but it is possible.

Answer 5

Do somethings you'd and other will take pride in! I'd advise to do some physical activities.. you won't believe how much that will get you turned around. It's easy after you make a few steps to just pick yourself up. You are an awesome person just like the rest of us.

Answer 6

See the self esteem websites at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 2, read that page, and practise one of the 5 relaxation methods, and try the EFT. Also http://www.drdrew.com

Answer 7

Recognize what is truth.
Recognize it happened to you.
Grieve the loss.
Learn to forgive yourself and others
In forgiveness there comes freedom
And now you are ready to build into the person you are
And to dare to dream and to reach out to others
And find confidence in being "YOU"

If you choose to meet with a counselor over a period of time, these are a sample of the stages you will pass through and topics of your conversation.

Answer 8

think positively. With everything you do.

Answer 9

try and try again

Answer 10

A handgun........lol