I just started college this summer about 4 hours away from home. If i had chosen to go to a local college, i would for sure be dating this certain girl, but nothing ever happened b/c i knew i'd be leaving her. Now only a week in and i'm missing her alot. I just want to stop thinking about her and just let go of everything i chose to leave behind, but its extremely hard even with all these new people and opportunities. i've even found out that there's people that i never even knew that i was attached to, and i'm missing them a WHOLE lot too.
so how can i go about letting go of these people i'll only see during holidays and rare occasions?
2007-06-05 17:40:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
College can be hard at first. I went to a college that was 700 miles from my home. I only saw my family and friends during Christmas and spring break my first year. I felt sooo alone! and I missed everyone!
I remember beingso excited to get away from my high school and town... only to realize I missed them when I was at college!
Anyway, my advice to you is to just keep in touch. I know it isn't the same as seeing people in person, but email and call them. I used facebook and myspace a lot to keep in touch with friends from back home as well as my new friends from school. Although I still missed them a lot, it was always nice to email them... it was even nice to open my email and see a reply from them! I would save the emails and read them whenver I was down.
On the down side... you do have to accept that you might grow apart from many of your old friends. I didn't think it would happen to me, but I did grow apart from many people. That is part of life though. We still hang out when I am home, but during the school year our communication consists of maybe a few "hi" facebook messages. This hurt a lot in the beginning, but as I began to open up and join more clubs and meet new people, I realized that I still had some great friends... my new ones in college and my friends from back home.
I don't think you will ever just "let go" of those people. You just need to get used to the idea that things are going to a bit different while you are in school. Just make sure you keep in touch and let them know you still are their for them and care about them as a good friend.
Things will be rough at first, but it does get easier. I know everyone is probably telling you that... but it is definitely true!
Hope this helps... feel free to email me if you want.
2007-06-09 07:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by its1105 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
College is full of good looking smart women. What are you waiting for?
2007-06-05 17:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start socializing and going out but don't push it or force it on others.
2007-06-05 17:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Love B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....I don't think there is a way....you're just gonna have to keep yourself busy with new people/things.....
2007-06-05 17:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋