Ok, so I am going out with this guy and he is really shy. I actually think that we were better freinds when we werent together. Anyway, it just doesnt seem like we should stay together and we should just be freinds. My problem with breaking up with him is that any other girl he has been with has terribly dumped him and everytime I am with one of his freinds they are always like dont break his heart and stuff.
What should I do?
2007-06-05 17:31:38 · 9 answers · asked by Horsenaround2023 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he likes you and he's outwardly shy, don't take that as not interested. He's likely very fond of you but its not his personality to show it.
If you require a more outward personality in a boyfriend, then do him a favor and move on (tough love). He'll eventually end up with a girlfriend that matches his personality and you'll end up with a boyfriend who has a more fitting personality. But if you like the guy the way he is... same interests and common goals in life and so forth then you will do good to give him more of a chance. The more comfortable he becomes with you and how he feels around you (he trusts you unconditionally), then he will open up... I promise. I was that guy a number of years ago. I have been married to the girl who gave me a chance, and had the patience for me to be myself, for over sixteen years now.
Mine was a case of insecurity, extreme caution with my feelings and a need to be sure about a girl before letting her too far into my space, my head, my heart.
His trust in you (your situation as a couple) and his comfort level around you will develop in time.
.
.
.
2007-06-05 17:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm well it is normal for guys to be shy at first try starting most of the conversations and making most of the moves eventualy he should get used to being around you but if you have given it a lot of time and he still hasnt opened up maybe it is a good idea to break it off tell him how you feel and do it nicely im sure he can handle it besides its better than staying in an ackward relasionship just because you dont want to hurt his feelings
and again about the shy thing, my boyfriend and i have been together almost 4 months and we r still a little shy with each other but it is a lot better than it was
dont worry!! and good luck
2007-06-06 00:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been going out?
relationships take time to get better, some more than others.
try giving him a little more time and try talking to him about topics you know he is comfortable with. if he's still cold as ice, just let him down very very very nicely.
just say like
"i enjoy the time that we've been together, but after u asked me out, it's like you don't really know how to talk to me anymore. Do you want to be just friends?"
that gives him the benefit of the doubt
that's only if you like him though. if you don't like him, then don't use that o__O
2007-06-06 00:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by DNU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think that it will last than i would break up with him, but you have to do it in a nice way and you should still be his friend, but I am horrible at breaking up in a nice way ask my ex yikes that wasn't good...sorry to much info i know
2007-06-06 00:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by Dustin H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok....SO many of my friends, including myself have gone through w/ this.all u have 2 do is stay w/ him 4 a few more weeks....den let him off easy.....in other wordds just say....."i dont really no how to say this but.....i need 2 do this now before we loose our amazing friendship.....i just dont think that we were meant 2 be..... we can still be really good friends.....because we were but now its just akward between us....and i dont want that to happen..... because we were and hopefully still can be really good friends ......im really sorry........ i had fun being 2gether w/ u ....but we should go back to the way before.....and be just friends........"OKAY...so now that word grouping of words should let him of really easily so u guys should still be friends.......hope dat helps!
2007-06-06 00:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by sassyblondgirl94 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and talk to him, tell him that hes not meeting your needs, and that you guys were better together as just friends, if he cares for you then he should understand!
2007-06-06 00:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by BluzGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be honest with him. Maybe he'll want to be friends. Maybe not. That is the risk you take when you date someone who was your friend. If you are a real friend you will do what is right and tell him the truth.
2007-06-06 00:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by sweettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think he is not the right one for you ;don't take to long to break up with him for the longer you take the stronger you push the dager into his heart
2007-06-06 00:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by t m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say, "WHY" you want to break up with him.
You only say that he's Shy.
2007-06-06 00:36:06 · answer #9 · answered by iwish40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋