i want to be in this childs life if she's mine, i have no problem with child support and health care etc. what im asking is will the state of alabama laws allow me to if it's best for both of us me and the child, theres no reason with this woman it's her way and thats it! i have been told that me signing over my rights would be best for her (the child) so she wouldn't be put through the B.S. her mother wants nothin to do with me cause i ain't rich. what would yall do in my situation
2007-06-05 17:18:25 · 7 answers · asked by frosted22x 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Dont give up your rights to your baby (if she's yours). Let the courts deal with her BS. You will regret giving up rights for the rest of your life
2007-06-05 17:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Oops! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't sign over your rights if its your child. Second put in the paperwork that the baby mother cant leave the state and cant move so many miles away from you. This well make it easier for you to have a relationship with the child. Make sure it list when you get the child for holidays, bdays, weekends, etc... Also list what actions can be taken if she doesn't follow the ruling the judge makes for you and the child to be together.
2007-06-05 17:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mistress Jadeee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to be a consistent loving parent?
Will you follow the visitation schedule and care for your child yourself (not pawn her off on your relatives)? Nothing is more detrimental to a child of divorced/separated parents than inconsistent contact. She a little person...not a baby doll to be picked up and played with when it is convenient for the parent.
Will you be an active participant in her education and social life?
Will you show respect for her mother (even if she's evil personified and disrespects you at every turn)?
If these are your plans then you need to apply for joint custody and/or custodial parent status. You won't be putting her through crap if you are a good dad. You will be a key player in her life as it should be. You and she may have to accept a step dad in the future, be prepared share her love with others and everyone will eventually benefit from your example.
2007-06-05 17:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by c r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ENFORCE Your Rights!!! Do not sign anything over. Most states (I don't know about Alabama) have laws that protect visitation/custody rights even if child support is not paid.
Many states offer legal counsel to low income people, free over the phone. Contact your local DSHS to see what rights And Responsibilities you may have. If that doesn't work to well, contact a state university and ask if there is a low-cost legal advice program you can use or apply for. That way you can be informed, becuase it sounds like the court will be involved either way.
2007-06-05 17:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by yp_bri_vancouver 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its tricky but maybe my mom's story will help you. My mom's parent separated when she was very little. She never knew her dad. When she was 6, her mom married a wonderful man and he was amazing. My mom still felt incomplete. When she met her dad as an adult, she was really disappointed in him, he was an alcoholic and a scam artist. But she felt complete and she was really happy that she had had the chance to know him. You sound like a much better man than my biological grandfather and your daughter will have a better life and a better psychological existence with you in her life. Any state will allow you to sign away rights to a child (but some will only allow it if there is a step parent who wants to adopt the child or other adoptive parents). Your daughter needs to know that you exist, who you are and that her existence matters to you. Do what you think is best, but don't disappear forever.
2007-06-05 17:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes yours and your more then willing to do your part to be there then do so. Dont let the grandmother stand in your way and make you look bad. Stand up and do whats right. Do you want to have to look this little girl in the eyes 5 years down the road and have to explain why you gave her away? i dont think so. Dont do it. Even if they harass you every way possible do what you can. Goodluck to you:) its nice to see a guy want to take care of his child!
2007-06-05 17:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a cut out Dad she will get lies all her life about why you aren't there. If this little girl is yours that is not only your right but the little girls right to know her dad. I was adopted and I know what it feels like not to have a Dad or mom who doesn't want any thing to do with you. It hurts all your life. I am 46 now.
2007-06-05 17:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Reta, Bears mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋