They are her first bras and I went out of my way to get her friend's mom to go with her so she could get fitted now she does not want to wear them. She really needs to wear them because people stare at her more than I like, but she is hard headed and wants to defy me. I'm not ready to be a single parent...
2007-06-05 16:35:05 · 13 answers · asked by justin c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Because her chest can clearly be seen over the top of her shirt you a$$
2007-06-05 17:00:16 · update #1
Most girls don't want to wear bra's but that's not the society we live in. So tough, she doesn't have a choice. I would engage the friend who helped you out in the first place and ask her to talk with her. Also, you can take your daughter to any department store and go to the lingerie department and explain what you need to one of the female clerks. Tell the clerk that your daughter doesn't like the bra's she picked out and is complaining they are uncomfortable. Ask the clerk to help your daughter pick out bra's with the right fit.
There is alot of clothing we don't like to wear, most men don't like wearing ties for instance. But social norm's demand certain behavior from us. Luckily for you, all the other girls her age will also be wearing bra's and she will get over this. Keep close friends with your lady friend though, periods come next.
2007-06-05 17:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not easy being a single parent, I have been there myself, however, I am a woman, so that issue came easy for my daughter and I. However, my son on the other hand has been a difficult situation for me. Is it possible for the same lady that took her, to maybe sit down and have a talk with her? Are they uncomfortable? Find out why she doesnt want to wear them. Maybe a sports bra would be a better starter for her. My daughter didnt like the clasp in the back because she could feel it, a sports bra does not have that. Just let her know that you love her and that you will always be there no matter what and trust in your female friends to help you out from time to time. You will do just fine.
2007-06-05 23:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by melinda.mama 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think ANY girl wants to wear bras when she first gets them! [Unless she was a late bloomer, in which case she'd want to because everyone else was...] You need to just simply explain WHY she needs to wear one - 'because you are turning into a woman, and this is what women wear. Men will focus on your chest if you don't dress modestly, and this is one way to do that.' Then...you are just going to have to MAKE HER WEAR ONE. I know she won't want to, but she will very quickly get used to it, and it will not be an issue any more.
2007-06-06 01:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I give props to single dad's there are so many situations where people assume that only mom's can do it by themselves, While i am sure it is the hardest thing to do females and males alike have the ability if they really try to be a good parent single or not. I wouldn't let her leave the house without one on. She is probably just very embarassed try not to take it personally and welcome to teen hood.
2007-06-06 00:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to sit down and talk with a female that she respects. So that they can explain to her why she needs to wear a bra. And maybe she was upset that you talked about it to her friends mother and that's why she's defying you. Be patient with her and she'll come around.
2007-06-05 23:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by Boopalot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain to her why she have to wear them, being a single parent is hard, but it takes time and a lot of efforts.. doesnt she have any friends who can talk about her with that thing? if she doesnt want to wear bra, she can probably wear more clothes then.. try to be strict with her when it comes to this? and let her feel that as a dad you feel uncomfortable..
2007-06-05 23:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by ~desa~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a woman she trusts speak to her about why she should wear a bra. Perhaps the woman who took her? Perhaps a teacher or guidance counselor? If she refuses to wear a bra when she needs one people will make fun of her. It will hurt, but I suppose she will the agree to wear one if all else fails.
2007-06-05 23:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by PDY 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No leaving the house until she wears it. Sit down and wait.
2007-06-05 23:37:35 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and tell her. Yeah, it'll be awkward and weird, and she might get mad, but she should understand.
2007-06-06 00:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there man I cant offer any advice.... but much love for the single dads.
2007-06-05 23:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by jeenious 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋