I think not. So both of my friends are saying they are/were in love! One about their ex, then one about a guy who has a girlfriend. I just don't think so! I think it's ridiculous and I'm the only one with any sense! Beceause true LOVE is when you get married, right? I'm just so frustrated...lol.
2007-06-05 16:19:06 · 30 answers · asked by ihearttwirling 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Amen.
True love doesn't even extend to marriage, unfortunately. Think about the divorce rates. Right now you and your friends have crushes and get infatuated, but after a few months the feelings are gone. Enjoy this time while you can, and let your friends say what they want to say - it just sounds better to say "I love him" than "I'm infatuated with him"
2007-06-05 16:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by Yuki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Not even if they end up together forever and marry and have kids and all. I still wouldn't say they were IN LOVE since they were 14. I thought I was in love with a guy when I was 14, as a matter-of-fact. And six years later I found out I wasn't. But don't waste your breathe trying to tell a 14 y/o that. They don't listen to anything. I know because I used to be 14.
2007-06-05 16:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by manybagolike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, true love can exist without being married, but I don't think it exist at the age of 14. There is so much involved in making a relationship work, and many of the dimensions of a relationship are not present at age 14. It is just kids wanting to be grown ups before their time.
2007-06-05 16:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That I think is the difference between "first love" and "true love". Everyone remembers their "first love" which could possibly be at 14, and not necessarily the same type of love for everyone... "true love" is something I think takes maturity and an unselfishness most teenagers (or even 30 and 40 year olds) have not grown into yet.
2007-06-05 16:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are blinded by 'puppy love' so they just say they're in love for the sake of saying it. You are matured enough not to be fooled by puppy love.
Love between partners doesn't necessarily happen after marriage. It could happen before marriage and when you believe that both of you could spend the rest of your life with each other.
Don't get frustrated over this issue. I believe you have better things to think about.
2007-06-05 16:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by mighty spy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not believe in true love at 14, no.
i know love doesn't have an age or anything, but there is no way someone even knows how love feels at 14. usually its just infatuation, which is actually a form of love, that has to more with obsession and more child prone feelings.
marriage doesn't have to be love, though. 10000 people who don't really love eachother get married every day. when you really love someone, they all say you'll know. i don't know how anyone would know, but i guess its just a feeling.
2007-06-05 16:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by Just Ryan! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, here we go again. At 14 I thought I was in love, and no one could tell me different. Everyone told me I didn't know what love was. I didn't listen. Now, I know they are right. I can tell you that at 14 you friends are not in love, but more then likely they are going to ignore you. Trust me though, you will one day remember that there was this lady online that told you, but they didn't listen, and they will wish they had. Why do I say that? Because the very same thing happened to me. Now, I wish I knew who that woman was because I would shake her hand.
2007-06-05 16:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by ellasdaughter2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot fall in love at 14. I'm sorry but trying to explain love is really complicated. Love comes with time but think about this for a little bit...love is not an emotion...i know it doesn't make much sense but meditate on that and you'll be one step closer to understanding love.
2007-06-05 16:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not neccessarily at marriage, but you can't put an age on love
You;re probably right though
At that age, more often than not lust is confused for love
As you mature and realise and appreciate different emotions surrounding different types of relationships and experiences then you realise that
But whatever you tell them, they've convinced themselves and no-one will change their views
Except in a few weeks time when they move on to the next boys and think that this one IS THE ONE
Teenagers for you...
2007-06-05 16:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true love is when you find that person who you love more then anything, and the person who loves you back the same way..and some of those people who have true love dont get married cause things tear them apart. i dont really believe in love at 14 cause thats my age and i, like you, have since. but who knows you could find that person at 14 but i doubt you would really would. and who would want to make a commitment at 14?? why not just live your life and have fun??
2007-06-05 16:25:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋