What ever happened to the good ole days when you bought a toaster for a wedding gift?

Question

I went to check out the couples bridal registry at a local store and they did not have things like sheets, coffee pots and the colors of their rooms. They had expensive gifts such as digital camera's and all kinds of electronics. Computer games and espensive carpentry tools.
I felt almost ridiculous looking at gift registry for them . Is this normal way to register or is this couple trying to make a haul? They already have a child and have been together for many years. I didnt expect to see all that high end stuff on the registry. I was expecting something more simple.
Am I old fashioned or are they getting a little greedy?

I am amazed that someone would be vain enough to put something on a registry that cost that much. I feel like the only reason they are having a wedding is to get the goods.
They already have a kid. He hasnt had a job in the last 4 yrs. He just got a job 2 weeks ago. Her engagement ring cost more than my car.

Answer 1

They are greedy and tacky, get them a toaster.

Answer 2

Buying a toaster went out the window when the couple moved in together. I would buy them a set of nice towels and leave it at that. I think a registry is a guide to something they would like but to only put high end items on it is greedy. Not all wedding guests are rich. I thought a wedding registry was for items to stock your house with kitchen appliances, linens and things to start up a household not toys and tools. You could always get them a gift card for what you can afford at the store they picked. If you read here on yahoo alot of brides register somewhere that returns stuff for cash cuz that is all they really want. I don't think you are old fashioned i think that when people live together before marriage and have all the stuff for their home already they get greedy for toys that they can't afford.

Answer 3

Personally, if I had a wedding I would get the basics, and think of the cost, and not all gift givers are well off.

If I really want expensive stuff on a registry as a married couple, I would put on the very bottom of list: Gift cards are cool, too. That way a person would NOT feel pressured to spend so much, and that way I could put that card to good use on an expensive item coupled with other people's gift cards. Smart way.

But then again some people dream of having that BBQ for $500.00 and this is their only way to get it through a registry. But not my call, though.

Answer 4

People still want toasters. They jsut want the 4 slice toaster w/ the bagel setting, egg cooker, coffee pot, and muffin warmer all in one toaster that costs almost as much as ur mortgage. People are greedy. They take advantage of this time to try and 'cheat' guests out of money. They request expensive things that they themselves cannot afford or do not want to pay such high prices for.
For my registry I did request some more expensive things (like a vacuum for $100) I did this bc some guests are all one family and theres 4 or 5 adults.They could all pitch in. I do not expect anyone to buy anything that expensive. It is just there as an option. most of my stuff was 10-50 $. I can buy the expensive stuff myself from the money i save on all the cheap stuff i got as gifts :-)

Answer 5

If they've been together for many years and have a child then they don't need a toaster or sheets or a blender.

In the "good old days" newly marrieds were young and were setting up housekeeping for the very first time and needed the basics such as sheets and toasters.

If you don't want to get them something from their registry then don't. Cash is always a great gift.

Answer 6

Because they have lived together for sometime Im sure they already have a toaster, spatula, silverware etc that are on alot of registries. I personally registered for a toaster and was very excited to get it but I did also register for a camera and grill and more expensive items because our families wanted to get us something nice and wanted to make sure it was what we wanted. We ranged from very inexpensive items to expensive to give everyone a choice. I would suggest you get them a gift card to the store they have those things registered at. We were really excited to receive gift cards because we can use them for not only the big ticket items if they add up but also the mundane every day life things we need from Target that we would never put on the registry like a mop and trashcan.

Answer 7

That is what they want. They probably already have toasters and sheets. Most couples will register for items in several price ranges, from $20 to $500. The higher end is usually what close family will buy. Just buy what you can afford. If there is nothing on the registry you can afford, then buy them a nice engraved picture frame, or a gift card to a linen store. They'll appreciate whatever they get.

Answer 8

Somehow people began to think that they DESERVE to be treated like kings and queens, even if they are not!

People need to understand that a bridal registry like that totally goes against the rules of ETIQUETTE (something that your bride and groom friend obviously know nothing about).
Just because their registry calls for ridiculous stuff, doesn't mean you need to provide it. Get them a giftcard in a fair amount that you would spend for friends of that level....or give them a check.

When a couple has a child out of wedlock, live together, etc., they've got plenty of time to gather tons of the necessities of life. Doesn't mean everyone else needs to pamper them because they chose that lifestyle.

You're not old fashioned - they're greedy. Give the gift you can, and move on ;-)

Take care!

Answer 9

it seems you are a little old fashioned, although in this case of not working and already being established as a family i think its a bit of both, old fashiondness on your part, and greed on their part.

Every wedding ive been to has had a gift registry, and i think theyre a great idea so as to avoid getting 5 toasters and 4 sets of pots and pans.
These days alot of people also ask for money, which personally i think is great, as long as they dont get too greedy.
In the case of my wife and i (married only 3 months to date), we were living together for 3 years prior to being married and my family owns a retail homewares shop, so really, toasters and dinnersets and glassware etc are of no use to us. We are already established in our house and have access to any homewares at wholesale prices.

We actually wrote on our invitations that the guests presence will be their presents to us, so not to feel obliged to bring any gifts, and most people didnt, which i respect.
I think its a joke these days how much people expect for their wedding, so at the end of the day, you should give whatever you feel comfortable giving, and feel good about what you've given because at teh end of the day anything they get should be a BONUS, not EXPECTED.

Hope you find something suitable :)

Answer 10

You answered your own question, in part...they've been living together for years, so they have all that basic stuff already. Typically toasters and coffee pots are purchased for couples moving in together for the first time who likely don't have those things already.

If you feel nothing on their registry is suitable, because asking for only expensive high end gifts is tacky, then just give them a gift card to a store that carries items they want and they can use that toward the purchase of one of those expensive items.

Answer 11

If the couple has been living together for a while, they shouldn't expect people to buy them a bunch of their wants. I agree that it sounds greedy to ask for a bunch of things they really don't need. Get them whatever you think is appropriate.

I think that a registry should be for couples who are just starting out and have needs. For example, my fiance and I are asking for things that we've been doing without or have borrowed from other people.

Yes, a toaster will be on our list. If you're feeling sentimental about the way wedding gifts used to be, then you can feel free to send me a toaster. Then I can send the one I've been borrowing back to my mom!