should a family of an alcoholic include alcohol at a party given for the alcoholic?

Answer 1

I wouldn't want to because it sends a message to the alcoholic whether he/she is still drinking or not that drinking is okay which would make the effort to stop that much harder.
Perhaps showing him/her ways of having fun without alcohol would be to the alcoholic's benefit? Just a thought.

Answer 2

Probably not if it is for the alcoholic, I'd avoid alcohol altogether.

However, if they have been on the wagon for a while, are getting on ok, and have attended other parties with alcohol and had no problems then perhaps a small amount could be included. Just make sure there are PLENTY of non alcoholic drinks!

Answer 3

If it's a dry party they probably will be bored out of their mind if there is no booze.

If it is a serious health risk situation or if they are actively seeking sobriety, then of course this would be an exception.

I think not serving could sort of send the message that some contingent of people there think he shouldn't be allowed to drink.

Which although well intended, is not appropriate for a party. You could leave the person feeling uncomfortable at their own party.

If it's an issue I would throw the party and then talk to them about their consumption levels at a latter date.

PS - if you are still worried you could make an effort to limit the amount of alcohol at the party.

Answer 4

The party is for the alcoholic? Then no, do not serve alcohol. However, if the party is for another member of the family, I feel this is okay. This is from experience with an alcoholic member of our family. If they are not recovering alcoholic and don't even realize they have a problem, it won't matter whether or not you serve...they'll get it later somewhere else. If they are recovering, they should be fine with it. However, again, if it is a party for them, I would not serve out of respect for that person. Good luck!

Answer 5

As a recovering alcoholic with many years of sobriety, I can say that the alcohol itself wouldn't bother me--I don't drink it but I don't care if others do. It would bother me if everyone came to a party for me and got loaded, though--I gave up that kind of party a long time ago and it wouldn't feel like it was "my" party if that stuff went on.

If the person is newly sober do not have alcohol. It's hard at the beginning.

Answer 6

In my family there's always at least two recovering alcoholics/addicts at any large gathering. There's rarely any problems, depending on the nature of the gathering, as three of us are very strong in our respective recoveries. More often than not, we can rely upon eachother in such situations. The only real danger zones are funerals.

A few years ago at a major funeral, one of our confirmed trio nearly blew 18 years of hard won sobriety. And that was even despite having extra non-family 12-steppers on hand for support.

Bottom line is that maintaining one's sobriety is truly the most unnatural act an alcoholic/addict can do in any given 24 hour period. And sometimes life throws us alcoholics/addicts curve balls that only Divine intervention can field, no matter what other safeguards are put into effect.

Answer 7

You know the answer is no. Alcoholism is a disease and very hard to overcome.

Help this person by giving him a really fun party that doesn't include alcohol so he can see how fun life can be without it. Shower him with love and attention.

But, be prepared, if he is an alcoholic, he will more than likely bring his own.

Answer 8

i replaced into with my ex-fiance for 3 a million/2 years earlier i ended it. He replaced into additionally an alcoholic and had to end, replaced into sober for 8 months, then went precise back at it whilst his mom gave up the ghost. i realize it incredibly is frustrating which you will hear, yet take it from me as a results of fact i've got lived with the aid of it, it is impossible to have a common, happy, healthful existence with an alcoholic. no longer something you will ever have would be safeguard. He ought to get a DUI or hit yet another vehicle inebriated, and you 2 ought to lose each and every thing you have in a lawsuit. you will constantly be waiting for that decision that he's in reformatory back. he will constantly be verbally abusive and often actual whilst he's inebriated and be somebody you do no longer understand. no longer something you're able to do will ever replace those circumstances, and that's no longer a existence everybody could ever prefer to stay. Take my suggestion. pass to an Ala-Non assembly by your self and hear the human beings there tell their thoughts. Then come to a decision if it incredibly is the existence you desire to have or no longer.

Answer 9

Scratch everything I just said.
I got thinking... and no... not a good idea!!
Alcohol has such a bad effect on people!!!! I really wish that parties here in the U.S. didn't always have to have alcohol.
Think about it, you do want him to be sober so he can remember the party, right?
Otherwise, what would be the point?!
Alcohol costs too much anyway.

Answer 10

Thats a tough one. I would say that you have to look at your real feelings for the family member involved here. Do you even give a darn if he recovers? if not then by all means lets tempt him to drink and see if he has the parts to say just say "NO" to his drug of choice. If you give a darn about him and love him as a member of your family then NO WAY should there be any alcohol at the party. Not even Near Beer. This will show him that you support his choice to be clean and sober and that his success means something to you all.