Should I get my boyfriend a father's day gift, even if he is not the father of my child?

Question

He has no children his self. We have been together for a year. My daughter has no other male role model in her life right now.

Answer 1

I think it would be sweet, if he is the one in that role then he is the one that deserves the gift.

Answer 2

thats really up to you, just cause hes your boyfriend doesnt tell people that hes assuming the role as father figure just because theyve seen eachother here and there. He doesnt automatically become a father figure because you have a daughter. I dated my hubby for years and he was the only man in my life but he didnt meet my daughter till YEARS later, and he sent her money and gifts but that isnt a father, now after getting married, he takes care of all of my daughters needs, reads to her, prepares her lunch for school, reads bedtime stories to her etc those are fatherly things, just showing your face isnt a father so its a personal decision but you only been together for a year and getting him a fathers day gift can either scare him or he'll take it as a compliment

Answer 3

It is not necessary for a dad to be biologically linked to his child. It's only been a year, I understand, but do they have a bond? Is he the man you want to father your child for the rest of her life? Think about these things and what is best for your daughter, not him or you. Also, ask your daughter. It can be a cute little thing or something she makes for him. If he's a good guy and a good father (again, fathering does not require genes) than she will likely want to get him something. Give her something to look forward to in her own life. A good man.

Answer 4

If he is really involved in your daughter's life. If he has been truly and honestly taking on the role of her father. I would say yes consider a gift for him.

Alisha

Answer 5

I would ask him how he feels about this. Unless your daughter is calling him dad and he is ok with that, then spend your energies on his father and your father. Your daughter has a father, and its not fair to confuse her unless you have already talked this out with him. There are cards out there for "someone just like a dad", and you might just do a family dinner and no gift. Ask him how he feels about it, don't make assumptions.

Answer 6

Maybe, if he has done father-type things for your daughter such as help take care of her, play with her, any kind of financial assistance, etc.

You have to know how he feels about your relationship. If you two are very close and considering marriage or moving in together, it might be appropriate. You should know him pretty well by now to be able to predict how he'd react.

Answer 7

If he regards her as his daughter and she calls him daddy or thinks of him as a dad. I think it would be sweet. Even if you just brought him something small, without a fathers day card, buy one that says love you, or something similiar.
He still gets a pressie, and you arent putting to much pressure n him, with a fathers day card either.
Good Luck

Answer 8

I'd say yeah. He has taken the role as a father figure im sure, so just let him know that you appreciate what he does, even if its by default.

Answer 9

If he's not a father yet, and he's not acting as a father to yours, then why? If you, however, want to just get him a gift, why not just give him one and not make it be a father's day gift?

Answer 10

I don't see anything wrong with you getting him a gift especially if he has been a part of the two of you life. I think he would really appriciate it and also feel like he is a part of the family.