ok so we have decided that we cant live together...too many arguements normally against me against her kids when they are too lazy to clean up after themselves..do you think i am harsh if one is 17 and the other is 20? however..we think it could be that if we live in different places it will be ok......apart from the fact, that we are not telling anyone we are still working in out....do you think she is hiding it for her own good?
and all of this makes no sense...head still spinning
2007-06-05 15:17:25 · 8 answers · asked by toddlfc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your relationship is over. What satisfaction do you think you will have from a long distance relationship? I would think you would want more than that. Move out and move on.
2007-06-05 15:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say the fights are usually involving her adult kids. Why cant they leave? The 17 yr old is a senior in HS or off to college correct and the 20 yr old should have been gone 2 yrs ago. No matter how much you love eachother, kids are a big deal breaker, you have to compromise, its hard for moms. If you want to move out, fine, you can run two separate homes. But you moved in together for a reason, relationship was serious right? Talk about it, cover every aspect, tell her what you would like to see be done. Bottom line her kids are running her and she still takes there side right? do you want that? i would personally tell her id like to live separate but that we could date but that youd like to see and date others because you dont see a relationship for the two of you in the future, be honest, spare her the time of trying to figure out why it didnt work.
2007-06-05 22:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's too bad. Sorry, I don't have any good advice. If you both love each other than I'd say try and work it out. And if it is just the kids, they should be moving to college in a couple of years anyways? Maybe get a house cleaner instead?
I'm 21 and really messy too. It becomes a way of life after living that way for so long.
Best of luck to you. I'm sure it'll be ok in the end.
2007-06-05 15:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by megan f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't love your partner too much if you want her to abandon her children.
17 and 20 is far to young to be thrown out of the family home. You are not their father. She is the mother, so the parenting is her responsibility. She came as a package, a family unit. If you are jealous of that family unit - then sort out your own issues. Don't blame her for being a good mum!
Why would you want to be with a woman prepared to abandon her children?
And I for one would not want to be with a man that expected me to abandon my kids.
Children are for life - not for christmas!
2007-06-06 11:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by kiku 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
'Ease the break up?'
You mention break up in the opening question but then talk about living separately.
If your opening question had mentioned being together but living separately then I would have said give it a go but it doesn't..... I think it is time to call it a day.
2007-06-05 20:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as an easy break up. If you love each other, stay together. If not, leave. Life is unbearable in a bad relationship and never worth it in the end.
2007-06-05 15:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by Pixxxie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're right,living apart with make the heart grow fonder.Good luck.And the 'kids' need to finally grow up!
2007-06-05 15:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are right, makes no sense
2007-06-05 15:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋