I am so mad with people messing with my stuff!?

Question

I am sick of people messing with my stuff all the time. My brothers keep deleting my computer accounts and deleting passwords and dumping homework and projects. My parents won't do anything to stop it, my dad just flips out at everyone and says he's going to take down the computer. How come no one in my family gives a damn about schoolwork and doing well? My brother graduated 2nd last in high school, and has no career ambitions, and the younger one just flunked 8th grade. I am the only one who wants to go to college and do weel and they delete and mess everything up. This is why I want to go so far away for college. I can't deal with this bull anymore. I can't have my stuff deleted, and I found disks of stored information destroyed. They don't think twice about stealing things from my room, and my younger brother thinks it is a game to hide my insulin, or slap the needle, if I am taking an injection. The bathroom door doesn't lock, so my older brother barges in on me whenever he wants

He comes in earlier and earlier everyday, so I only have around 5 minutes to shower. It is gross and uncomfortable, and he is just being an idiot. I want this stopped, but everyone thinks that it is just me, and not them so it is not their problem. I can't deal with this pressure anymore. It has surpassed sibling rivalry, and it has become downright evil. I can't stand it.

I am in the 11th grade, and I don't have a permit or licesnse to drive anywhere yet. I could have been driving but that wasn't a descision I got to make. It is hard for me to do some homework old school, just because I take advanced classes, and most teachers require papers that are typed and lab reports and other things that I need a computer for. It is not fair that I am be 'banished' from the family computer, it is hard for me to get to the library because there are 2 highways between it and my house, and my school is between the two of them. I have gone to the library before, but it is dangerous to walk home, and whe I do, I always end up with a dangerously low blood sugar, even if I make sure to eat before and during the walk. I can't always rely on people to take me places either. But thanks to everyone who already gave me support. It is much appreciated!

Answer 1

aww that sucks. The best advice I can offer is for you to hang in there. You're a really strong girl for putting up with all that and keep up your goals! Seriously. As long as you stick with it and get good grades, there'll be a way out. It may suck now, so try sleeping over a friend's house for a while and spend as much time as possible out of the house. Just hang in there, you'll get through. Good luck, seriously. I hope everything works out.

Answer 2

Ok, listen. Your situation doesn't sound so different from the life I had as a teenager. However I let it get to me and had serious depression for several years.

You want to make something of your life, so focus on that. Let me tell you it will be hard to do but you MUST STAY FOCUSED.

I don't know how old you are, but even if you are only in the 7th grade you dont have much time left there. 5 or 6 years is not much at all over a lifetime, although it may seem like a lifetime now. All I can tell you to do is STAY FOCUSED.

As far as your brother hiding the insulin - talk to the school nurse or guidance counselor. See if there are some options available to you to keep most of your insulin at school where it can be safe, and just take home what you need. Then, just make a secret call to your doctor's office and tell a nurse that you want this documented - your brother prevents you from taking insulin and your parents refuse to help. Call them each time this happens, but do not tell your parents that you called. Also, try to secretly record your conversations with your parents where you calmly and maturely ask them to please make sure you can take your insulin. After enough calls your doctor will talk to your parents and fix the issue. They do not want to be convicted of child abuse.

Ignore your brother when he barges in on you. It is natural to use the bathroom, so if he doesn't like what he sees it is his issue. Laugh at how he likes to watch girls go potty.

Answer 3

Where is your mother in all this? Go to her and tell her that you need her help to stop your brothers. The older one has no business even being at home, if he's not in college he needs to get a job. The younger one needs to be studying. If you can't get any help from your parents, and frankly it sounds like they have completely lost control and don't care much what is going on, then study at a friends house, or during school. Use the computer at the library, or do your school work the old fashion way, on paper. Explain to your teachers and school counselors what is going on at home and see if they will meet with your parents. Go to the school nurse and tell her what is happening with your medication, if you are a diabetic and they are hiding your insulin, you could go into a coma and/or die. If you cannot get help from your parents or school, then call children's services and file a complaint yourself. You might find yourself in a foster home but its better than dead. Good luck.

Answer 4

Why don't you go to the nearest hardware store and by a lock for your room and the bathroom. Honestly when I moved in with my bf at his house with his parents it was the exact same thing. No one has any privacy there. I was in school and all my stuff would be everywhere after a while before I got my lock I started doing the same things to their stuff I would break it or hide it from them. Dam those kids got on my nerves. There where times where I would be so mad that I would get something that they liked most and hid it in their parents room and would act like I didn't know what they were talking about go to my room and laugh. I hope you can hang in there till you can go to college it's tough but just do what they do to you., It won't be so funny to them anymore.

Answer 5

you need to talk to a teacher at school, explain what is going on, a teacher that you get along with that you can relate to or a guidance counselor, because it seems to be escalating. It seems you parents are unwilling or unable to do anything about it. It also seems like your brothers resent your success and your brother coming into the bathroom sounds like he is trying to intimidate you.

Please go to a trusted adult at school and tell them you cannot take your home environment any longer, please do it tomorrow. If school is already out. look up social services in the government section of the phone book and contact them as soon as possible, and tell them you need help now. If something starts tonight call 911 and say your being assaulted in your home, God be with you

Answer 6

If it is that bad, i would ask a relative that lives close by, if you can move in with them.
Tell your parents that you want to accomplish something in life and you need your schooling to help you do this.
Let them know that until they are willing to help with your brothers actions, you will stay somewhere else.

Answer 7

get a small risk-free with a mix lock and placed all your issues in it once you're no longer homestead. nevertheless proceed to ask your mom to no longer sweep in there by using tension it motives the hamsters, or flow your hamsters to a different room.

Answer 8

you should get a laptop and keep it locked up.

Answer 9

go see the school counselor...