My brother lives with my parents. He has taken over two rooms in their house, doesn't pay bills except credit card, they spend thousands on him. He's allowed to curse at me and my kids and we usually leave crying. They can't even spend the night at their grandparents. My Dad tells my kids my brother is a grownup and deserves respect. haha. What about everyone else? My mom gave my son and old soccer sweatshirt from HS. "Moochie" whined that it was his and my Dad asked for the shirt off my sons back. Is this ok? My parents tell me "25" is the new "18". Help!
2007-06-05 15:02:53 · 14 answers · asked by Mrs.Aggie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My husband and I are together. This happens because we visit from 2000 miles away and the kids want to stay with them. It's ok because my husband has wonderful parents who keep us at their house. But it still sucks-I like to be with my mom, I miss her. The scary thing is they seem to want him there! They are 57 yrs old too. He does have a job -he gets to use the check for pocket money!
2007-06-05 15:23:04 · update #1
Your parents have a problem. Could be they don't want to be alone together; scary after having kids in the house for at least 25 years! Your parents do not see your brother as an adult. I wouldn't take my kids over there. If you need childcare, find someone else. Your parents are not finished raising your brother. (Who ought to be ashamed of himself.)
Don;t get sucked into the drama.
2007-06-05 15:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by M S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
25 the new 18? Whoa Nellie! This is not okay. First, your brother should respect whatever the house rules are, trouble is, your parents don't seem to have any for the boy. Ask your parents if they plan to change your brothers diapers until they are in the grave because they will be treated like that as long as they let it happen. Maybe your parents think they are actually helping him but they are enabling and disabling him.
2007-06-05 15:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ninny999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother in-law still lives at home with mommy and daddy too and he is 40 never been out on his own. He is an ars.. I will not let my children around the grandparents. As long as he is around durring a time I may want to visit I will not go to their house and stay.If he comes home early I will leave ASAP.. because this person is a very unhealthy person for my little ones to be around.
Instead invite the grandparents over to your house maybe once a week on the weekend make it a family day for you and them.... that way he wont be around and he was not invited..and you have more controlled over the situation...And just do not talk to your parents about him while they visit..Yes he is a mooch (and maybe he does drugs too).He is.Unsafe to bring your children and expose them to his vial temperament. Brothers are not all they are cracked up to be sometimes..Not everyone can be the brady bunch... k..
Blessings to you and yours..
2007-06-05 15:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by Sprinkles C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 25 may be the new 18 but that means your parents are at least 43. This is how they want to live, so just dont go around if this is how you are treated.
They will either get it together or miss out on your life, and on the lives of their grandkids. Its their loss.
If you are still with your kids father, maybe you can just focus on fitting into that family and doing things with them.
2007-06-05 15:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by ♨UFO♨ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really doesn't matter what you or anyone else thinks, your parents have chosen to enable him. However you do not have to put up with any of it. Your children and husband(you don't mention one but if you do, then this includes him) deserve better treatment. Tell your folks that you will not put your kids in an environment that you disapprove of and then invite them over to see the kids. Its up to your folks to do what they want with their kids and its up to you to do what you want with yours. Your parents aren't helping a grown man remain a child, but that's not any of your business. It sounds from reading this that you are jealous and there is nothing to be jealous about. You are a grown up, so take the high road and give your parents the choice of your house or not seeing the kids. The kids will survive not seeing their grandparents, so don't give in to your folks when they have a problem with your decision.
2007-06-05 15:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents certainly aren't doing him any good. He sounds rude and ungrateful. Those grand kids don't deserve to be around an ****** like that.
Talk to your mother and tell her you think the children need some protection from the mooch. If she refuses, call CPS if you think he's abusive to the kids, in any way. Good luck. I know you'll do the right thing.
2007-06-05 15:18:08 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your brother needs to grow up big time you need to talk to your parents and tell them most 25 years old are responsible and live on their own and have a job not mooch off their parents. 25 is not 18.
2007-06-05 15:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by katherinekimbrough 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes going to stay as long as they take care of him. I think they are being unfair to u and ur family.If ur parents stopped giving him money and insisted that he get a job and pay some bills he wouldn't stay he would go find someone else to mooch from. Hes a loser. show ur parents these answers.
2007-06-05 15:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its time to put some space between your mom and dad and your family. The problem isn't just your brother. Its your parents to. Let them come to your place if they want to see their grandchildren. Make sure they understand your brother is not invited. If they don't come then it's their loss.
2007-06-05 15:18:48 · answer #9 · answered by old-bald-one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so he should definetly pay for the expenses! Ny brother still lives w/ my mom & me, he's 24 but he pays for the bills. But if your brother curses at you and doesn't do anything then he should really get kicked out!
2007-06-05 15:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by rebeandphantom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋