They say I have a good voice to sing. One lady even told me that she was guided by the Holy Spirit to tell me to go and sing, and that it was meant to be.
Please, I am not bragging here, and love to sing, however, the person that teaches the choir is very rude, and mean. I've seen it, otherwise I would join. I don't tell anyone this, as I stay quiet. Your thoughts, please.
2007-06-05 14:51:18 · 10 answers · asked by DREENA 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i hear you and understand.... when people tell you that, thank them graciously and let them know you prefer to stay in the congregation and help guide others to sing along too! i've had people tell me that my singing encourages them to also participate more fully!! GOd gave you a gift - no matter where - use it where it's most fulfilling for you to give it back to Him!
2007-06-05 14:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by Marysia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what to tell you. You'll become very sarcastic and caustic towards your choir director if you don't get past the rudeness. Then you won't have fun doing what you love to do. If you can search out the reason the choir director seems rude...maybe he/she is just being firm to those members who would rather goof off instead of taking the time to really practice??
Here are some humorous advantages of being in the choir...
Because you wear a choir robe every Sunday, you are liberated from a task many find quite challenging: finding clothes that match properly.
From your special vantage point every Sunday, in which you look out at the entire congregation from the choir seats, you will develop interesting new hobbies. Among these is a little guessing game called "Who's Praying, Who's Sleeping?"
On the other hand, sitting in full view of 400-500 people on a weekly basis makes it much less likely that you yourself will give in to a chronic lack of sleep. Although it has been known to happen.
2007-06-05 22:01:03 · answer #2 · answered by bwlobo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My church choir gave a special concert last year in honor of Mozart's 250th birthday (we did his Coronation Mass). We hired a local conductor for this event - he is a nationally renown choral director (our regular choir director sang one of the solo parts) - to conduct the concert and to hold a clinic with us that weekend.
We worked with this guy for 3 hours on Friday night and 4 hours on Saturday and I have to say he was a real bastard. He pushed us and berated us until we were ready to collapse. I refered to him as Satan's younger brother. But he also taught us some amazing things. I learned more about choral singing that weekend than I did in my whole life. And at the end of the clinic he totally changed and became totally charming and compemented us profusely saying he wanted to see what we were really capable of doing and we surpased his expectations.
He gave us a wonderful speech about how we were amateur singers, but that the word amateur means someone who does something for the love of it and we should always remember that.
I also had a very demanding and tough band director in high school who we felt were torturing us but we also knew that we had a reputation as the best high school band in the entire state of new york and we were very proud of that.
I'm telling you this for a number of reasons. One, this choir director of yours may be a great teacher or he might not be. If he is demanding or rude but can teach you a lot it might be worth it for the sake of the music you achieve. If you don't want that intense of an experience or if you dont think he is that good, then it probably won't be worth it.
Also, he might seem mean and rude from the outside, but once you are in the choir you might come to appreciate him and see he is really just demanding.
I think the only way to find out is to try it out. It's not like you'll have to sign a contract that you can't get out of. If you get something out of it you can stay, and if you don't like it you can quit.
2007-06-05 22:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough situation to be in. On one hand you have been given a gift that people around you want to "hear" you use. But on the other hand you don't feel comfortable with situation in which to use it. You have to do what you feel the Lord is leading you to do. I am constatly inundated with requests to play this song or that song, and have people tell me how much it means to them when I play, but the bottom line is, I can only play a song when I feel it's right to play it. I have tried to do the what everybody else wants and it usually comes of uninspired. Pray about. Maybe try it out. Or come up with a great line like "Thank you. I'm glad you enjoy listening to me sing, but I just don't feel like God is leading me to join the choir at this time."
From a directors point of view - I see people evey week that could join our group and make us instantly better, but for what ever reason, they always have something else to do, or some other reason not to join. I have come to stand firm in the belief that God puts people where he wants them and if my group is where they need to be, then he'll lead them there. If not I believe that he amply equips those who are to accomplish the task that he needs completed.
You have to pray and ask for guidance and be open to follow, even if it isn't right where you want to go.
2007-06-05 22:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by Scooter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider their encouragement as a way of making you feel welcome to join and the choir and be a more central part of the church. An invitation doesn't mean that you should feel obligated to join. Accept their compliments gracefully. If you have questions as to if you are being guided to join the choir- then pray about it.
Is the Lord calling you to join the choir because you have gifts of reconciliation that could be helpful to the choir.
2007-06-05 22:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by keezy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter's choir teacher was also mean to her students. my daughters love of singing was stronger than her fear of the overbearing teacher. She enjoyed her time in the choir and even got to go to Florida's Disney World to sing in the Christmas program. However in a church you would think that a Christian person wouldn't have that attitude. Maybe you could ask the minister to talk to them. I am sure others have seen her attitude also.
2007-06-05 21:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by bramblerock 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can talk to others in the Church and come up with an answer on what to do.
Or and you can go and speak with that person, and ask what he or she thought about if you were to join the Choir, just to get a feel on how he feels about you, perhaps he or she is to serious about their job and needs to lighting up.... it would be nice if that person would act and treat others as Jesus would, being considerate about others feelings.
Perhaps you can do a solo:)
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2007-06-05 22:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by inteleyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If singing is what you love to do, then do it. Just remember why you are singing; to glorify the Lord. I've had similar experiences with our worship leader, and I've made it through. You are singing for God, not your choir director. Do not let him get to you. Pray for him, and hope that God changes his heart.
2007-06-05 22:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by mekelbee04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you don't get along with her do not join the choir. If she asks you then tell her you do not get along with her and then just let it drop.
2007-06-05 21:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by Midge 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd join it, but i can't sing. Don't let that douchbag sway you from what you wanna do. If he/she bothers you that much, than just don't do it, it's not worth the stress.
2007-06-05 21:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋