I am going through the a lot with my grandfather and his illness of luekemia. They are unsure if he will even make it through the weekend. I am also dealing with my brother-in-laws mom that died yesterday. I also found out today that my aunt has kidney cancer. They are unsure how bad it is, but they told her that it does not look very good cuz of her age. She raised my dad and I am very close with her. Her son-in-law has it cancer of the kidneys too. Why are so many people around me ill.
I have really bad anxiety, high blood pressure and depression and I am a big family person.I CANT DEAL WITH THIS!!! Please help!!
2007-06-05 14:38:53 · 11 answers · asked by Megan Michelle 4 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
ilyarus2004 YOU ARE A JERK!!!
For the people that care... I am 22 with 2 kids. I know I seem older but I have a hard time dealing with stress and really with death. I have never gotten over my grandmother dying when I was 9. That is why I need help. I try talking to people, but then they tell me something about another one of my family members being ill. THen I feel worse and cant stop thinking about them.
2007-06-05 14:50:13 · update #1
I feel like the stress never ends. THis time last year I found out I was prego, the same week I lost my job and wrecked my car. When I was prego I was put on bedrest real early on becasue I was soo sick. THat was just the begining. It seems like I seek illness, when really my family is just filled of it. I dont know if I am making any sense, and another thing my mother has been really ill too. And my dad has just been diagnosed with HBP and High cholestrol. I am scared I will lose one of them too because of this.
2007-06-05 15:01:53 · update #2
What a lot to deal with! Why does it seem that sometimes everything gets dumped on us at once? It's going to be hard for any of us on Y!A to tell you what to do. It sounds like you need to set aside some time for yourself. Figure out what calms or relaxes you and make sure you set aside some time to do it, so that you can restore your batteries a bit, rejuvenate. It'll be difficult for you to be of any help to others unless you take care of yourself. too. Since family is so important to you, you might consider finding someone to talk to until some of the health issues are resolved -- a therapist perhaps. It appears you haven't been on Y!A very long, but you'll figure out soon (if you haven't already) that people get to know other participants and they care about them. That's comforting. I'd also seek out people who are close to you and in close proximity, and let them give you some support. I'd also consider getting some medication for your anxiety, blood pressure, and depression. Those are tough conditions to deal with and will affect your health, which also affects your ability to help those you love. I think the bottom line is that you need to get some help for yourself so that you can help others. Please let us know how you're doing . I'm sure we all wish you the best.
2007-06-05 14:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In such cases, age does not matter, it is the attachment to people that causes this anguish. Emotional stress takes a large toll on health. I know it is very easy for me to ask you to stay calm, but you must atleast for your own health. Try to think in this way, we are all born to go some time or the other, cheer up, cheer those who are ill. At least they will feel relaxed. Many times I have found that all the family members of just one family are on the death bed.
We do have to take life as it comes. Do not feel depressed. It is difficult to live with depression.
You said you have 2 kids, just think about them. If you fall sick and depressed and have high blood pressure, who is going to look after them? You should be courageous.
I personally feel counsellors will only advise you or prescribe any anti-depressant pills. These medicines are harmful. Whatever counselling you do will not have much effect since you have tensions at the back of your mind. An herculean effort alone will bring you back to normal.
TRY IT - YOU CAN DO IT.
Take Rescue Remedy mother tincture 2 drops on the tongue twice a day for a month. You will feel relaxed and better.
GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR NEAR AND DEAR ONES
2007-06-05 14:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by amembal4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for what you and members of your family are going through. Sometimes in life we feel overwhelmed. I can tell you are a caring person who loves the people in your family.
But the illnesses do raise the question about whether there is an environmental problem where you live. Are other families in the area experiencing similar illnesses? Think about that and talk with others in your community to try to find out.
2007-06-05 15:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by Pascha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that comes to my mind is what is your environment like? Do you live near a toxic dump? Are you buying good healthy foods?
Dispite that, you are going through a really awful time and I do feel for you!!! Hang in there.....maybe the dr can prescribe you some xanax to calm down. Pray Pray Pray to the Lord, Jesus Christ for wisdom, strength and hope. It's going to be rough for a while but things will get better soon!! HUGS!!!!!!
2007-06-05 14:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too am dealing with alot lately, I won't go into detail but when you begin this life, it is a certain fact that you will die. It is heartbreaking, and it is supposed to be. But you can deal with it because you have no choice. I have lost people dear to me, like my parents, and now my sister is ill, but its just a fact of life. I have lost, but I have also gained, I have a wonderful family, children and grandchildren. You have to remember the ones you had and cherish the ones you have. Good Luck, and be strong.
2007-06-05 14:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by jdnsmama13 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go to a friend and just talk it out. dont keep it all in or else u'll fall into a depression. Just know that this is life and that we all have to go thru something difficult in our lives. Dont give up hope, ok?
i'd say tend to their need if u can and if it does seem like they have a short time to live, cherish it with them for whatever time is left.
good luck.
2007-06-05 14:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Megan I'll be praying 4 u and your family I know what your going through because I 've went through it
and it's only by the prayers and God that got me through it
2007-06-05 14:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by Darla H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG. i lost two close people to me and i am now sick to. i am 16 and i fell very bad for you. you need to be with family and pray and i really hope they get better. i think your aunt will be fine. you need to talk with you doctor and brace yourself?. this is bad for the body.
2007-06-05 14:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by michael f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh jesus, go talk to a counseller. No-one on here can help you deal with this much pressure.
2007-06-05 14:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby...I am sure it will be better soon...
How old are you ?
Try to smile....sometimes...you depressed your blood pressure is worse...you can write to me...if it makes you feel better...
Be well
2007-06-05 14:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by marynia1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋